1 00:00:00,585 --> 00:00:03,315 - It's once again time to get gutsy with Liz Hall 2 00:00:03,375 --> 00:00:06,355 and her expert guests on the Gutsy Babe Podcast. 3 00:00:09,225 --> 00:00:10,875 - Welcome to the Gutsy Babe Podcast. 4 00:00:11,255 --> 00:00:12,635 I'm your host, Liz Hall. 5 00:00:12,895 --> 00:00:16,275 On today's show, we'll be talking to our guest, Beth Valli. 6 00:00:16,665 --> 00:00:19,075 Beth calls herself a motherhood story coach 7 00:00:19,145 --> 00:00:22,115 because she believes that discovering, exploring 8 00:00:22,135 --> 00:00:23,235 and clearing the stories 9 00:00:23,415 --> 00:00:26,835 and interpretations we carry about motherhood shifts us 10 00:00:26,945 --> 00:00:28,035 into greater freedom. 11 00:00:28,695 --> 00:00:31,115 At 42, her unexpected journey 12 00:00:31,135 --> 00:00:34,315 of missing motherhood plunged her into profound grief, 13 00:00:34,545 --> 00:00:37,435 steeped in the childless, not by choice community. 14 00:00:37,895 --> 00:00:40,915 She assumed she would coach women like herself, 15 00:00:41,135 --> 00:00:43,795 but digging into the issue led her to realize 16 00:00:43,945 --> 00:00:46,795 that childless, not by choice, women are a symptom 17 00:00:46,935 --> 00:00:48,635 of a cultural root cause. 18 00:00:49,185 --> 00:00:51,515 This realization paved the way for her, 19 00:00:51,585 --> 00:00:54,195 blow up the clock program, blow up the clock, 20 00:00:54,275 --> 00:00:56,555 empowers women still on their way to motherhood, 21 00:00:56,655 --> 00:00:59,595 to unravel societal notions holding them back. 22 00:00:59,725 --> 00:01:01,595 These women, often career driven, 23 00:01:01,705 --> 00:01:04,115 have usually silenced this aspect of life 24 00:01:04,255 --> 00:01:06,395 and are awaiting a distant someday. 25 00:01:06,975 --> 00:01:09,475 Beth's program helps them discover their vision, 26 00:01:09,925 --> 00:01:11,315 bring action to their journey, 27 00:01:11,575 --> 00:01:14,275 and redefine someday on their own terms. 28 00:01:15,155 --> 00:01:17,805 Beth, it's great to have you on the Gutsy Babe podcast. 29 00:01:18,465 --> 00:01:20,045 - Thanks, Liz. It's so awesome 30 00:01:20,105 --> 00:01:21,645 to be here. I'm so glad that we met. 31 00:01:22,235 --> 00:01:24,045 - Yeah, I'm very interested in this topic 32 00:01:24,225 --> 00:01:25,885 and excited for our conversation. 33 00:01:26,405 --> 00:01:29,965 I too have direct experience with this, so I can so relate. 34 00:01:30,625 --> 00:01:34,645 So can you share a little more about how you got involved 35 00:01:34,725 --> 00:01:35,845 with this type of coaching? 36 00:01:36,875 --> 00:01:38,935 - So, as you said in the intro, I am someone 37 00:01:38,955 --> 00:01:39,975 who missed motherhood. 38 00:01:40,475 --> 00:01:44,695 Um, at 42, my body dece decided to shut down. 39 00:01:45,275 --> 00:01:47,335 Um, I actually went into perimenopause at 37 40 00:01:47,955 --> 00:01:49,615 and then at 42 into full menopause, 41 00:01:49,625 --> 00:01:53,855 which was not expected at all, very, very early for a woman. 42 00:01:54,635 --> 00:01:57,455 So that left me in a space where I was 43 00:01:58,005 --> 00:01:59,495 dealing with years of grief. 44 00:02:00,235 --> 00:02:03,455 Um, and I was actually just coming out of my grief 45 00:02:03,515 --> 00:02:05,495 of my divorce that I went through at 36. 46 00:02:05,635 --> 00:02:08,735 And then on top of all of it, just when twinges 47 00:02:08,735 --> 00:02:11,495 of joy started to come back, Yeah. 48 00:02:11,775 --> 00:02:13,015 I was plunged into this. 49 00:02:13,475 --> 00:02:16,335 Um, and there's just a wall that you hit 50 00:02:17,095 --> 00:02:19,985 that you don't even understand or don't expect. 51 00:02:20,045 --> 00:02:23,305 You can never fully anticipate what that feels like 52 00:02:23,325 --> 00:02:25,705 to suddenly hit that wall of this thing 53 00:02:25,705 --> 00:02:27,865 that you thought about happening in your life. 54 00:02:28,495 --> 00:02:29,905 Just not ever happening. 55 00:02:30,485 --> 00:02:32,865 Not in the way you imagined it, not biologically. 56 00:02:33,355 --> 00:02:36,295 - Right. - And so, you know, 57 00:02:36,295 --> 00:02:39,615 after many years of working through that grief, um, 58 00:02:39,895 --> 00:02:42,015 I really thought at once I became a coach, 59 00:02:42,255 --> 00:02:44,135 I would coach other women like myself. 