1 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:09,530 Coming to you from Crows Nest Studios in the upper 2 00:00:09,530 --> 00:00:14,210 room. We are two brothers from the DMV 3 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:20,370 that's gonna give you food for thought with our topics being 4 00:00:20,970 --> 00:00:21,803 advertisers. 5 00:00:54,050 --> 00:00:58,300 My brother, my brother, man. How you doing, man? 6 00:00:59,330 --> 00:01:02,680 Feeling good, bro. Feeling good. Good. Feeling good tonight? 7 00:01:02,710 --> 00:01:05,760 Good. I am too, man. I'm glad to be back with you, man. 8 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:08,640 Glad to be back with you. Yes. This is Ray Beats. 9 00:01:08,990 --> 00:01:10,200 This is Reggie White. 10 00:01:10,780 --> 00:01:14,240 And we are here giving you something called Order Up, 11 00:01:14,290 --> 00:01:18,000 as I did in the intro, as you know. Um, 12 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:23,200 we're gonna start out, uh, our, our, 13 00:01:23,300 --> 00:01:27,920 our appetizer and, um, generally we would do a current event. 14 00:01:28,410 --> 00:01:31,760 Um, and what's really been current is the season that we, 15 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:35,760 our families has been in. Um, and, um, 16 00:01:35,850 --> 00:01:39,640 we had losses of our bros, both of us lost two of our bros, 17 00:01:40,530 --> 00:01:43,640 uh, in our family over the last month. 18 00:01:45,410 --> 00:01:49,590 And we had back to back services over the last two weeks. Right, Reggie? 19 00:01:50,090 --> 00:01:51,830 Yep. Yep. Back to back. 20 00:01:51,830 --> 00:01:55,350 Bro. Yeah. So we've been dealing each with a week of, 21 00:01:55,480 --> 00:02:00,150 of grieving and mourning and celebration of life and everything that goes with 22 00:02:00,150 --> 00:02:04,000 it. And, uh, you, um, 23 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:07,930 just to give a little legacy on both of our roles, 24 00:02:07,930 --> 00:02:11,450 I'm gonna let Reggie talk about his briefly, and I'm gonna talk about mine, 25 00:02:11,450 --> 00:02:15,130 but I'm gonna play some music in the background, 26 00:02:15,130 --> 00:02:18,850 some Gogo music in the background, cuz where we from? Where we from? Reggie. 27 00:02:20,290 --> 00:02:21,123 . 28 00:02:21,350 --> 00:02:24,810 And, uh, this is, this is, this is, this hasn't been, 29 00:02:24,810 --> 00:02:28,650 this is circa 1983 Wow. 30 00:02:28,650 --> 00:02:33,490 From Player's Choice Banding show, which is who I know. Um, Okay. 31 00:02:33,710 --> 00:02:38,010 And, uh, a group that I used to be a part of, um, Wow. 32 00:02:38,150 --> 00:02:39,650 And we were reminiscing. 33 00:02:39,650 --> 00:02:43,370 The Fells got together this weekend and we were reminiscing. Um, 34 00:02:43,370 --> 00:02:44,850 and they brought over some tapes. 35 00:02:44,850 --> 00:02:47,090 So we're just starting to digitize that actually. 36 00:02:47,470 --> 00:02:50,970 And we be putting out a YouTube channel to, uh, 37 00:02:51,090 --> 00:02:52,570 honor the group. 38 00:02:52,750 --> 00:02:57,250 And because there's not a lot of music out there that we did either, 39 00:02:57,430 --> 00:03:02,120 cuz there was two versions of the, um, the group started in 1983 and, 40 00:03:02,130 --> 00:03:07,040 uh, it, um, it, it, it, uh, 41 00:03:07,610 --> 00:03:08,800 evolved over the years. 42 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:12,640 Band members came and went and they went through the nineties. So it, 43 00:03:12,640 --> 00:03:15,000 it probably had a 10 to 15 year run. 44 00:03:16,820 --> 00:03:20,160 And we opened, we opened for 45 00:03:21,860 --> 00:03:25,440 all over the Mid-Atlantic, all over the Mid-Atlantic. 46 00:03:25,450 --> 00:03:29,720 We opened for groups like n e g Essence 47 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:35,280 eu, uh, and we, uh, 48 00:03:35,300 --> 00:03:37,440 and we headlined as well. Um, 49 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:41,480 we played at LinkedIn University cuz our Congo player Rumple still skin, 50 00:03:42,170 --> 00:03:44,360 uh, was, uh, 51 00:03:44,710 --> 00:03:48,800 attended Lincoln University and had it on lock with the Kki crew drinking that 52 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:53,880 Kmart liquor, uh, uh, back in the day before biz began. 53 00:03:54,450 --> 00:03:59,160 Um, and, uh, so, uh, 54 00:03:59,530 --> 00:04:02,160 go ahead, uh, Reg, and you can talk about your bro first, 55 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:04,360 and then I do a little tricky to mine. 56 00:04:05,060 --> 00:04:09,320 Yes, sir. Man, my bro, Andre Ross, aka Bird Man. 57 00:04:10,270 --> 00:04:14,720 That was my bro. We go back about 30 years. 58 00:04:15,410 --> 00:04:18,920 Um, and I actually, uh, met him on, 59 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:23,880 he was on the inside when I met him. He's, um, he's a brother of, 60 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:28,520 um, my oldest daughter's mother. And, uh, 61 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:32,880 when I met him, I heard about a thousand stories about him, um, 62 00:04:32,950 --> 00:04:36,040 from them being on the streets. Right. Uh, 63 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:40,000 but I chose not to prejudge him by those incidents. 64 00:04:40,590 --> 00:04:44,320 I just, I judged him based off of him and our personal interaction. 65 00:04:45,060 --> 00:04:48,840 And I felt on the streets. He was known as Bird man. But I felt, 66 00:04:48,840 --> 00:04:52,720 when I met him on the inside, I felt I met Andre Ross. And, uh, 67 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:57,120 Andre Ross was a wonderful brother. He was a loving brother. 68 00:04:58,320 --> 00:04:58,880 Loved. 69 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:02,920 His family. Above all, God's current fearing brother, love Jesus, 70 00:05:03,200 --> 00:05:06,440 would go to church, go to Bible study, um, 71 00:05:06,970 --> 00:05:11,560 he would send inspirational text messages to his family and friends 72 00:05:11,870 --> 00:05:15,520 messages. We will wake up in the morning and we may see a touch. 73 00:05:15,710 --> 00:05:19,440 I would see like a text message that may say something like, Good morning, grow. 74 00:05:20,140 --> 00:05:21,840 God bless you and your family. 75 00:05:22,190 --> 00:05:26,920 I pray that the Lord will bless you to have a great day. Um, 76 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:31,160 God continue to protect you, keep you, watch over you and your family. 77 00:05:31,990 --> 00:05:35,920 I love you so much. Yo bro, Andre Ross. 78 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:40,840 And I would wake up almost every day with text messages like that 79 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:44,680 and what would cause like that. And, you know, we, 80 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:48,600 we had good fellowship, wonderful fellowship. Um, 81 00:05:49,310 --> 00:05:52,040 I think he loved and appreciate me. He was older than me, 82 00:05:52,540 --> 00:05:57,040 but he would call me big bro. Okay. And, um, and in a, 83 00:05:57,080 --> 00:06:01,720 a lot of ways he will make it seem like he benefited from the relationship 84 00:06:02,110 --> 00:06:05,640 just because, you know, my professional, 85 00:06:07,060 --> 00:06:10,770 um, career and, and I guess my, 86 00:06:11,980 --> 00:06:16,450 um, my maturity in Christ and things of that nature. But I told, 87 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:20,770 I would always remind him, uh, the relationship was not one sided. 88 00:06:20,770 --> 00:06:23,770 It I benefited just as much as he did. I, 89 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:28,770 I knew every single day somebody was praying for me. Right. Um, 90 00:06:28,770 --> 00:06:33,650 that supersedes somebody that can give me money or all of the other things 91 00:06:33,980 --> 00:06:36,130 because, um, 92 00:06:36,660 --> 00:06:40,210 he may not have been able to contribute to me monetarily, 93 00:06:40,430 --> 00:06:44,730 but he contributed to me in so many ways that was much greater than 94 00:06:45,570 --> 00:06:49,010 money or anything of that nature. You know what I mean? Um. 95 00:06:49,060 --> 00:06:49,893 Oh, absolutely. 96 00:06:49,990 --> 00:06:53,610 And so, um, a wonderful brother, um, 97 00:06:53,860 --> 00:06:56,970 ideally dearly miss him. I still have his number, 98 00:06:57,170 --> 00:07:00,690 my favorites mm-hmm. . So every time I pull up my favorites, 99 00:07:00,690 --> 00:07:05,410 I see his name. Right. Um, but, um, I believe, 100 00:07:05,950 --> 00:07:09,370 you know, I I I will believe that he's with the Lord. 101 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:14,330 I believe he's in a better penalty release. Um, and so that gives some comfort. 102 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:18,730 Yeah. I totally get it. I had a little technical difficulties and we might, 103 00:07:19,210 --> 00:07:24,130 There it is. And, uh, 104 00:07:24,190 --> 00:07:27,010 I'm just addressing it again. Mm-hmm. . 105 00:07:27,180 --> 00:07:31,970 So I re I I I started it off in, uh, another, another application. 106 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:35,930 Okay. But yeah. So did you have something else you wanted to say? 107 00:07:37,140 --> 00:07:40,250 Oh man. Just good brother. Yeah. Um, 108 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:44,210 a lot of people came out to support his funeral to the point they needed an 109 00:07:44,210 --> 00:07:45,000 overflow room. 110 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:46,090 That's a blessing. So. 111 00:07:46,090 --> 00:07:46,450 He, he. 112 00:07:46,450 --> 00:07:47,610 He touched some lives. 113 00:07:47,880 --> 00:07:49,410 Yeah. Yeah. We had an impact. 114 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:54,730 Yeah. Um, the brother that, uh, 115 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:58,330 that I lost his branding, Marcella's Ward, 116 00:08:01,420 --> 00:08:06,090 uh, his first nickname probably was BMW for his acronym of his name. 117 00:08:06,090 --> 00:08:11,090 But, uh, that's him talking in the background on this Golo tape. 118 00:08:11,820 --> 00:08:15,570 Um, and we called him Eight Ball. Um, 119 00:08:16,900 --> 00:08:21,370 he was, uh, he was, he was a younger brother. He was, he was, 120 00:08:21,370 --> 00:08:25,690 he was the baby, baby of the crew. And, uh, but 121 00:08:27,190 --> 00:08:31,930 you know, he, his big head was big in stature, man, , um, 122 00:08:32,140 --> 00:08:36,730 he was a ride or die, whatever you asked of him, 123 00:08:37,540 --> 00:08:42,330 he would give, he had a infectious smile and, 124 00:08:43,340 --> 00:08:44,173 uh, uh, 125 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:49,730 a wit about him that would light up a 126 00:08:49,730 --> 00:08:53,810 room. Wow. That wit was so quick. And, 127 00:08:54,630 --> 00:08:57,880 you know, I, I, I had a temper. 128 00:08:59,410 --> 00:09:00,243 Um. 129 00:09:00,780 --> 00:09:03,480 And one of my. 130 00:09:04,610 --> 00:09:05,443 Uh. 131 00:09:06,680 --> 00:09:10,960 Nicknames by default cuz of my temper, cuz I would always start the fights. 132 00:09:11,690 --> 00:09:12,523 Uh. 133 00:09:12,940 --> 00:09:14,080 Was incredible hope. 134 00:09:15,260 --> 00:09:18,960 And even though I was small and wore glasses, like, uh, 135 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:20,560 Bruce Banner , 136 00:09:21,220 --> 00:09:25,240 you ain't wanna see that other dude from eighth and H Northeast. You. 137 00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:26,600 Didn't want, they ain't wanna see the green. 138 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:27,760 Guy. They ain't wanna see the. 139 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:28,593 Green guy. 140 00:09:30,610 --> 00:09:34,600 My wife calls me big guy. We got that running in joke. Um, 141 00:09:34,900 --> 00:09:36,680 and I've got, uh, I've got, um, 142 00:09:37,830 --> 00:09:42,400 I've got incredible halt pictures, paintings, 143 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:46,640 posters all over, you know, my studio and, and my part of the house, 144 00:09:47,170 --> 00:09:48,680 uh, it's decorated, you know, 145 00:09:48,680 --> 00:09:53,560 part of the La Marvel comics and the majority of them incredible halt. But, 146 00:09:53,560 --> 00:09:54,370 uh, 147 00:09:54,370 --> 00:09:59,280 Brandon had a way of diffusing me. 148 00:10:00,170 --> 00:10:04,960 Um, and he was just an engaging person. Right. 149 00:10:05,740 --> 00:10:10,600 And, you know, I was joking with his kids at the, 150 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:14,520 at the Repa. Um, I was like, you know, if your dad saw you in that outfit, 151 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:17,680 he'd be saying, You look, somebody get you Dan Silky Slim right there, Baby. 152 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:19,433 . 153 00:10:20,210 --> 00:10:22,320 He come quick with stuff like that, you know. 154 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:23,420 . 155 00:10:23,420 --> 00:10:25,360 And, uh, good brother, 156 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:30,680 dedicated father and husband and friend, 157 00:10:31,410 --> 00:10:35,200 Um, to the end. To the end. So I'm, 158 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:39,880 I'm so grateful that he was in my life. 159 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:44,240 And I'm sure you the same way about, about Ross, you know? Yeah. 160 00:10:44,310 --> 00:10:46,920 That we are better because of them. 161 00:10:47,350 --> 00:10:48,200 Absolutely. 162 00:10:48,200 --> 00:10:50,960 You know, and they are 163 00:10:52,810 --> 00:10:57,720 in that brief moment before eternity 164 00:10:57,850 --> 00:10:59,120 at resting at peace. 165 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:00,320 Right. 166 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:01,280 Right. Um, 167 00:11:03,230 --> 00:11:07,760 I liken it to the fact that when you, 168 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:10,880 when you are in a deep sleep, I mean, 169 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:14,040 one of them good sleeps when you wake up and you don't know what time of day it 170 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:19,000 is, where you at, that's where they at right now. 171 00:11:19,090 --> 00:11:20,040 In perfect peace. 172 00:11:21,050 --> 00:11:22,120 Perfect peace. 173 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:27,000 Perfect peace. Because both of them brothers, even though they had a past. 174 00:11:27,950 --> 00:11:28,600 Mm-hmm. 175 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:30,160 , their future was in Jesus. 176 00:11:30,790 --> 00:11:31,840 Yeah. Brothers. 177 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:35,200 Yes, indeed. And, um, y'all gotta understand, 178 00:11:35,310 --> 00:11:36,920 this thing is real here. 179 00:11:37,940 --> 00:11:41,360 You only got so many times to go around this sun, 180 00:11:43,140 --> 00:11:46,840 and it ain't all about chuckles and fun. 181 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:48,400 Sometimes it's gonna be hard. 182 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:54,080 Sometimes there's gonna be pain and sorrow because the 183 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:56,520 cup that we drink from is bitter. 184 00:11:57,150 --> 00:11:57,710 Yeah. 185 00:11:57,710 --> 00:12:00,720 Yeah. It's bitter dog. And, um, 186 00:12:01,860 --> 00:12:06,000 but the beauty of it all, the beauty of it all is, 187 00:12:07,860 --> 00:12:09,280 you know, the creative said, 188 00:12:10,630 --> 00:12:13,280 I ain't going for safety and I'll be with you always, 189 00:12:13,470 --> 00:12:16,320 even until the end and after the end. 190 00:12:16,790 --> 00:12:17,623 That's right. 191 00:12:17,940 --> 00:12:22,360 And we are morning and we are in pain. 192 00:12:23,740 --> 00:12:28,560 But I take solace in the fact that the last conversation that I had 193 00:12:28,560 --> 00:12:33,400 with a was right around that subject that 194 00:12:33,510 --> 00:12:36,720 I was like, Bro, even if I don't see you again. 195 00:12:37,270 --> 00:12:38,103 Mm-hmm. . 196 00:12:38,460 --> 00:12:42,680 But you know how much I love you, who loves you more. 197 00:12:43,720 --> 00:12:44,553 Right. 198 00:12:44,950 --> 00:12:48,080 Lean into him. And he acknowledged, 199 00:12:48,170 --> 00:12:52,760 he acknowledged his faith in Christ 200 00:12:52,970 --> 00:12:56,920 in his last days. And he, he, 201 00:12:57,050 --> 00:13:00,800 he stepped to it. Yeah. And as a true soldier, 202 00:13:01,580 --> 00:13:02,120 you know, 203 00:13:02,120 --> 00:13:05,400 we call each other soldiers because of what we went through on these streets, 204 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:10,240 but he was a true soldier man. And fighting the good fighting. 205 00:13:10,790 --> 00:13:12,000 Yeah. Yeah. 206 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:15,680 Where in my heart of hearts, 207 00:13:16,550 --> 00:13:19,760 I feel unequivocally without a doubt, 208 00:13:20,710 --> 00:13:24,840 he's going to hear well done. And, you know, well done. 209 00:13:24,840 --> 00:13:28,480 My good and faithful servant when, when the time comes. 210 00:13:29,140 --> 00:13:29,910 Man. 211 00:13:29,910 --> 00:13:32,840 I just hope that we get it right. 212 00:13:33,270 --> 00:13:34,103 That's right. 213 00:13:34,330 --> 00:13:36,400 So we can be on that side with That's. 214 00:13:36,400 --> 00:13:37,400 The goal. That's the. 215 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:41,400 Goal what I'm saying. Because his grace is sufficient if we allow it to be. 216 00:13:42,140 --> 00:13:45,280 And it's every day, folks, it's every day. You gotta die daily. 217 00:13:45,950 --> 00:13:46,750 That's right. 218 00:13:46,750 --> 00:13:51,240 Know. And, uh, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm, 219 00:13:52,020 --> 00:13:56,560 I'm, I'm pleased that we have these memories, 220 00:13:56,560 --> 00:14:00,680 this music, his legacy. He has beautiful children. 221 00:14:01,420 --> 00:14:04,320 His, his youngest was over here with me yesterday, 222 00:14:04,910 --> 00:14:08,880 whipping my butt in Nintendo , uh, uh, 223 00:14:09,010 --> 00:14:13,920 on the switch we playing Mario cart. Um, he loves Mario, 224 00:14:14,100 --> 00:14:17,000 you know, and, uh, you know, 225 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,600 he was just having a ball and, uh. 226 00:14:20,040 --> 00:14:21,160 Mario card. 227 00:14:21,160 --> 00:14:25,640 Okay. Mario. It was Super Mario. Super Mario. Or one of Mario Card, 228 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:30,120 Super Mario card. But it was all of Mario. So, you know, 229 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:33,400 I got all that stuff here in the house for the grandkids. I don't play it, but, 230 00:14:33,540 --> 00:14:35,200 you know, I know that he loved it. 231 00:14:35,890 --> 00:14:38,600 So I made sure that it was up to date with the latest games. 232 00:14:38,700 --> 00:14:40,560 And we sat over here for about three, 233 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:42,960 four hours and just sat there and played games, man. 234 00:14:43,310 --> 00:14:43,960 Mm-hmm. 235 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:47,520 . Cause that's what it's about. Yeah. Showing unconditional, 236 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:49,920 unequivocal love. When you have the opportunity, 237 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:51,800 give people the flowers why they're here. 238 00:14:52,500 --> 00:14:54,640 Why they here, why they here believe in that. 239 00:14:54,980 --> 00:14:57,280 Hey, hey, listen to my main rumble still right here. 240 00:15:10,050 --> 00:15:10,883 On. 241 00:15:14,950 --> 00:15:17,080 That's my boy ball bringing it. All. 242 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:18,240 Right. All right. Now. 243 00:15:20,750 --> 00:15:24,200 Yeah, man. So, yeah, like I said, you know, 244 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:28,800 libations and honor and praise to them brothers. Yeah. 245 00:15:29,410 --> 00:15:30,960 Resting peace, our brothers. 246 00:15:30,960 --> 00:15:32,400 Rest in peace, our brothers. 247 00:15:35,660 --> 00:15:37,950 That's, uh, your advertiser for today. 248 00:15:38,940 --> 00:15:39,430 It's. 249 00:15:39,430 --> 00:15:41,950 Tough. Now. It's a, it's a great segue 250 00:15:43,490 --> 00:15:47,360 because there's lessons in everything. And what we've learned 251 00:15:49,150 --> 00:15:52,820 as parents and 252 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:57,950 in this life is that parenting is 253 00:15:59,870 --> 00:16:02,740 an awesome, exhilarating, 254 00:16:04,900 --> 00:16:08,820 frightening, everlasting. 255 00:16:08,820 --> 00:16:10,420 You got some more adjectives for me. 256 00:16:10,980 --> 00:16:11,813 . 257 00:16:13,030 --> 00:16:14,660 Uh, uh, uh. 258 00:16:15,890 --> 00:16:19,860 It's a dichotomy with, with parenting because it's bitter, it's sweet. Mm-hmm. 259 00:16:19,860 --> 00:16:21,540 It's good. There's bad, there's, 260 00:16:22,820 --> 00:16:26,070 it's a lot of size and aspects and dimensions. 261 00:16:27,780 --> 00:16:31,720 And, and some folks say there's so many layers Yeah. 262 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:34,040 In the dimensions mm-hmm. , um. 263 00:16:35,150 --> 00:16:37,380 Because it goes through phases too. Mm-hmm. . 264 00:16:37,380 --> 00:16:40,420 Parenting goes experience. It's the, it's, 265 00:16:42,050 --> 00:16:46,990 I don't know. Even though I have memories, 266 00:16:46,990 --> 00:16:50,990 like I said, all his memories with the fellas and growing up and stuff, 267 00:16:53,130 --> 00:16:57,700 I don't know if I had, 268 00:16:58,570 --> 00:17:01,320 if I've ever experienced as much joy 269 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:08,600 in my life as the whole spectrum of being a parent. 270 00:17:11,580 --> 00:17:12,440 You know what I mean? 271 00:17:12,950 --> 00:17:17,360 Yeah. I mean, the depths, I know when I became a parent, 272 00:17:17,870 --> 00:17:22,760 I understood a depth of love that I didn't know existed 273 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:23,800 prior. Yeah. 274 00:17:24,710 --> 00:17:28,920 Yeah. You know, and you, 275 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:31,480 you start getting on that level of agape, 276 00:17:32,330 --> 00:17:36,790 you really have an understanding of what agape 277 00:17:37,140 --> 00:17:42,080 love is when you become a parent. That, that, that 278 00:17:45,120 --> 00:17:49,280 unwavering, I'm gonna make up a word here. 279 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:51,040 Sacrificial . 280 00:17:52,320 --> 00:17:52,720 Sacrificial. 281 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:55,200 Yeah. Sacrificial. Yeah. Uh, uh, 282 00:17:56,610 --> 00:18:00,990 put it on the back burner at all costs type of love 283 00:18:01,580 --> 00:18:06,020 mm-hmm. , um, that you have when you're a parent. 284 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:08,740 And, um, 285 00:18:12,030 --> 00:18:16,500 we're going to enter a series, um, 286 00:18:17,180 --> 00:18:21,600 over the next several weeks with an author and 287 00:18:22,070 --> 00:18:24,450 a, uh, 288 00:18:25,710 --> 00:18:29,460 subject matter expert on parenting. 289 00:18:30,670 --> 00:18:34,430 Um, but today I want to speak from 290 00:18:36,570 --> 00:18:41,190 the male side of the parenting experience. Not only, you know, 291 00:18:41,190 --> 00:18:45,310 from a macho standpoint, but just we're fathers. I can't speak as a mother, 292 00:18:45,730 --> 00:18:48,110 you know? Right. And a mother can't speak as a father. 293 00:18:48,520 --> 00:18:52,870 So all you women out there that, that say how my father and a mother. 294 00:18:52,870 --> 00:18:53,750 And a mother, Right. 295 00:18:53,750 --> 00:18:55,710 That's bullshit. Right. You're a mother. 296 00:18:56,270 --> 00:18:59,430 . Right. When you, when you speak as a father, 297 00:18:59,430 --> 00:19:03,710 you are only doing it philosophically. You're not doing it by experience. Right. 298 00:19:03,710 --> 00:19:04,543 Because you're not. 299 00:19:05,410 --> 00:19:05,830 You. 300 00:19:05,830 --> 00:19:09,390 Just vice, like you said, we, we couldn't speak as. 301 00:19:09,390 --> 00:19:10,310 Mothers. And I would, 302 00:19:10,310 --> 00:19:14,870 I would never open my mouth to say something of that nature, 303 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:19,710 um mm-hmm. , but that's just how I'm cut. And what we say, 304 00:19:19,710 --> 00:19:22,910 we gonna offend some people. Right. We gonna offend some males. 305 00:19:22,910 --> 00:19:25,670 We're gonna offend some female. We're gonna offend some people that straight, 306 00:19:25,670 --> 00:19:28,950 we're gonna offend some people that's gay. We're gonna offend some Republicans. 307 00:19:28,950 --> 00:19:29,110 We. 308 00:19:29,110 --> 00:19:32,830 Offend some Democrats, Republicans, greats. Yeah. Church. Church. 309 00:19:32,830 --> 00:19:37,310 Non non-church. I just, everybody, I just know that 310 00:19:39,070 --> 00:19:41,410 the man and in the black community, 311 00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:47,120 the strength of a father and speaking from the parental, 312 00:19:48,430 --> 00:19:52,430 uh, mantle of fatherhood mm-hmm. , 313 00:19:52,430 --> 00:19:53,870 which is the greatest honor. 314 00:19:54,850 --> 00:19:55,683 Yes. 315 00:19:56,210 --> 00:20:00,580 That can be dispo, be be bestowed upon any man. 316 00:20:01,130 --> 00:20:01,963 That's right. 317 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:07,360 And any man that takes that for granted and makes babies for 318 00:20:07,360 --> 00:20:09,640 the sake of making babies. Right. 319 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:14,200 And not being the understanding the fullness that 320 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:17,280 we're gonna get into in this series with Dr. 321 00:20:17,390 --> 00:20:21,400 Boel on your responsibility. 322 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:23,033 Right. 323 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:25,750 As parenting. Yeah. 324 00:20:25,750 --> 00:20:27,350 Right. I got something. Again, 325 00:20:27,350 --> 00:20:30,310 this may may not rub people something the right way. 326 00:20:30,380 --> 00:20:35,240 I don't even remember the link I sent you. But this, um, this, 327 00:20:35,370 --> 00:20:39,730 uh, this lady said, and I thought it was very profound. 328 00:20:39,990 --> 00:20:40,823 She says, 329 00:20:40,850 --> 00:20:45,110 The African American family is the only 330 00:20:45,700 --> 00:20:50,680 ethnic group that doesn't acknowledge the man as the backbone of 331 00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:55,680 the family. African Americans say women are the backbone of the family. 332 00:20:56,580 --> 00:21:01,150 And and we're the only ethnic group that, that, that does that. 333 00:21:01,820 --> 00:21:03,870 That approaches the matriarchal, that. 334 00:21:03,990 --> 00:21:04,823 Approaches. Yeah. 335 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:10,550 There's a lot that can be said about that . 336 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:13,630 There's a whole lot that can be said about that. 337 00:21:14,290 --> 00:21:19,190 And that's post circuit 1960 when the social programs ripped 338 00:21:19,190 --> 00:21:22,990 the black man out of the home. Probably, you know, let's start with, 339 00:21:22,990 --> 00:21:27,510 let's start with that utopia theory and social social science experiment. 340 00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:30,830 Um, that was on the heels. And, uh, uh, 341 00:21:31,070 --> 00:21:34,470 based on the foundation of the Willie Lynch, uh, 342 00:21:34,470 --> 00:21:37,310 letter in manifesto, um, 343 00:21:39,820 --> 00:21:44,760 the man has a divine purpose in the 344 00:21:44,760 --> 00:21:49,530 family unit as a parent and as the 345 00:21:49,530 --> 00:21:52,970 yes priest. Mm-hmm. 346 00:21:53,010 --> 00:21:54,770 of the family unit and home. 347 00:21:55,540 --> 00:21:56,373 Mm-hmm. . 348 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:01,420 And us who understand the gospel, 349 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:07,370 the Quran, the, uh, 350 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:09,673 uh. 351 00:22:09,740 --> 00:22:13,150 Well, let me give you a science one for those who, for the, 352 00:22:13,450 --> 00:22:15,430 for the non-faith folks, 353 00:22:16,870 --> 00:22:20,510 every person on the face of this planet takes the DNA from who. 354 00:22:21,890 --> 00:22:22,723 The father. 355 00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:24,793 From who? 356 00:22:25,810 --> 00:22:29,910 The male the father. Mm. The male parent. 357 00:22:32,130 --> 00:22:37,110 And Yeah. You know, it's diminished to the point where they say sperm on it. 358 00:22:37,110 --> 00:22:39,310 Right. . Um. 359 00:22:40,420 --> 00:22:41,150 Well, you know, 360 00:22:41,150 --> 00:22:45,270 it's funny they say sperm donor because they don't understand that life is in, 361 00:22:46,310 --> 00:22:49,820 there's a difference between the seed and the carrier of the seed. 362 00:22:49,930 --> 00:22:54,010 Mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. . And 363 00:22:57,270 --> 00:23:00,130 you can see my facial expressions. Y'all can't see it. We, we, 364 00:23:00,130 --> 00:23:03,330 and that's another thing we're gonna go to, uh, videos , 365 00:23:03,660 --> 00:23:07,690 so y'all can get the full experience of our, of our, of our podcast. 366 00:23:08,510 --> 00:23:12,450 But I'm Squinching and witting because 367 00:23:13,190 --> 00:23:15,050 I'm a cussing Christian. . 368 00:23:18,950 --> 00:23:21,330 And, uh, the, 369 00:23:21,330 --> 00:23:24,420 the reality is that 370 00:23:27,450 --> 00:23:27,870 the, 371 00:23:27,870 --> 00:23:32,870 the male parent has an awesome responsibility and an accountability. 372 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:34,450 True. 373 00:23:34,450 --> 00:23:35,730 That to the family unit. 374 00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:38,690 Very account, very, very accountable. 375 00:23:39,500 --> 00:23:42,880 See, when I was talking about my bro, 376 00:23:46,930 --> 00:23:48,550 you know, he has, 377 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:52,570 he has five children, 378 00:23:55,790 --> 00:24:00,370 two of which were adopted that he took on from another man. 379 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:06,730 Wow. Now, I'm sorry. Six and two of those, 380 00:24:06,730 --> 00:24:09,790 he took on from another man. And 381 00:24:11,340 --> 00:24:16,170 that's, I mean, without blinking mm-hmm. . 382 00:24:17,360 --> 00:24:20,540 And that's, that's a, that's part of the well done, 383 00:24:21,350 --> 00:24:23,960 my good and faithful servant. Right. 384 00:24:23,990 --> 00:24:26,560 When you take on another man's responsibility 385 00:24:29,350 --> 00:24:33,750 and raise them in the way 386 00:24:35,670 --> 00:24:37,650 and, 387 00:24:38,990 --> 00:24:42,490 and they honor you mm-hmm. , excuse me. Um, 388 00:24:43,150 --> 00:24:47,860 that's important. You know? So from our perspective, 389 00:24:49,850 --> 00:24:52,500 I know, and I'm not gonna speak for you, 390 00:24:52,500 --> 00:24:55,180 but I know we share this value, 391 00:24:55,180 --> 00:25:00,130 that it is an awesome responsibility and an honor, and 392 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:04,670 we ain't take it lightly. Yeah. 393 00:25:04,980 --> 00:25:09,860 I don't take it lightly with my stepchildren. Mm-hmm. 394 00:25:09,860 --> 00:25:14,230 They don't know how much I pray for 'em. Mm-hmm. daily. Mm-hmm. 395 00:25:14,270 --> 00:25:16,580 , you know, 396 00:25:16,580 --> 00:25:19,430 and they came into my life as adults mm-hmm. 397 00:25:21,060 --> 00:25:25,710 daily. Yeah. You know, my wife, 398 00:25:26,810 --> 00:25:29,390 you know, I'm, I'm, I'm more verbose here, 399 00:25:30,540 --> 00:25:33,840 she would say in the podcast than I am in the house. 400 00:25:35,860 --> 00:25:39,790 I just choose my battles, folks. You hear me? You hear me. Young man. 401 00:25:39,860 --> 00:25:44,230 I choose my battles wisely comes with wisdom. . Yeah. 402 00:25:44,230 --> 00:25:48,230 But I've never been the, the touchy feely, you know, 403 00:25:48,230 --> 00:25:51,510 I joke and I play and I hug and I kiss my kids, you know, I gave them that. 404 00:25:51,930 --> 00:25:56,310 But I'm not an affirmation, super affirmation person. 405 00:25:56,940 --> 00:26:01,910 I don't affirm people for what they should be doing anyway. You know, 406 00:26:01,910 --> 00:26:05,750 that ain't who I am. But I will affirm you, um mm-hmm. , but, 407 00:26:07,050 --> 00:26:09,630 you know, not constantly. Um, 408 00:26:09,850 --> 00:26:14,830 and that's another thing as a parent and where the male structure 409 00:26:15,740 --> 00:26:18,450 is in parenting, from my perspective, 410 00:26:19,980 --> 00:26:23,440 and you can chime in at any time, Reggie, where I'm going with this, 411 00:26:25,190 --> 00:26:28,750 we are tasked mm-hmm. 412 00:26:28,790 --> 00:26:33,330 to teach our children as people of color, 413 00:26:34,530 --> 00:26:39,180 how to rise above the 414 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:43,500 institutionalized racism, 415 00:26:44,610 --> 00:26:47,720 sexism. Mm-hmm. and every other ism, 416 00:26:49,810 --> 00:26:53,190 nationalism. Right. Immigrant 417 00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:59,160 and everything else that they are going to encounter as they 418 00:26:59,510 --> 00:27:02,320 come out of that innocence into adulthood. 419 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:09,720 And too often I observe the 420 00:27:09,780 --> 00:27:14,680 disservices that we give our children in our 421 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:15,513 community 422 00:27:17,810 --> 00:27:22,020 by allowing the Nintendo switches mm-hmm. 423 00:27:22,060 --> 00:27:26,490 and the 500 channels on YouTube 424 00:27:26,860 --> 00:27:31,250 TV or Verizon or Comcast. Right. Or whatever carrier they have. 425 00:27:31,690 --> 00:27:36,410 Right. Or every other outside influence, TikTok, 426 00:27:36,410 --> 00:27:38,450 social media, Twitter, everything. 427 00:27:38,530 --> 00:27:43,530 Instagram to raise them and do 428 00:27:43,530 --> 00:27:46,690 our jobs for them. Right. Uh, now, now 429 00:27:50,030 --> 00:27:54,750 people say when this pandemic hit, 430 00:27:54,750 --> 00:27:57,870 I heard a lot of women, and this is where they gonna get mad at me, 431 00:27:57,870 --> 00:27:58,910 Reggie . 432 00:28:01,460 --> 00:28:06,330 I heard a lot of women say love the women. I heard, uh, you, you, 433 00:28:06,330 --> 00:28:10,330 you, you can play Charles Bley. I'm gonna be, I'm gonna be Ray Beats . 434 00:28:11,450 --> 00:28:15,330 Cause all the views and comments on this show. 435 00:28:15,890 --> 00:28:20,570 are the comments and views of this brothers of views. . Yeah. 436 00:28:21,390 --> 00:28:23,450 But no filters, no water down. 437 00:28:23,870 --> 00:28:26,760 But during the pandemic, 438 00:28:30,140 --> 00:28:33,020 I heard a lot of people white. 439 00:28:34,380 --> 00:28:37,200 And then I heard the sisters follow suit, 440 00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:41,620 you know, about teachers, 441 00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,260 you know, and 442 00:28:49,870 --> 00:28:53,800 I can't be doing this stuff. Teachers are supposed to teach and parents parent. 443 00:28:56,370 --> 00:28:59,490 Um, I can't be, 444 00:29:01,410 --> 00:29:04,540 I can't all occur kept hearing was, I can't do this. I gotta work, 445 00:29:04,540 --> 00:29:05,700 I gotta do this. How do I do this? 446 00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:12,860 My mother has six children. Mm. 447 00:29:15,510 --> 00:29:16,780 We never missed a meal. 448 00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:22,810 None of our homework ever didn't go to school complete. 449 00:29:23,770 --> 00:29:24,603 Mm-hmm. . 450 00:29:25,410 --> 00:29:28,950 And she worked the night shift as a nurse mm-hmm. 451 00:29:28,990 --> 00:29:32,600 and still managed to, to do all the other things. 452 00:29:32,860 --> 00:29:36,640 She held the house down. My father was a teacher. 453 00:29:37,660 --> 00:29:40,610 So where was he rolling out first thing in the morning? 454 00:29:41,770 --> 00:29:44,560 He was driving from Northeast all the way out to Shelton hand, 455 00:29:44,900 --> 00:29:48,800 cuz he taught at Boys Village. He was, he taught at a correctional facility. 456 00:29:49,730 --> 00:29:54,160 So you understand the type of disciplinarian and things that we had. 457 00:29:54,340 --> 00:29:58,900 And my mother was the breadwinner. They both had middle class job, 458 00:29:58,900 --> 00:29:59,980 but she was the breadwinner. 459 00:30:01,050 --> 00:30:01,883 Okay. 460 00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:05,650 I never ever, ever, ever, 461 00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:08,490 unless it was a super special occasion, 462 00:30:08,850 --> 00:30:12,090 ate fast food or food out of a can. 463 00:30:12,780 --> 00:30:13,613 Mm-hmm. . 464 00:30:15,740 --> 00:30:20,690 I ate many variations of some delicious government cheese and powdered milk 465 00:30:21,950 --> 00:30:22,970 and enjoyed it. 466 00:30:23,630 --> 00:30:24,463 Mm-hmm. . 467 00:30:26,870 --> 00:30:29,800 My mother never made an excuse. Mm-hmm. , 468 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:31,280 every cake was made from scratch. 469 00:30:36,850 --> 00:30:38,150 Man, that generation. 470 00:30:38,150 --> 00:30:38,990 I tell you, you understand, 471 00:30:39,540 --> 00:30:43,840 they understood that they were the first 472 00:30:44,140 --> 00:30:48,590 and only teacher that mattered in our lives. 473 00:30:50,390 --> 00:30:52,500 My mother never tell, and my father never said, 474 00:30:52,500 --> 00:30:56,970 and he was a teacher and he never said, teachers teach and parents' parent. 475 00:30:58,590 --> 00:30:59,240 Mm-hmm. 476 00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:01,960 . And as Dr. Bovell breaks it down to us, 477 00:31:03,070 --> 00:31:06,320 you're gonna kind of see the gap of where we are. 478 00:31:07,420 --> 00:31:11,640 But it all starts with where we are as a culture 479 00:31:13,670 --> 00:31:16,970 in not stepping up 480 00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:20,540 and like you said, 481 00:31:21,220 --> 00:31:25,220 believing that the roles have reversed. 482 00:31:27,690 --> 00:31:32,580 Even though my mom held it down. 483 00:31:34,860 --> 00:31:35,840 She had respect. 484 00:31:36,100 --> 00:31:39,440 She respected the man of the house. 485 00:31:39,540 --> 00:31:43,010 The man of the house. Yeah. Mm-hmm. . 486 00:31:43,430 --> 00:31:47,730 She might not agreed with everything in the man of the house. 487 00:31:48,410 --> 00:31:49,243 Right. 488 00:31:50,380 --> 00:31:54,080 But she was, but she never cut him off at the knees. Mm-hmm. 489 00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:55,880 and my father did some fucked up shit. 490 00:31:56,860 --> 00:31:57,510 Mm-hmm. 491 00:31:57,510 --> 00:31:59,790 , but she never cut him off at the knees. 492 00:32:02,420 --> 00:32:04,150 That was a precious generation. 493 00:32:04,260 --> 00:32:05,230 That's a precious. 494 00:32:05,370 --> 00:32:10,230 And that was what was attacked by society. 495 00:32:10,900 --> 00:32:11,733 Mm-hmm. . 496 00:32:12,510 --> 00:32:16,780 Because they were the generation of the renaissance 497 00:32:17,510 --> 00:32:21,400 of Harlem, Atlanta, 498 00:32:22,490 --> 00:32:26,770 DC Watts, Compton, 499 00:32:28,350 --> 00:32:30,650 the progressive movement mm-hmm. 500 00:32:30,690 --> 00:32:34,730 that we were in a black America in the forties and the fifties 501 00:32:35,620 --> 00:32:40,050 where we had homes sixties and seventies, 502 00:32:40,050 --> 00:32:43,610 but they got eroded during the sixties and seventies to where they are now. 503 00:32:45,930 --> 00:32:49,950 And no role was more important than the other, 504 00:32:51,660 --> 00:32:56,360 but there was a hierarchy and a respect. Exactly. Yeah. 505 00:32:56,490 --> 00:33:00,320 In being parents and being in a accord. 506 00:33:04,090 --> 00:33:04,923 I 507 00:33:07,210 --> 00:33:09,490 don't remember in my family, 508 00:33:12,660 --> 00:33:17,440 too many of my father's generations of people that were divorced. 509 00:33:17,910 --> 00:33:20,840 Mm-hmm. , they, they, they, 510 00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:24,400 they wasn't doing it at least officially. Even if they weren't even. 511 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:25,233 If even if. 512 00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:29,680 Together, together, so to speak, even if they probably live across town, 513 00:33:29,910 --> 00:33:31,200 they still wouldn't divorce. 514 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:31,960 They wasn't. 515 00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:32,240 Divorced. 516 00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:35,760 Papa would show for the birthday parties and she still would be honored and 517 00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:36,593 respected. 518 00:33:37,190 --> 00:33:39,120 I had an uncle who had two families, 519 00:33:42,410 --> 00:33:45,390 you know what I'm saying? I had two sets of cousins mm-hmm. , 520 00:33:45,390 --> 00:33:46,270 we know that story. 521 00:33:46,940 --> 00:33:47,773 Mm-hmm. . 522 00:33:49,100 --> 00:33:52,640 But they never, ever 523 00:33:55,140 --> 00:33:56,230 lost fact, 524 00:33:56,340 --> 00:34:00,950 lost sight of the fact that their responsibility in raising children. 525 00:34:00,950 --> 00:34:04,790 Right. And, you know, 526 00:34:07,470 --> 00:34:12,190 doing the hard work and being the providers and being 527 00:34:12,190 --> 00:34:16,680 responsible for every action that they created 528 00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:20,273 as a parent. 529 00:34:20,790 --> 00:34:21,620 Right. 530 00:34:21,620 --> 00:34:25,670 Even if they stepped out of their marial vows and made another family or had 531 00:34:25,670 --> 00:34:29,590 mm-hmm. , what they call a bash child or whatever. Right. You know, 532 00:34:32,610 --> 00:34:36,890 the act was a sin. Mm-hmm. 533 00:34:36,930 --> 00:34:37,970 not the child. 534 00:34:38,690 --> 00:34:39,523 Right. 535 00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:41,450 That's what I used to hear growing up. 536 00:34:41,770 --> 00:34:44,130 Right. Don't punish the child. 537 00:34:45,510 --> 00:34:46,150 Yep. 538 00:34:46,150 --> 00:34:47,930 The child didn't have anything to do. 539 00:34:48,690 --> 00:34:53,310 And the siege that we are under as a family unit in our community 540 00:34:53,700 --> 00:34:57,230 that's been over several generations in our lifetimes, 541 00:34:57,230 --> 00:34:59,430 the erosion that we've seen in our lifetime 542 00:35:03,550 --> 00:35:07,500 is disheartening. But you know, It is, 543 00:35:07,500 --> 00:35:08,700 they're real brothers 544 00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:14,090 behind the scenes that ain't looking for the glory. 545 00:35:14,570 --> 00:35:18,970 We're just trying to let you know John Q Public and listeners all over the 546 00:35:18,970 --> 00:35:20,170 world, um, 547 00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:25,370 that they're real brothers out here still behind the 548 00:35:25,370 --> 00:35:29,240 scenes more often than not, 549 00:35:29,750 --> 00:35:34,650 even though it's, you know, a trifling situation in our community. 550 00:35:35,130 --> 00:35:39,040 Right. Um, when you people speak up and say stuff like that, 551 00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:43,930 they just open their mouth and remove all doubt mm-hmm. , um, 552 00:35:45,810 --> 00:35:47,540 that, uh, we are 553 00:35:49,350 --> 00:35:53,950 stepping up to the plate and we are doing our things in an honorable Christian 554 00:35:53,950 --> 00:35:57,910 manner for the children in the seeds that we created 555 00:35:58,540 --> 00:36:03,060 that are our legacy right now are some not. Yeah. 556 00:36:03,240 --> 00:36:04,140 But guess what? 557 00:36:04,350 --> 00:36:08,180 There's some not in white communities and Hispanic communities and Asian 558 00:36:08,180 --> 00:36:11,980 communities and African communities too, you know, and we. 559 00:36:11,980 --> 00:36:15,420 Always highlight the knot. They always highlight the bads in our community. 560 00:36:15,430 --> 00:36:16,263 In our community. 561 00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:17,130 You know, 562 00:36:17,130 --> 00:36:21,940 I know a ton of solid African American fathers and 563 00:36:21,940 --> 00:36:26,020 men, a ton of 'em. I can reel off a ton of names. That's Reggie. 564 00:36:26,020 --> 00:36:29,340 But those who don't believe that they exist, who, 565 00:36:29,340 --> 00:36:33,580 who's bought into because of their bad experience or the negativity 566 00:36:34,150 --> 00:36:38,370 of what they may have heard or seen and think that good 567 00:36:39,010 --> 00:36:43,530 black fathers don't exist. I can assure you that is not the case. 568 00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:48,410 I have a ton of friends that are good, black, strong fathers, 569 00:36:48,950 --> 00:36:53,450 one of which I'm talking with. Um, Mr. Ray, you beats himself. So. 570 00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:55,530 I appreciate that. And vice versa. 571 00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:57,840 appreciate. 572 00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:02,800 That. You know, and I, you know, when people say stuff like that Right. 573 00:37:03,340 --> 00:37:05,320 And I'm engaging with other cultures, 574 00:37:07,060 --> 00:37:08,640 you know what my rebut is. 575 00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:09,970 What's. 576 00:37:09,970 --> 00:37:12,980 That? How many, you know, cause I, 577 00:37:12,980 --> 00:37:16,260 and then I go into the soliloquy that you just did. Mm-hmm. . Cause 578 00:37:18,630 --> 00:37:22,160 I can run off 40, 50 names right now. Yeah. 579 00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:22,720 Exactly. 580 00:37:22,720 --> 00:37:24,640 Exactly. To one or two to one or two. 581 00:37:25,130 --> 00:37:26,280 To one or two. Yeah. 582 00:37:26,820 --> 00:37:29,080 And that about, but, but yeah. 583 00:37:29,140 --> 00:37:29,860 But. 584 00:37:29,860 --> 00:37:32,720 You know, the child support system mm-hmm. 585 00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:36,570 ain't upside down because of black men. Mm-hmm. , 586 00:37:36,830 --> 00:37:39,290 I'm gonna say that again. . . 587 00:37:40,340 --> 00:37:41,970 So you gonna shock some people. 588 00:37:42,090 --> 00:37:46,940 The child support system ain't upside down because of black men Take it 589 00:37:46,940 --> 00:37:50,780 from somebody who went through it for 10 years mm-hmm. . Mm-hmm. 590 00:37:50,820 --> 00:37:54,980 never missed a payment, couldn't miss a payment. 591 00:37:55,710 --> 00:37:57,840 Mm-hmm. . Cause if I did, what would happen? Reggie, 592 00:37:58,810 --> 00:38:03,360 my black ass will lose my license, get locked up and everything else. 593 00:38:03,820 --> 00:38:04,240 And. 594 00:38:04,240 --> 00:38:08,320 Everything else. And I prided myself on never being locked up. 595 00:38:08,710 --> 00:38:10,360 Mm-hmm. . But unfortunately 596 00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:17,420 the black woman that I married the first time chose to put me 597 00:38:17,670 --> 00:38:18,900 in that system. Mm-hmm. . 598 00:38:19,010 --> 00:38:19,843 Mm-hmm. . 599 00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:24,700 And guess what? I stood up to the cause. 600 00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:29,100 You stood up to the cause and because you not may not mention this, 601 00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,100 but because I know you personally, 602 00:38:31,100 --> 00:38:36,040 I know the sacrifices you made personally for the sake 603 00:38:36,130 --> 00:38:39,880 of your children's education and their wellbeing. 604 00:38:40,380 --> 00:38:44,760 And there's a lot of black fathers that have done the same. Similar, same, same. 605 00:38:45,650 --> 00:38:47,440 Um, so this notion. 606 00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:48,520 Done and doing. 607 00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:53,040 done and doing. Cause when we went, we spoke about our Vegas trip. 608 00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:55,920 Every last brother that was in, 609 00:38:55,930 --> 00:38:58,920 we were in Vegas with I know every last one of y'all. 610 00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,640 And every last one of y'all are strong black followers. 611 00:39:02,100 --> 00:39:02,730 Yep. 612 00:39:02,730 --> 00:39:04,640 Of the, of the highest quality. 613 00:39:05,510 --> 00:39:06,110 Yep. 614 00:39:06,110 --> 00:39:10,970 And that's important in parenting for 615 00:39:10,970 --> 00:39:11,803 any race. 616 00:39:12,230 --> 00:39:16,070 But I just wanna highlight what I know 617 00:39:16,930 --> 00:39:21,820 when people put stuff across the airways. Well this dude, well, 618 00:39:21,820 --> 00:39:24,580 you, you didn't know Moy well no, I didn't know Moy. 619 00:39:24,820 --> 00:39:27,920 . Right, right. But some of, 620 00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:32,400 some of the mos of today's generation have been impacted. 621 00:39:32,470 --> 00:39:32,990 What, 622 00:39:32,990 --> 00:39:37,920 what what you talked about leading into the discussion of how this society is 623 00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:40,400 operating today and the role reversals mm-hmm. 624 00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:44,440 and all of these things. A lot of things have impacted, um, 625 00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:46,400 some of, some of our younger. Cause. 626 00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:47,800 If you look at successful children, 627 00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:52,550 whether they're in a divorce relationship or not, 628 00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:57,660 and they're in a, uh, uh, functional family unit, 629 00:39:59,540 --> 00:40:02,950 what's the constant in the success in, in, in the, 630 00:40:02,950 --> 00:40:04,590 in the guys with the successful children, 631 00:40:07,590 --> 00:40:10,930 the parent involvement of the father. 632 00:40:11,620 --> 00:40:14,770 Mm. Say that one more time, bro. . 633 00:40:16,900 --> 00:40:18,530 If you look at successful children, 634 00:40:20,430 --> 00:40:24,620 whether they're in a divorce family 635 00:40:25,150 --> 00:40:29,750 or a intact functional family unit with their little 636 00:40:29,750 --> 00:40:32,950 dysfunction, the key factor 637 00:40:34,810 --> 00:40:36,420 that you see in their success 638 00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:42,590 is because of the involvement of a father figure 639 00:40:43,460 --> 00:40:46,570 and their father figure. Wow. 640 00:40:46,750 --> 00:40:49,610 Not that being superman, 641 00:40:49,610 --> 00:40:54,570 not buying them every tour that they asked for. Right, Right. But being there. 642 00:40:55,420 --> 00:40:56,253 Right. 643 00:40:56,500 --> 00:40:57,860 Being provider. 644 00:40:58,600 --> 00:40:59,160 Right. 645 00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:03,360 Showing a, a work ethic. Right. Being a counselor. 646 00:41:04,110 --> 00:41:04,943 Yeah. 647 00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,920 Being long suffering. Mm-hmm. 648 00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:10,840 being the lord of the household. 649 00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:12,593 Right. 650 00:41:14,130 --> 00:41:17,650 Under the Lord of the universe. Mm-hmm. , 651 00:41:17,650 --> 00:41:19,850 that's when we talk about that priest and high priest thing, 652 00:41:19,850 --> 00:41:23,130 when for those of you have that are in the Christian Church, 653 00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:27,270 when you read your Bible, when you, when you, 654 00:41:27,270 --> 00:41:30,070 when you talk about those things 655 00:41:31,990 --> 00:41:34,860 that attributed to their success. 656 00:41:35,450 --> 00:41:36,283 Mm-hmm. . 657 00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:39,910 If you look at the flip side, 658 00:41:43,230 --> 00:41:44,490 the father's absent. 659 00:41:45,530 --> 00:41:46,363 Hmm. 660 00:41:47,180 --> 00:41:49,680 The father's absent. And I'm not talking about, 661 00:41:51,580 --> 00:41:56,080 I'm talking about when I say success, remember, remember way, way back when, 662 00:41:56,080 --> 00:42:00,920 when our first episode success don't mean that they got straight 663 00:42:00,940 --> 00:42:05,920 A's in high school and took AP classes and had put on a persona and did 664 00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:09,360 all this for that and the other. And no success. 665 00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:13,120 Meaning that you taught them to live 666 00:42:14,050 --> 00:42:18,440 to and embrace and maximize therefore 667 00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:22,840 potential as a productive citizen in society no matter what 668 00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:27,760 situation they were in. If they was doing a bit in the cut adjusted. 669 00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:30,400 Yeah. Or if they was preaching from a pu pit. 670 00:42:30,720 --> 00:42:32,980 Right? Mm-hmm. . 671 00:42:33,190 --> 00:42:38,130 Because this life in a blink of an eye could take you to either one of those 672 00:42:38,130 --> 00:42:38,963 paths. 673 00:42:39,010 --> 00:42:39,490 True. 674 00:42:39,490 --> 00:42:40,410 That and our. 675 00:42:40,410 --> 00:42:42,210 Community In a moment. In a moment in. 676 00:42:42,210 --> 00:42:44,690 Our community. I'm just talking about the dmv. 677 00:42:45,030 --> 00:42:48,570 I'm just talking from a brother being from Northeast and a brother living in 678 00:42:48,570 --> 00:42:50,810 Capital Heights and in Forestville, if you will. 679 00:42:51,240 --> 00:42:52,290 Yeah. . 680 00:42:53,900 --> 00:42:56,850 So what we wanted to do in this series, 681 00:42:59,150 --> 00:43:03,790 and we wanted to give you some food for thought in this, 682 00:43:04,700 --> 00:43:09,490 uh, entree from our perspective that what we feel is, 683 00:43:09,750 --> 00:43:13,130 and, and, and, and we're not diminishing the, 684 00:43:13,710 --> 00:43:17,930 the woman who carry and board our children. 685 00:43:18,290 --> 00:43:22,210 Right. Their great contribution to the lives of our children. 686 00:43:23,010 --> 00:43:26,770 ama, there, there's no diminishing, 687 00:43:27,590 --> 00:43:29,590 We're just speaking on the, the, the, 688 00:43:29,590 --> 00:43:31,590 I'm just giving you the receipts and the facts. 689 00:43:32,190 --> 00:43:33,023 Right. 690 00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:37,450 That bear to be spoken truthfully. 691 00:43:38,810 --> 00:43:39,643 Mm-hmm. . 692 00:43:39,660 --> 00:43:44,500 Cause we need to have honest conversations cuz every woman that get up 693 00:43:44,500 --> 00:43:49,300 on TV and start going say head side to side and talking about 694 00:43:49,300 --> 00:43:52,500 how bad men were and are. Right. 695 00:43:53,980 --> 00:43:57,690 Or I'm gonna just say this one. The, uh, I don't need a man, 696 00:43:57,690 --> 00:43:59,210 how did you get here? Mm-hmm. 697 00:43:59,250 --> 00:44:00,083 . 698 00:44:00,670 --> 00:44:02,850 For, for every, and again. 699 00:44:04,070 --> 00:44:05,750 Cause I'm gonna tell you Go ahead. 700 00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:10,230 We, we are not on the offensive against anybody, 701 00:44:10,250 --> 00:44:14,310 but we are just addressing some of the things that have been said 702 00:44:15,060 --> 00:44:19,190 from, for those that say, for those females that say, you don't need a man. 703 00:44:19,190 --> 00:44:20,190 Well how did you get here? 704 00:44:21,020 --> 00:44:22,650 Because I need a woman. 705 00:44:23,900 --> 00:44:27,340 . I need a woman too. . 706 00:44:29,520 --> 00:44:30,540 And I ain't saying. 707 00:44:30,540 --> 00:44:32,360 You, you, you, I love the way you said it, 708 00:44:32,380 --> 00:44:37,360 but I I need a woman because I I wouldn't 709 00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:41,360 have got here. Yeah, exactly. As Robin Harris said, I wasn't no test two baby. 710 00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,000 Right. You know, um, 711 00:44:43,590 --> 00:44:48,480 I need a woman to show me nurturing and affection. 712 00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:53,720 Right. You know, and to show me a kind of gender way to approach things. 713 00:44:54,670 --> 00:44:55,540 Um, and, 714 00:44:55,540 --> 00:44:59,700 and be in touch with who I am as a person and, 715 00:44:59,700 --> 00:45:03,880 and be introspective. Okay. I need a woman to love. 716 00:45:05,070 --> 00:45:08,520 Yeah. When I wanna procreate. That's right. 717 00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:13,870 Cause if I'm gay, you can't procreate. 718 00:45:13,870 --> 00:45:18,030 I can't procreate. I can adopt, I can do income, 719 00:45:18,770 --> 00:45:20,510 you know mm-hmm. 720 00:45:20,550 --> 00:45:25,380 in the L g B two Q x y, Z way 721 00:45:26,880 --> 00:45:31,700 and adopt a child. But I can't procreate. Okay. Right. 722 00:45:31,930 --> 00:45:36,590 That's just facts. Yeah. Not judging just facts. 723 00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:41,830 So me being a heterosexual straight man 724 00:45:42,150 --> 00:45:42,983 child, 725 00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:48,660 I need a woman to make me a better man. Yeah. 726 00:45:48,660 --> 00:45:49,980 I'm gonna bring it home that 727 00:45:52,250 --> 00:45:54,380 when you leave your parents 728 00:45:57,650 --> 00:46:01,940 and you look to build a union in a relationship 729 00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:06,810 and organically create a family because like, 730 00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:10,290 like Prince says, should have known when the rocket strip explodes, 731 00:46:10,970 --> 00:46:15,330 and everybody still wanna fly. You can, you can, 732 00:46:15,710 --> 00:46:19,690 you can make a family. Absolutely. But organically, 733 00:46:19,690 --> 00:46:22,190 we speaking organically. Okay. 734 00:46:24,530 --> 00:46:28,950 When you leave your parents and you clinging unto your wife 735 00:46:30,420 --> 00:46:35,010 to make that union to become parents mm-hmm. . 736 00:46:35,010 --> 00:46:39,650 Because what happens when grown people who are married don't stay on their side 737 00:46:39,650 --> 00:46:43,910 of the bed, Generally nine months later, 738 00:46:43,910 --> 00:46:48,270 nine months later, come a baby or sooner . Yeah. Some preemies, you know, 739 00:46:48,270 --> 00:46:50,150 some action. Yeah. . 740 00:46:50,990 --> 00:46:55,220 So when that action happens, you gotta, 741 00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:58,940 you gotta step up to the plate. That's, and you gotta responsibility, 742 00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:00,060 accountability. 743 00:47:00,060 --> 00:47:04,540 What we're going to lead into in this wonderful series coming up 744 00:47:05,150 --> 00:47:05,983 by Dr. 745 00:47:06,070 --> 00:47:10,500 Ka Bove who talks about the four Rs of 746 00:47:10,500 --> 00:47:11,333 parenting. 747 00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:17,020 And when I tell you tune in over the next four episodes. Yes. 748 00:47:17,100 --> 00:47:21,980 Don't wanna miss this and hear this wisdom imparted by this 749 00:47:21,980 --> 00:47:26,330 beautiful woman, mother, grandmother, 750 00:47:26,720 --> 00:47:30,000 mentor, friend, sister 751 00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:36,980 who has the accolades piled high and deep 752 00:47:37,370 --> 00:47:38,700 from around the world. 753 00:47:40,790 --> 00:47:43,900 Speak to what we're, 754 00:47:43,900 --> 00:47:48,020 what what we gave a preamble to from our perspective. Cuz we, 755 00:47:48,030 --> 00:47:52,940 we only have our perspective, uh, you know, public. Right. John Q Public, 756 00:47:52,940 --> 00:47:56,060 John Jane and Jane Q Public, we only have our perspective. 757 00:47:56,600 --> 00:48:00,620 I'm not gonna speak from any other perspective than what I got receipts for. 758 00:48:01,100 --> 00:48:01,690 Right. 759 00:48:01,690 --> 00:48:03,260 That's how we say it from the streets. 760 00:48:03,890 --> 00:48:05,980 Yeah. We don't speak on what we don't know. 761 00:48:06,490 --> 00:48:11,180 Yeah. And I ain't trying to write a check that my behind can cash. Right. 762 00:48:11,180 --> 00:48:11,660 And and, 763 00:48:11,660 --> 00:48:16,450 and here's the other thing about parenting that I can say as a 764 00:48:16,450 --> 00:48:21,100 father that Reggie so eloquently stated that 765 00:48:21,500 --> 00:48:23,540 sacrifice and did everything for his kids. 766 00:48:24,130 --> 00:48:26,820 It's a 50 50 shot if they turn out right Or not. 767 00:48:26,820 --> 00:48:28,340 Even if you do everything right. 768 00:48:28,340 --> 00:48:31,940 Yeah. Even if you do everything right. Yeah. , 769 00:48:32,530 --> 00:48:34,900 that's real talk. It's real talk. 770 00:48:35,390 --> 00:48:36,223 Because 771 00:48:37,730 --> 00:48:41,900 even though they have the innate things that you put in them, ethics, 772 00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:46,460 responsibility, morals, values, spiritual and release. 773 00:48:46,460 --> 00:48:50,700 Whether it's Judaism, Islam, Christianity, Buddhism, 774 00:48:51,250 --> 00:48:56,220 Daoism, uh, uh, uh, belief in a higher power, spiritualism, 775 00:48:56,460 --> 00:48:57,300 whatever it is. 776 00:48:58,130 --> 00:48:58,963 Yeah. 777 00:48:59,670 --> 00:49:04,620 When they leave the protection of your home 778 00:49:04,980 --> 00:49:06,420 Right. And your structure. 779 00:49:07,540 --> 00:49:08,470 It's on them now. 780 00:49:08,470 --> 00:49:10,530 Willingly or by force. 781 00:49:11,130 --> 00:49:12,450 Right. . 782 00:49:14,010 --> 00:49:17,330 Let's just keep it real willingly owned by force. Yeah. 783 00:49:17,330 --> 00:49:21,530 They're open to so much Yeah. 784 00:49:21,530 --> 00:49:25,970 That they have to figure out and hopefully they figure it out. 785 00:49:25,990 --> 00:49:30,330 And what I'm learning in this season is that usually when they hit 786 00:49:30,330 --> 00:49:31,730 27, 28, 787 00:49:33,070 --> 00:49:35,740 if they take the long way around. 788 00:49:36,130 --> 00:49:36,963 Mm-hmm. . 789 00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:38,980 And they don't take the council, 790 00:49:39,290 --> 00:49:44,220 that's so pivotal at the age of 17 to 791 00:49:44,220 --> 00:49:49,010 23 when your trajectory can 792 00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:52,540 change quickly. 793 00:49:52,990 --> 00:49:53,823 Mm-hmm. . 794 00:49:54,170 --> 00:49:59,040 By the moves you make in getting the education or not getting an education, 795 00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:02,950 smoking weed or not smoking weed, 796 00:50:03,500 --> 00:50:06,620 doing drugs or not doing heavy drugs. 797 00:50:07,050 --> 00:50:09,820 Making babies or not making babies. 798 00:50:10,380 --> 00:50:11,213 Right. 799 00:50:11,850 --> 00:50:16,770 Cause those are the things in my community that we can't seem to 800 00:50:16,770 --> 00:50:17,603 get over. 801 00:50:18,270 --> 00:50:23,010 I'm the only one out of six siblings that didn't have a 802 00:50:23,010 --> 00:50:24,290 child by age 19. 803 00:50:24,850 --> 00:50:25,683 Mm-hmm. . 804 00:50:28,470 --> 00:50:29,990 I'm gonna say that again. Mm-hmm. 805 00:50:30,030 --> 00:50:30,330 , I got. 806 00:50:30,330 --> 00:50:32,790 Six siblings, I got five old sisters. 807 00:50:33,290 --> 00:50:37,630 I'm the only one that waited till they were 29. 808 00:50:37,630 --> 00:50:38,510 To have a child. 809 00:50:39,040 --> 00:50:43,030 To have a child. Yeah. Well I fall in the, 810 00:50:43,140 --> 00:50:46,030 I fall in the, the first category . 811 00:50:46,700 --> 00:50:49,510 I was a dad in 19 . But. 812 00:50:49,690 --> 00:50:52,190 You understand what I'm saying in this community. 813 00:50:52,770 --> 00:50:54,590 Yes, yes, yes. 814 00:50:56,520 --> 00:50:59,140 You know, and it changes the trajectory. 815 00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:01,460 Yes, it does. Yeah. 816 00:51:02,990 --> 00:51:03,960 Yeah. And 817 00:51:05,910 --> 00:51:10,340 my level of maturity as a father was probably totally different than it would've 818 00:51:10,340 --> 00:51:13,060 been at 19. Cause I know what I was doing in 19. Absolutely. 819 00:51:13,690 --> 00:51:14,540 Absolutely. 820 00:51:15,130 --> 00:51:17,300 I was in Player's choice at 19. The the. 821 00:51:17,300 --> 00:51:18,820 Music you was used to . 822 00:51:19,910 --> 00:51:24,740 It was hit and run. Lots of fun. Yeah. Lots of fun. You gets none . 823 00:51:24,740 --> 00:51:29,460 Yeah. So yeah. You know. 824 00:51:29,690 --> 00:51:31,420 Jail going up the hill, you. 825 00:51:31,420 --> 00:51:32,260 Better believe it. 826 00:51:32,260 --> 00:51:32,940 Have a little. 827 00:51:32,940 --> 00:51:34,980 Fun on the way they met the Godfather. 828 00:51:35,540 --> 00:51:38,500 . That's all about the one. 829 00:51:38,500 --> 00:51:43,270 On one. About the one on one. But, but you know, 830 00:51:43,270 --> 00:51:48,250 in all candor folks, it's important to, 831 00:51:48,300 --> 00:51:51,010 to really understand and we wanna, we want, 832 00:51:51,010 --> 00:51:55,890 we hope that we get people to tune into this podcast for this series. I mean, 833 00:51:55,890 --> 00:51:58,410 we've, we've grown and um, 834 00:51:58,410 --> 00:52:02,250 I'm excited about the growth that we're heading to Reggie and the things that 835 00:52:02,250 --> 00:52:06,210 we've got upcoming on the podcast, um, on our, 836 00:52:06,260 --> 00:52:09,610 on our YouTube channel that's gonna be coming by the end of the year. 837 00:52:09,630 --> 00:52:11,170 And the commercials. 838 00:52:11,490 --> 00:52:12,323 Exciting things. 839 00:52:12,470 --> 00:52:13,290 And our, 840 00:52:13,290 --> 00:52:18,130 our guests line up and the serious topics we will be handling, 841 00:52:18,460 --> 00:52:19,170 uh, around. 842 00:52:19,170 --> 00:52:20,370 Yeah. Call, call us, get ready. 843 00:52:20,670 --> 00:52:25,210 Yep. And we'll have the call in lines. We we're just not going to, um, you know, 844 00:52:25,220 --> 00:52:28,890 be here, you know, sp espousing stuff and think that that, 845 00:52:28,890 --> 00:52:32,130 that we can't defend our topics. We will. Um, 846 00:52:32,130 --> 00:52:34,250 and we will have callers calling in. Um, 847 00:52:34,950 --> 00:52:39,770 but it's an evolution just like anything else. Yeah. And we are evolving. Um, 848 00:52:39,820 --> 00:52:43,850 we are, you know, so, um, that is 849 00:52:45,750 --> 00:52:50,530 the entree for today, . And like I said, the series, 850 00:52:51,540 --> 00:52:55,410 uh, is gonna be on the four R's of parenting. 851 00:52:55,410 --> 00:52:58,130 I'm not gonna release what the four Rs are yet. 852 00:52:58,160 --> 00:53:02,530 I will do that in our upcoming shows. But, um, 853 00:53:03,020 --> 00:53:05,010 so that means you gotta stay tuned. That's kind, 854 00:53:05,010 --> 00:53:07,290 that's kind of called like a tease in industry, right? It. 855 00:53:07,290 --> 00:53:09,210 Is. It is. It's a cause. 856 00:53:09,210 --> 00:53:13,090 What are the four R's or cliff hanger or what are the four R's? 857 00:53:14,110 --> 00:53:16,690 Yay. Yay. You gotta find out. Yeah. Mm-hmm. 858 00:53:16,730 --> 00:53:18,570 , who wants you to, You gotta find out too then. 859 00:53:19,180 --> 00:53:23,010 So what I want to talk about as our dessert 860 00:53:24,900 --> 00:53:29,290 is, uh, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm a beat this dead man. 861 00:53:29,290 --> 00:53:30,810 It's not a sweet one. It's a so one. 862 00:53:30,810 --> 00:53:35,090 It's a so one, but I'm a beat this dead horse . I'm going back to it. 863 00:53:35,510 --> 00:53:38,090 I'm going back to, you know what I'm going back to. Right? Reggie going. 864 00:53:38,090 --> 00:53:39,610 Back. Yes indeed. Fools gold. 865 00:53:39,890 --> 00:53:40,810 Fools. Go. I apologize. 866 00:53:41,400 --> 00:53:45,890 I apologize for my preseason time mile before this season 867 00:53:45,890 --> 00:53:49,370 prediction. I dunno what in the world I was thinking about. 868 00:53:50,310 --> 00:53:51,143 Now. 869 00:53:52,150 --> 00:53:53,130 Was FS Gold? 870 00:53:54,390 --> 00:53:58,530 Yep. Now was now was Ross, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, Washington fan? 871 00:53:59,260 --> 00:54:03,130 No. Ross. Oh yeah. He was a die. Mm-hmm. . 872 00:54:03,400 --> 00:54:08,370 Yeah. So was able, so was a ball. Yeah. And uh, 873 00:54:09,230 --> 00:54:14,210 the Washington commanders once again, as this fools go. 874 00:54:15,040 --> 00:54:17,210 I was living the dream things. 875 00:54:19,180 --> 00:54:21,050 It just ain't true. They ain't no team. 876 00:54:22,040 --> 00:54:25,730 They the commodos cuz they get beat easy like Sunday morning. 877 00:54:26,240 --> 00:54:29,650 Easy like Sunday morning. just fool. Go. 878 00:54:29,960 --> 00:54:31,010 They fools. 879 00:54:31,010 --> 00:54:35,170 Go. Fools go. Fools go. Yeah man. 880 00:54:35,240 --> 00:54:36,290 Yeah brother. 881 00:54:37,900 --> 00:54:40,250 So I'm not going keep looping it this time, 882 00:54:40,250 --> 00:54:44,490 but I just wanted to give that intro to our, our delectable dessert, 883 00:54:44,490 --> 00:54:49,130 which is about the debacle of this Fran. Mm-hmm one in, 884 00:54:49,150 --> 00:54:50,010 one in four. 885 00:54:50,470 --> 00:54:54,410 One in four on the season and on the season with with really no. 886 00:54:55,660 --> 00:54:57,090 It ain't gonna get no easier. 887 00:54:57,650 --> 00:55:00,250 don't look like a, don't look like light at the end of the tunnel. 888 00:55:00,250 --> 00:55:00,740 Now Des. 889 00:55:00,740 --> 00:55:04,880 We are the basement of the nfc. Yeah. Period. 890 00:55:05,060 --> 00:55:07,280 Not NFC coming. NFC. 891 00:55:07,280 --> 00:55:08,280 Coming. A laughing stock. 892 00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:12,200 Do you know that the entire NFC outside of the commanders, 893 00:55:12,460 --> 00:55:14,920 the rest of the NFC have only lost two games. 894 00:55:15,950 --> 00:55:20,880 Nfcs, everybody's at least 500 or above. No, they're above 500. 895 00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:22,560 Everybody in the NFC lease is above. 896 00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:27,200 502 Losses combined with the other three teams. Mm-hmm. . 897 00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:28,200 And we are one and four. 898 00:55:28,420 --> 00:55:29,253 Yep. 899 00:55:30,740 --> 00:55:35,550 And there are no words that anybody out of that 900 00:55:35,550 --> 00:55:39,990 organization can say there are no words. 901 00:55:41,780 --> 00:55:45,520 Cuz it starts with the coaches. Cuz the coach has 902 00:55:47,130 --> 00:55:52,070 Ron Rivera. I haven't looked at the news. 903 00:55:52,070 --> 00:55:55,790 I didn't watch the post game. I kind of fell asleep on it. 904 00:55:56,660 --> 00:55:58,750 I did something interesting last night. I watched that, 905 00:55:58,750 --> 00:56:02,930 I watched that game up the street, up, up, up, up 95, 95. 906 00:56:02,930 --> 00:56:03,240 North. 907 00:56:03,240 --> 00:56:07,990 95 North. And I saw the difference. Yeah. 908 00:56:08,090 --> 00:56:11,070 And a dude who's playing without a contract. 909 00:56:11,550 --> 00:56:12,383 Right. 910 00:56:14,170 --> 00:56:15,160 Balling out. 911 00:56:15,890 --> 00:56:16,760 Balling out. 912 00:56:18,060 --> 00:56:21,760 And a dude, I don't even know what number, uh, 913 00:56:22,610 --> 00:56:23,310 or uh. 914 00:56:23,310 --> 00:56:24,590 11, number 11. 915 00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:26,470 He was . 916 00:56:26,930 --> 00:56:27,650 You talking about. 917 00:56:27,650 --> 00:56:28,750 I'm not No, no, I'm not, I'm not, 918 00:56:28,890 --> 00:56:33,550 I'm not talking about he who will not be named be 11. I'm talking about, 919 00:56:33,960 --> 00:56:36,550 uh, the quarterback for Baltimore. Um, 920 00:56:39,150 --> 00:56:42,640 I can't call the ball his name right now. I'm looking right at his face. Um, 921 00:56:43,070 --> 00:56:44,800 what's the quarterback's name for Baltimore? 922 00:56:45,770 --> 00:56:49,280 Uh, jam. Um, now look at that. You. 923 00:56:49,280 --> 00:56:51,200 Don having a seen moment. 924 00:56:51,510 --> 00:56:54,160 Yeah. Yeah. Lamar's, Lamar. 925 00:56:54,160 --> 00:56:57,200 Lamar Jackson, Lamar Jackson, Lamar Jackson. 926 00:56:59,250 --> 00:57:01,380 I don't know what he was draft pick wise. 927 00:57:04,540 --> 00:57:09,430 They wanted to make him a receiver coming into 928 00:57:09,430 --> 00:57:10,263 the nfl. 929 00:57:10,780 --> 00:57:11,613 Mm-hmm. . 930 00:57:12,270 --> 00:57:14,050 All he does is ball dog. 931 00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:15,710 So he does. 932 00:57:15,970 --> 00:57:20,430 His mental aptitude. You know, he look like a country bumping. 933 00:57:21,100 --> 00:57:21,670 With the. 934 00:57:21,670 --> 00:57:25,210 Brave and everything. But he's wild. 935 00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:29,250 E coyote super genius when it comes to that playbook, 936 00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:34,290 into that scheme and that system and uh, uh, 937 00:57:34,740 --> 00:57:39,410 playing smart and taking what the defense give you. Right. 938 00:57:39,980 --> 00:57:42,210 Oh, he cut him up last night. It was a tight four game, 939 00:57:42,210 --> 00:57:43,490 but he cut him up last night. 940 00:57:44,110 --> 00:57:46,800 Yeah. He's, he's he's exciting tv. 941 00:57:47,980 --> 00:57:50,750 Yeah. He who will not be named. 942 00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:53,233 In Washington. 943 00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:58,200 In Washington is damaged goods. First of all, 944 00:57:58,830 --> 00:58:01,840 I don't know why Rivera isn't fired. 945 00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:07,690 Well, I mean that's probably, uh, 946 00:58:08,180 --> 00:58:09,450 getting close there. 947 00:58:09,750 --> 00:58:14,010 But the unfortunate thing about to it to me is that won't fix our problem. 948 00:58:14,040 --> 00:58:15,880 Mm-hmm. I'm not saying. 949 00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:16,960 It won't fix our problem. 950 00:58:17,150 --> 00:58:20,400 Yeah. Don't get me wrong. I'm not, I'm not saying that it's not warranted. 951 00:58:20,500 --> 00:58:22,280 I'm not saying that it's not justified. 952 00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:25,440 Cause cause cause Jackson, well not Jacksonville, but Carolina, 953 00:58:26,060 --> 00:58:30,240 his former Carolina, his former, uh, employer, . Right. 954 00:58:30,670 --> 00:58:33,120 They pulled the trigger at one in four, didn't he? 955 00:58:33,420 --> 00:58:37,080 Yep. He's unemployed. He, he got, he got fired today. 956 00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:41,640 The head coach of the Carolina Panthers, he was terminated today. 957 00:58:42,060 --> 00:58:44,200 And um Yep. Matt rule. 958 00:58:44,950 --> 00:58:47,560 I just think that, I think that, um, 959 00:58:49,910 --> 00:58:51,020 if you don't perform 960 00:58:53,890 --> 00:58:57,840 and you putting out now, see it's a difference between 961 00:59:00,630 --> 00:59:01,500 putting out. 962 00:59:01,500 --> 00:59:03,420 Not performing, not performing, 963 00:59:03,420 --> 00:59:07,500 making $25,000 a year is different than not performing. 964 00:59:07,500 --> 00:59:09,620 Making 12 million. 965 00:59:09,620 --> 00:59:11,100 Making 12 million a year 966 00:59:12,600 --> 00:59:16,180 and the product has been so bad. 967 00:59:16,850 --> 00:59:17,683 Mm-hmm. . 968 00:59:20,020 --> 00:59:20,840 I didn't even go. 969 00:59:20,840 --> 00:59:21,673 Say on that team. 970 00:59:22,510 --> 00:59:23,760 I didn't even go to, 971 00:59:25,480 --> 00:59:29,770 I didn't even go to the fan appreciation stuff. Oh. 972 00:59:31,050 --> 00:59:31,910 And it was local. 973 00:59:32,850 --> 00:59:34,510 Huh. True transparency. I didn't even, 974 00:59:34,580 --> 00:59:37,550 I probably saw three minutes of the game Sunday. Yeah. 975 00:59:39,020 --> 00:59:41,350 When the highlight of the game 976 00:59:43,020 --> 00:59:46,970 in this dysfunctional organization is talking about, 977 00:59:47,720 --> 00:59:50,620 and I'm not throwing any shade on this young man, 978 00:59:50,620 --> 00:59:55,520 but when the highlight of the game and the highest level of energy is 979 00:59:55,520 --> 01:00:00,520 when the running back that got shot six weeks ago comes back on the field and 980 01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:01,353 plays. 981 01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:02,993 Oh, he played. 982 01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:07,590 He played yesterday though. Wow. And did Okay. 983 01:00:08,680 --> 01:00:09,513 Okay. 984 01:00:10,520 --> 01:00:11,353 But 985 01:00:12,990 --> 01:00:17,410 you got this offensive coordinator that can't get out his own goddamn 986 01:00:17,750 --> 01:00:22,310 way when you got 19 to 25 seconds 987 01:00:25,860 --> 01:00:30,010 left in the game and you on the one yard line, maybe two, 988 01:00:30,130 --> 01:00:31,970 but I believe it was the one yard line. 989 01:00:32,710 --> 01:00:33,543 Mm-hmm. . 990 01:00:34,500 --> 01:00:38,600 And you've been running all over these people at will all game. 991 01:00:39,160 --> 01:00:39,993 Right. 992 01:00:41,150 --> 01:00:43,970 Why you going have four passes into the end zone? 993 01:00:44,320 --> 01:00:48,820 Well, you know, my displeasure with um, 994 01:00:49,020 --> 01:00:50,540 Scott Turner. Yeah. 995 01:00:50,540 --> 01:00:52,580 Fire somebody please , 996 01:00:52,910 --> 01:00:55,300 if you're not gonna fire the heads coach far as Scott Turner. 997 01:00:55,640 --> 01:00:56,060 And, 998 01:00:56,060 --> 01:01:01,020 and and and what if I've always complained about Scott Turner to me is, 999 01:01:01,070 --> 01:01:04,330 is a little bit similar in his father. Um. 1000 01:01:05,200 --> 01:01:09,770 Well, it's only by, I mean the apple never falls far from the tree. 1001 01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:14,490 I believe they have this philosophy of outsmarting defenses 1002 01:01:14,940 --> 01:01:19,070 showing I'm, I'm gonna outsmart you right? Mm-hmm. , 1003 01:01:19,760 --> 01:01:23,710 um, rather than saying I'm out physical, you, it doesn't, 1004 01:01:24,370 --> 01:01:26,870 you know, I'm going run it, but that, but, 1005 01:01:26,870 --> 01:01:30,070 but what does that really mean if you can't do anything about it? 1006 01:01:30,220 --> 01:01:31,030 Reggie, 1007 01:01:31,030 --> 01:01:36,030 every time they put the ball in the hands of the rookie running back and they 1008 01:01:36,030 --> 01:01:39,110 needed two yards throughout the whole game, 1009 01:01:40,990 --> 01:01:41,980 he gave it to him. 1010 01:01:42,480 --> 01:01:43,130 Mm-hmm. 1011 01:01:43,130 --> 01:01:45,930 the whole game every time he was in. And he had, he he had, 1012 01:01:45,930 --> 01:01:49,140 he had a, they had, they had him on a pitch count mm-hmm. 1013 01:01:49,180 --> 01:01:49,520 . 1014 01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:52,380 And rightfully so he got shot in the knee and hip. 1015 01:01:53,150 --> 01:01:56,480 Yeah. and uh, but. 1016 01:01:56,530 --> 01:02:01,200 Whoever else came in gave everybody to y'all. Even, even even, 1017 01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:05,840 you know, Antonio Gibson. Right. If you needed two, three yards, 1018 01:02:05,870 --> 01:02:07,360 they gave it to you. Right. 1019 01:02:07,440 --> 01:02:08,140 Right. 1020 01:02:08,140 --> 01:02:09,800 The line was blowing off. 1021 01:02:09,910 --> 01:02:13,840 They were blowing off the line when it came to run gang hitting it blocks. 1022 01:02:14,310 --> 01:02:16,520 Yeah. Well they. 1023 01:02:16,520 --> 01:02:21,200 Put the game in. Carson win's. It's his hands to say probably. 1024 01:02:21,200 --> 01:02:21,760 Not. We. 1025 01:02:21,760 --> 01:02:23,680 Believe in you Carson. 1026 01:02:24,080 --> 01:02:27,760 Which I would not have done out. 1027 01:02:28,500 --> 01:02:33,290 And guess what he did? He disappointed mightily. 1028 01:02:33,940 --> 01:02:38,870 Yeah. Let's look at the last three plays of the game. 1029 01:02:39,670 --> 01:02:44,400 First in goal at the Tennessee. Two y'all line 18 seconds left. 1030 01:02:46,680 --> 01:02:47,930 Incomplete pass, 1031 01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:52,280 left second in Goal 1032 01:02:54,240 --> 01:02:58,510 Tennessee. Two y'all line 13 seconds left. Incomplete pass, 1033 01:02:58,740 --> 01:03:00,670 middle of the field to McKissick, 1034 01:03:01,670 --> 01:03:03,910 third in goal at the two yard line 1035 01:03:07,470 --> 01:03:12,040 crossing wind stairs down, McKissick throws into traffic. 1036 01:03:12,040 --> 01:03:15,920 Triple interception, triple coverage, interception, ballgame. 1037 01:03:16,220 --> 01:03:19,320 And he could have walked Essent in. He could have. 1038 01:03:19,320 --> 01:03:21,080 Walked essentially, he could have walked in. 1039 01:03:21,080 --> 01:03:25,760 So essentially you have a first in goal at the two yard line with 1040 01:03:26,280 --> 01:03:27,200 18 seconds. 1041 01:03:28,260 --> 01:03:31,280 You got all the momentum, they're on their heels. 1042 01:03:31,940 --> 01:03:35,810 All the momentum, they're on their heels and, and you can't. 1043 01:03:35,810 --> 01:03:40,540 And, and you got a stud for a running back. Who's a rookie? 1044 01:03:41,530 --> 01:03:46,190 You gotta stud in his, uh, 1045 01:03:46,190 --> 01:03:50,470 junior and third year as a back. 1046 01:03:51,500 --> 01:03:54,840 You got full backs. You mean you ain't got a jumbo package, 1047 01:03:57,430 --> 01:03:59,530 you ain't got a two point convers package. 1048 01:04:00,630 --> 01:04:03,770 But a jumbo. It's not about, 1049 01:04:04,400 --> 01:04:09,100 it's not about jumbo physical, uh, 1050 01:04:09,100 --> 01:04:13,460 smash mouth with Scott Turner. I'm going to outsmart you, 1051 01:04:14,690 --> 01:04:18,550 I'm going to fool you, but I'm going to outsmart you. 1052 01:04:18,550 --> 01:04:22,470 I'm going to trick you. I'm going to out clever you. 1053 01:04:24,330 --> 01:04:25,940 That's not what football's about. 1054 01:04:27,370 --> 01:04:31,620 Yeah, I know. And that's why he is not successful at what he does. 1055 01:04:32,960 --> 01:04:34,060 And won't be. 1056 01:04:35,060 --> 01:04:35,893 . 1057 01:04:37,010 --> 01:04:40,580 I want you, I mean I know you said you only watched a couple plays every, 1058 01:04:40,580 --> 01:04:44,980 every play that that rookie ran, number eight ran. Mm-hmm. , uh, 1059 01:04:44,990 --> 01:04:49,920 uh, Rob, uh, Brown. Right. Uh, Robinson, right? 1060 01:04:50,520 --> 01:04:51,353 Robinson. Yeah. 1061 01:04:51,520 --> 01:04:56,340 Robinson. That's the thing. And that's the other thing that I'm gonna get to. 1062 01:04:56,610 --> 01:04:58,060 Yeah. He had nine carries. 1063 01:04:58,510 --> 01:05:01,140 He had nine carries for 30 something yards. Right. 1064 01:05:01,410 --> 01:05:03,380 Well, 29 carries for 22. 1065 01:05:03,380 --> 01:05:07,630 Yards. 22 yards. I'm sorry. But they were good yards man. 1066 01:05:07,630 --> 01:05:10,380 They were critical yards. Mm-hmm. . Alright. 1067 01:05:12,540 --> 01:05:15,020 When, when 1068 01:05:17,250 --> 01:05:18,200 we talk about 1069 01:05:20,280 --> 01:05:23,190 players making bad decisions and bad plays, 1070 01:05:23,920 --> 01:05:27,430 Johnson in that cornerback, he didn't even get in the game. 1071 01:05:29,870 --> 01:05:32,280 Carson went, stunk up the game. 1072 01:05:35,710 --> 01:05:37,410 I'd have bought Heine again. Heineke. 1073 01:05:37,780 --> 01:05:42,680 He would've either made the right pass or ran it 1074 01:05:42,680 --> 01:05:43,510 in. 1075 01:05:43,510 --> 01:05:44,343 Mm-hmm. . 1076 01:05:46,700 --> 01:05:48,950 It's fool's gold man. It's fool's gold. 1077 01:05:48,980 --> 01:05:52,260 It's fool's gold. But you know, 1078 01:05:52,260 --> 01:05:56,690 the sad part is potentially you'll have a, you know, 1079 01:05:56,690 --> 01:05:59,290 maybe in the off season you'll probably have a coaching change. 1080 01:05:59,290 --> 01:06:03,490 You'll have a staff change. Offensive coordinator, maybe defense coordinator, 1081 01:06:03,490 --> 01:06:05,370 maybe everybody will be gone. Right. 1082 01:06:05,370 --> 01:06:07,650 Yeah. But what we gonna do with that pick, but number one pick you come back. 1083 01:06:07,650 --> 01:06:09,410 What we gonna do with that number one pick. Well. 1084 01:06:09,510 --> 01:06:14,050 But, but here's, here's the, here's the big problem that most commander fans, 1085 01:06:15,880 --> 01:06:19,910 um, don't seem to get. You change out. Ra Ron Rivera, 1086 01:06:20,350 --> 01:06:23,590 Scott Turner on down the line. You change all of them out. 1087 01:06:24,470 --> 01:06:26,320 That's somebody that you're not changing. 1088 01:06:27,580 --> 01:06:28,413 . 1089 01:06:31,800 --> 01:06:36,740 And I and I and I believe that is he he is the 1090 01:06:36,740 --> 01:06:39,940 biggest. He's a bigger, in my personal opinion, 1091 01:06:40,130 --> 01:06:42,180 he's a bigger problem than Ron Rivera. 1092 01:06:42,690 --> 01:06:46,240 He's a bigger problem than Scott Turner in my opinion. 1093 01:06:46,830 --> 01:06:47,663 Yeah. 1094 01:06:48,270 --> 01:06:50,840 He's the biggest problem of the whole thing. 1095 01:06:50,840 --> 01:06:52,480 Franchise. Yes. Yes. It. 1096 01:06:52,480 --> 01:06:55,920 Starts, but unfortunately, unfortunately we can't change him out. 1097 01:06:56,190 --> 01:06:58,810 Yeah. And the league looks like. 1098 01:06:58,810 --> 01:06:59,350 Doesn't. 1099 01:06:59,350 --> 01:07:01,410 The league looks like they're not gonna do it. The. 1100 01:07:01,410 --> 01:07:03,210 League looks like they're not gonna do it. I. 1101 01:07:03,210 --> 01:07:05,370 Don't know what else he could do. I mean Yeah, I don't, 1102 01:07:05,640 --> 01:07:09,130 I guess if he got up there and said, Nigga nigger, nigger nigger. Ni ni nigga. 1103 01:07:09,500 --> 01:07:11,890 No, no, no. Not in the nfl. 1104 01:07:12,070 --> 01:07:14,650 Now you know the Phoenix son's owner, 1105 01:07:15,080 --> 01:07:19,450 they making him sell mm-hmm. NBA NBA's a little bit different. 1106 01:07:19,450 --> 01:07:20,283 Right. 1107 01:07:21,710 --> 01:07:22,830 Cause you know, 1108 01:07:23,000 --> 01:07:27,830 Phoenix son's owner got himself in some trouble racially mm-hmm. 1109 01:07:27,870 --> 01:07:28,703 . 1110 01:07:29,060 --> 01:07:32,890 Uh, and what happened? He, he needs forcing, He forcing him to sell. 1111 01:07:33,600 --> 01:07:34,400 Yeah. 1112 01:07:34,400 --> 01:07:35,250 This guy. 1113 01:07:36,580 --> 01:07:37,660 , he was pimping. 1114 01:07:37,660 --> 01:07:41,060 On. I was just saying, I'm gonna say what I wanted. I ain't going, 1115 01:07:41,280 --> 01:07:45,970 I'm not felt it. I'm gonna say this guy smacking women on the behind. Right. 1116 01:07:46,160 --> 01:07:48,210 Smacking women on behind. Having, 1117 01:07:48,210 --> 01:07:51,210 having the cheerleaders do topless, 1118 01:07:51,720 --> 01:07:55,490 give topless displays to some of the, 1119 01:07:55,760 --> 01:08:00,530 I guess vi p club people or whatever and all these other 1120 01:08:00,530 --> 01:08:04,890 accusations that was, that's flying like ping pong balls. 1121 01:08:04,980 --> 01:08:06,530 In unhealthy organiz. 1122 01:08:06,540 --> 01:08:09,090 In in an unhealthy organization. Work, workplace. 1123 01:08:09,090 --> 01:08:10,810 Any other workplace? Any other workplace. 1124 01:08:10,810 --> 01:08:14,290 Any other workplace. Yeah. You outta it. Any other workplace you out it. 1125 01:08:14,290 --> 01:08:15,720 And then on of that 1126 01:08:17,620 --> 01:08:21,860 allegedly financial transgressions with, 1127 01:08:22,330 --> 01:08:23,220 with the money. 1128 01:08:23,610 --> 01:08:24,443 Mm-hmm. . 1129 01:08:25,960 --> 01:08:29,900 Not refunding season ticket holders and withholding, 1130 01:08:30,670 --> 01:08:33,140 uh, revenue to the league, 1131 01:08:33,300 --> 01:08:36,460 which impacts the rest of the owners of the league. Mm-hmm. 1132 01:08:36,500 --> 01:08:37,260 . 1133 01:08:37,260 --> 01:08:39,070 That's all this. But. 1134 01:08:41,540 --> 01:08:42,630 That's sad man. 1135 01:08:42,980 --> 01:08:44,110 It's still seated. 1136 01:08:49,020 --> 01:08:50,310 That's sad man. 1137 01:08:52,840 --> 01:08:57,830 So it doesn't give me much hope knowing that the biggest problem 1138 01:08:58,670 --> 01:09:01,270 ain't ain't getting swapped out. 1139 01:09:01,620 --> 01:09:02,453 Mm-hmm. . 1140 01:09:03,350 --> 01:09:07,140 So I can't get excited really, to be honest the way I feel. 1141 01:09:07,290 --> 01:09:12,220 I can't get excited if Ron Rivera and Scott Turner and all those other guys are 1142 01:09:12,220 --> 01:09:16,410 gone. I can't get excited because the biggest problem, he, 1143 01:09:16,410 --> 01:09:17,970 he is not gone. Right. 1144 01:09:19,290 --> 01:09:20,123 And. 1145 01:09:20,200 --> 01:09:23,510 To me, we're never, we're never going to win. We never going to. 1146 01:09:23,510 --> 01:09:26,710 Win when it starts like that. Even though I don't believe in curses, 1147 01:09:27,470 --> 01:09:28,830 Karma is a mother. 1148 01:09:29,300 --> 01:09:31,550 I do not believe we will win with him there. 1149 01:09:31,700 --> 01:09:36,700 Yeah. I mean what's the best predictor of the future? The past. The. 1150 01:09:36,700 --> 01:09:37,090 Past. 1151 01:09:37,090 --> 01:09:37,940 Your history. 1152 01:09:39,550 --> 01:09:44,240 Past performance is not a guarantee of future. 1153 01:09:44,940 --> 01:09:46,800 But it is a. 1154 01:09:46,800 --> 01:09:47,800 Good barometer. 1155 01:09:48,270 --> 01:09:52,200 A good barometer to help, to help, to help predict future. 1156 01:09:53,100 --> 01:09:57,700 You know what I mean? It's just like, has has has any, like, 1157 01:09:58,220 --> 01:09:59,140 would would, 1158 01:09:59,140 --> 01:10:02,940 would somebody make a prediction that a running back is going to run for a have 1159 01:10:02,940 --> 01:10:07,770 a 5,000 yard season? No, no one would make that kind of prediction. 1160 01:10:07,770 --> 01:10:12,610 Why? Because that no running back has even had a 3000 yard season. 1161 01:10:12,610 --> 01:10:13,443 Right. 1162 01:10:14,250 --> 01:10:18,440 There's only a few in history that have gone over is a handful, 1163 01:10:18,440 --> 01:10:21,880 maybe five or six that might have went over 2000 yards. So. 1164 01:10:21,880 --> 01:10:23,360 2200 That tops. 1165 01:10:23,360 --> 01:10:27,240 Right? Tops. Yeah. So we know from past 1166 01:10:28,920 --> 01:10:31,120 somebody sets the bar of 5,000. We know that's ridiculous. 1167 01:10:31,360 --> 01:10:31,970 Right. 1168 01:10:31,970 --> 01:10:33,880 So we use the past to try to, 1169 01:10:34,130 --> 01:10:38,800 to try to gain some rational idea what future can do. Well. 1170 01:10:39,030 --> 01:10:40,480 Yeah. Look, this. 1171 01:10:40,480 --> 01:10:44,200 Guy , we the six, um, since he took over, 1172 01:10:44,990 --> 01:10:46,920 I believe it's, 1173 01:10:46,920 --> 01:10:51,880 I believe we the sixth losing is, if that's a word, 1174 01:10:51,880 --> 01:10:55,520 losing this. Mm-hmm. , we, we we are, we have lost 1175 01:10:57,280 --> 01:11:01,510 uh, we're sixth in losing since he's take taken over. 1176 01:11:01,570 --> 01:11:02,403 And climbing. 1177 01:11:02,710 --> 01:11:05,350 Probably. And climbing um, the stadium. 1178 01:11:06,490 --> 01:11:06,840 Oh. 1179 01:11:06,840 --> 01:11:11,200 Out of the stadiums that was rated in the NFL were stadium was rated worst. 1180 01:11:11,860 --> 01:11:16,160 And they tried to put glamour shot in there of the club level in the game 1181 01:11:16,160 --> 01:11:20,760 yesterday. CBS, the Joe Gibbs level. It was empty. 1182 01:11:21,310 --> 01:11:25,240 I remember when that first stadium first opened that that Joe Gibbs level was 1183 01:11:25,920 --> 01:11:26,753 packed. 1184 01:11:26,830 --> 01:11:30,880 It's not a club level for real. I mean we went to a real club level. 1185 01:11:31,640 --> 01:11:32,473 . 1186 01:11:33,720 --> 01:11:34,840 There you go. It's gonna. 1187 01:11:34,840 --> 01:11:37,760 It's not, I mean it's really not a club level. It's just. 1188 01:11:37,930 --> 01:11:41,440 To, I listen to it game to, to, I listen. It's a little bit, I'm sorry. 1189 01:11:41,440 --> 01:11:43,880 Do you see the wound? I open it up with this topic. 1190 01:11:43,960 --> 01:11:44,880 Today . 1191 01:11:45,420 --> 01:11:47,760 And he, he only watched three minutes of the game. 1192 01:11:48,150 --> 01:11:51,640 It's just a little bit. I mean club level experience at, at, 1193 01:11:51,640 --> 01:11:54,840 at FedEx is just a little bit better food. That's it. 1194 01:11:56,530 --> 01:11:59,220 It's just a tad. It's warm. Look, it's not. 1195 01:11:59,330 --> 01:12:02,500 It's warm instead of cold, it's warm instead of cold. 1196 01:12:03,300 --> 01:12:06,340 . It's not really club level. If you compare it to. 1197 01:12:07,910 --> 01:12:08,500 So far. 1198 01:12:08,500 --> 01:12:10,500 Stadium that got a real club level. 1199 01:12:10,670 --> 01:12:14,500 Oh my god. We taking a trip out to sofa this year, next year. 1200 01:12:14,500 --> 01:12:16,100 I'm not gonna lie, I'm not, you. 1201 01:12:16,100 --> 01:12:16,860 Know, we're taking a guy's. 1202 01:12:16,860 --> 01:12:17,740 Trip uh, you know, kept. 1203 01:12:17,740 --> 01:12:20,100 Anybody want to go with us, we going, we going, 1204 01:12:20,100 --> 01:12:22,540 we gonna create an event for us to go out to SoFi. 1205 01:12:22,540 --> 01:12:24,940 Cuz that's the only like killer stadium we ain't go to. 1206 01:12:25,040 --> 01:12:28,340 And the reason he's on that tip of the club level cuz we went to that Raider 1207 01:12:28,340 --> 01:12:29,220 stadium and that. 1208 01:12:30,010 --> 01:12:31,340 That was a club level. 1209 01:12:31,340 --> 01:12:33,980 And we was on the club level , I did not. 1210 01:12:34,180 --> 01:12:35,780 Leave previous. 1211 01:12:35,960 --> 01:12:40,540 The bar and the club level level until four minutes left in the game. 1212 01:12:41,420 --> 01:12:41,800 . 1213 01:12:41,800 --> 01:12:45,580 And now for those of you saying, oh Reggie, you getting on, 1214 01:12:45,580 --> 01:12:49,500 Well Ray used to work at FedEx doing the Redskin game. 1215 01:12:49,630 --> 01:12:54,180 So he is certified to comment the, the difference between the two. 1216 01:12:54,610 --> 01:12:55,443 Yeah. 1217 01:12:55,450 --> 01:12:56,380 Yeah. . 1218 01:12:56,700 --> 01:12:57,820 Trust and believe. 1219 01:12:58,660 --> 01:12:59,493 . 1220 01:12:59,620 --> 01:13:01,340 FedEx feels some bullshit. 1221 01:13:02,020 --> 01:13:02,853 . 1222 01:13:07,040 --> 01:13:11,140 But it could be better. It could be better. It could be better. I wouldn't, 1223 01:13:11,140 --> 01:13:15,180 I wouldn't go to Asper. I blow that Joan up just like they did uh, Atlanta. 1224 01:13:15,600 --> 01:13:16,900 Yep. And make it and. 1225 01:13:16,900 --> 01:13:20,300 Make it dome. Cause you got the infrastructure right there Schneider. 1226 01:13:20,300 --> 01:13:24,220 But see you a stupid some bitch that wouldn't do nothing like that. 1227 01:13:24,600 --> 01:13:25,020 Yep. 1228 01:13:25,020 --> 01:13:29,300 You could have really you put it back in DC location which would've been really 1229 01:13:29,300 --> 01:13:29,920 nice. 1230 01:13:29,920 --> 01:13:32,220 But you still got a good one out here in land over. 1231 01:13:32,250 --> 01:13:33,300 Land over there. Cause you. 1232 01:13:33,300 --> 01:13:34,140 Own the land. 1233 01:13:34,220 --> 01:13:36,900 Cause you own the land. Yeah. Well I can tell you right now, 1234 01:13:36,900 --> 01:13:39,300 if they go out to Ashburn, I'm not going to no games. 1235 01:13:39,370 --> 01:13:40,160 Yeah. 1236 01:13:40,160 --> 01:13:41,140 And especially. 1237 01:13:41,770 --> 01:13:45,380 I heard they was making mortgage payments for people yesterday giving away 1238 01:13:45,380 --> 01:13:46,180 tickets. 1239 01:13:46,180 --> 01:13:47,013 . 1240 01:13:47,330 --> 01:13:50,100 That's how empty the stadium was man. Yeah. 1241 01:13:50,100 --> 01:13:52,820 They was guaranteeing one month mortgage payments . 1242 01:13:53,210 --> 01:13:57,180 Yeah. Well attendance has been abysmal. It's really been abysmal. 1243 01:13:57,180 --> 01:13:58,580 Yeah. And it should be do. 1244 01:13:58,580 --> 01:14:02,980 And I know you guys are listening but yeah we saying all this stuff cuz we keep 1245 01:14:02,980 --> 01:14:06,980 it 100. Yeah. That don't get it. But don't get it twisted. We, we, 1246 01:14:06,990 --> 01:14:10,420 we will never become a fan of another. 1247 01:14:10,490 --> 01:14:13,760 I will will never be no a fan of another team. 1248 01:14:13,940 --> 01:14:18,720 I'm stuck with the commanders. I ride with the commanders but I on the same, 1249 01:14:18,720 --> 01:14:23,560 on the same sense I keep in 100. Yep. I'm not gonna be a delusional. 1250 01:14:24,770 --> 01:14:26,280 Um, anything's possible. 1251 01:14:26,590 --> 01:14:30,680 Season And that's where we apologizing for anything you can be hopeful in the 1252 01:14:30,680 --> 01:14:34,480 preseason cuz everything's on paper. But what we've seen outta five games. 1253 01:14:35,230 --> 01:14:37,040 Yeah. Uh, yeah. I mean and we, 1254 01:14:37,040 --> 01:14:41,520 well when we know about week two mm-hmm what's going on, you know, 1255 01:14:41,520 --> 01:14:45,240 the last couple of weeks probably what's going on the rest of the season ain 1256 01:14:45,440 --> 01:14:46,960 ain't gonna be a real surprise. 1257 01:14:47,470 --> 01:14:50,720 Yeah man. And, and look we got Thursday night football. 1258 01:14:51,950 --> 01:14:53,000 Yeah we do. We. 1259 01:14:53,000 --> 01:14:53,400 Playing the. 1260 01:14:53,400 --> 01:14:55,400 Best. I match. I don't know how we got on there. 1261 01:14:56,770 --> 01:15:00,160 We playing there, we, we playing how two games in five days? 1262 01:15:00,880 --> 01:15:03,040 Think they ready . 1263 01:15:04,730 --> 01:15:06,080 Oh. What D story make? 1264 01:15:06,530 --> 01:15:09,880 Oh boy. So that was our delectable dessert. I hope, 1265 01:15:09,950 --> 01:15:14,280 I hope everybody got a good laugh out about pain. Pain. 1266 01:15:15,020 --> 01:15:18,160 And this is, this is pain that we're not vested. 1267 01:15:18,330 --> 01:15:22,200 So you can imagine the fanatics that live here in DC that call into the talk 1268 01:15:22,200 --> 01:15:26,520 radio on nine 80 and all these other stations and yeah. 1269 01:15:29,480 --> 01:15:30,040 These. 1270 01:15:30,040 --> 01:15:31,920 Jokers was hurting. 1271 01:15:32,190 --> 01:15:33,080 Yeah, they are. 1272 01:15:33,150 --> 01:15:34,880 They are. Oh man. I can make, 1273 01:15:35,150 --> 01:15:40,080 I can make fun of this abysmal and talk about this abysmal, uh, 1274 01:15:40,360 --> 01:15:43,320 dumpster fire of a team. But you know, it's my team. 1275 01:15:43,590 --> 01:15:46,760 It's my team. I have the, and I know I got, I gotta laugh to keep. 1276 01:15:46,910 --> 01:15:50,680 I wear, I wear the colors every Monday. Mm-hmm. every Monday. 1277 01:15:50,870 --> 01:15:55,640 Except today, if you saw me today, but I had on some red skin stuff earlier. 1278 01:15:55,670 --> 01:15:59,920 Mm-hmm. . I literally, literally red skin stuff. Um, and, and, 1279 01:15:59,940 --> 01:16:04,920 and I wore red skin stuff this weekend cuz my boy Brandon was a skin fan to 1280 01:16:04,920 --> 01:16:06,960 the Repa. Yeah. Yeah. But, uh. 1281 01:16:07,550 --> 01:16:09,000 They still, our team good. 1282 01:16:09,000 --> 01:16:13,920 I mean we keeping the 100 and what all I can't get on the 95 1283 01:16:13,920 --> 01:16:15,840 north bandwagon. I respect the. 1284 01:16:16,190 --> 01:16:20,680 I respect them. I respect them. They doing great things. I, I, I like good play. 1285 01:16:20,990 --> 01:16:24,680 Like I said, I watched the game last night. I, I was half falling asleep on it, 1286 01:16:24,680 --> 01:16:27,960 but I watched it and guess, guess how I watched it, Reggie, 1287 01:16:27,960 --> 01:16:31,080 guess how I watched it? I watched it in the Oculus. 1288 01:16:32,130 --> 01:16:33,960 Oh, sweet. . 1289 01:16:34,390 --> 01:16:34,980 I pulled up. 1290 01:16:34,980 --> 01:16:36,840 You know, that wasn't, that wasn't, 1291 01:16:36,840 --> 01:16:41,040 I had Oculus years ago and it wasn't prime time. Really? Yeah. But, um, 1292 01:16:41,530 --> 01:16:41,880 Oh. 1293 01:16:41,880 --> 01:16:45,480 Man. But you can watch YouTube TV and the Oculus. Yeah. And, 1294 01:16:45,480 --> 01:16:47,400 and that's all I have. I cut the cord, so. 1295 01:16:47,590 --> 01:16:49,040 That's nice, man. 1296 01:16:49,420 --> 01:16:54,100 And my, cuz my wife was watching note and I, you know, 1297 01:16:54,310 --> 01:16:55,740 it was bedtime, like that. 1298 01:16:55,740 --> 01:16:55,970 Movie. 1299 01:16:55,970 --> 01:16:57,300 Yeah. Yeah. And I was like, 1300 01:16:57,800 --> 01:17:02,340 let me put my headphones on and just go grab the oculus and plug in. 1301 01:17:03,260 --> 01:17:08,200 And I, I laid up in bed for probably about 90 minutes and the headphones, 1302 01:17:08,200 --> 01:17:11,040 the headless head, uh, wireless headphones that I had, 1303 01:17:11,040 --> 01:17:13,640 the batteries died Right when she was getting in the bed. 1304 01:17:13,640 --> 01:17:16,080 It was probably like five, 10 minutes left in the game. 1305 01:17:16,820 --> 01:17:20,720 But before that it was all quiet. Mm. You know, 1306 01:17:20,720 --> 01:17:25,450 and I was just laying in the bed on my back, not moving and Nice. 1307 01:17:25,760 --> 01:17:30,570 Then the, then the thing kicked in and the, uh, sound started coming out. 1308 01:17:30,570 --> 01:17:33,890 She was like, Why'd you turn it up? I was like, the, the headphones died. 1309 01:17:34,490 --> 01:17:37,890 and I, I turned it down and watched, uh, 1310 01:17:38,960 --> 01:17:43,300 the field goal kicker make that field goal at the end after Lamar brought them 1311 01:17:43,300 --> 01:17:43,970 down. 1312 01:17:43,970 --> 01:17:44,803 Mm-hmm. . 1313 01:17:45,370 --> 01:17:49,180 Balled out, made all the right decisions. Mm-hmm. 1314 01:17:49,180 --> 01:17:53,660 Decisions played within himself. Played within the moment, got out of his head, 1315 01:17:53,660 --> 01:17:57,860 got out of his own way and just played, just balled. 1316 01:17:58,750 --> 01:18:03,540 He who shall not be named with the number 11 on the other team 1317 01:18:03,540 --> 01:18:06,620 down 95 did the exact opposite. 1318 01:18:06,750 --> 01:18:07,583 Mm. 1319 01:18:08,510 --> 01:18:10,650 Did the exact opposite. The. 1320 01:18:10,650 --> 01:18:12,970 Whole, we wish we could switch those QBs for. 1321 01:18:14,020 --> 01:18:15,590 I wish we could take their back up. 1322 01:18:16,630 --> 01:18:17,310 . 1323 01:18:17,310 --> 01:18:20,270 Cause that's how good an organization they are of 95. 1324 01:18:20,270 --> 01:18:23,510 Yeah. Yeah. A respected organization. 1325 01:18:23,510 --> 01:18:28,230 The owner is highly respected versus the commanders owner. 1326 01:18:28,440 --> 01:18:32,820 Oh yeah. Yep. Well man, we almost at, uh, 1327 01:18:33,090 --> 01:18:38,020 hour and 20 minutes, so I'm about to fade us the black for real brother because, 1328 01:18:38,030 --> 01:18:42,220 uh, yeah, we, we had to come back strong on our first episode. 1329 01:18:42,220 --> 01:18:43,700 Back off hiatus y'all. 1330 01:18:43,730 --> 01:18:45,740 Yeah. Yeah. Good to be. 1331 01:18:45,740 --> 01:18:48,100 Back. It's great to be back and like I said, 1332 01:18:48,100 --> 01:18:51,540 look forward to the, uh, 1333 01:18:52,130 --> 01:18:55,820 series we had with Dr coming up our next, 1334 01:18:55,820 --> 01:19:00,780 next four episodes and more things to come here 1335 01:19:00,950 --> 01:19:02,380 on order.