60 00:02:44,875 --> 00:02:47,015 I'm part of a child that's not by choice community 61 00:02:47,035 --> 00:02:48,215 for women all around the world. 62 00:02:48,915 --> 00:02:50,535 And I thought those would be my people. 63 00:02:51,235 --> 00:02:53,175 And as I was doing writing, 64 00:02:53,355 --> 00:02:55,175 so this is the great thing about social media 65 00:02:55,495 --> 00:02:59,485 'cause it forced me to tap into writing about everything 66 00:02:59,555 --> 00:03:00,805 that I was about. 67 00:03:01,385 --> 00:03:04,045 And as I did it, it occurred to me one day, which 68 00:03:04,045 --> 00:03:05,245 by the way, happened in Aruba 69 00:03:05,245 --> 00:03:06,725 where I was living at the time. 70 00:03:07,185 --> 00:03:08,845 So like it was a great setting 71 00:03:08,945 --> 00:03:10,325 for all this to happen, but just 72 00:03:10,535 --> 00:03:11,765 - There was, yeah, 73 00:03:11,865 --> 00:03:15,045 - It was, but I realized, I was like, huh, 74 00:03:15,665 --> 00:03:17,845 I'm a symptom in our culture. 75 00:03:18,325 --> 00:03:20,925 I am not a root cause. What is the root cause? 76 00:03:21,105 --> 00:03:24,805 Why is it that one in five women in the western world on 77 00:03:24,805 --> 00:03:26,325 average are childless? 78 00:03:26,325 --> 00:03:28,925 Not by choice? I'm gonna say, actually, 79 00:03:28,945 --> 00:03:31,285 I'm gonna say are childless the majority 80 00:03:31,345 --> 00:03:32,525 of those not by choice. 81 00:03:32,765 --> 00:03:35,485 'cause some people intentionally choose it. Right? Right. 82 00:03:35,555 --> 00:03:38,405 They want to be what? That's what we refer to as child free. 83 00:03:38,875 --> 00:03:42,645 - Correct. - And so why was this happening? 84 00:03:43,145 --> 00:03:47,085 And as I was writing, I feel I got a divine download. 85 00:03:47,115 --> 00:03:50,445 Like this is just, there's stuff going on in our culture 86 00:03:50,445 --> 00:03:51,685 that we're not paying attention to. 87 00:03:52,505 --> 00:03:54,005 And it got me super curious. 88 00:03:55,215 --> 00:03:59,635 So I started looking at that, which led me to a whole lot 89 00:03:59,635 --> 00:04:01,555 of findings, which I'm sure we're gonna get into. 90 00:04:01,775 --> 00:04:04,635 Mm-Hmm. . But that really is my story of how I got 91 00:04:04,635 --> 00:04:05,755 to be a motherhood story coach. 92 00:04:06,915 --> 00:04:08,755 I actually, the term itself, 93 00:04:08,765 --> 00:04:11,075 which I ne I don't know if I ever would've come up with 94 00:04:11,075 --> 00:04:12,555 that myself, came from a friend 95 00:04:12,555 --> 00:04:13,955 of mine who is a marketing person. 96 00:04:14,235 --> 00:04:15,475 I was in her marketing group 97 00:04:16,135 --> 00:04:17,875 and she said, you're a motherhood story coach. 98 00:04:17,895 --> 00:04:19,115 And I was like, what does that mean? 99 00:04:19,135 --> 00:04:22,555 It even took me a while to like feel comfortable 100 00:04:23,465 --> 00:04:24,555 holding that title. 101 00:04:24,865 --> 00:04:26,035 Like, and adopting it. 102 00:04:26,065 --> 00:04:29,355 Digesting it, because I just didn't get it. 103 00:04:29,515 --> 00:04:31,355 'cause it's so different. Right. 104 00:04:31,535 --> 00:04:34,315 And the way I like to describe it now is like this, 105 00:04:35,615 --> 00:04:39,035 you may know coaches who are consider themselves money 106 00:04:39,035 --> 00:04:40,755 coaches or abundance coaches. 107 00:04:40,885 --> 00:04:43,795 Right. And what you do is you work with them to look at all 108 00:04:43,795 --> 00:04:46,115 of your stories and all the things that you have 109 00:04:46,425 --> 00:04:48,995 that are holding you back from the financial abundance 110 00:04:48,995 --> 00:04:50,355 that you want in your life. 111 00:04:50,945 --> 00:04:52,635 Well, I'm doing the same thing with motherhood. 112 00:04:53,385 --> 00:04:55,395 What are all the stories and the things that you're holding 113 00:04:55,745 --> 00:04:57,795 that are keeping you stuck? 114 00:04:57,895 --> 00:05:01,595 And often women are very stuck in this spinning 115 00:05:01,825 --> 00:05:03,955 that they don't even realize A lot of times they're in 116 00:05:05,065 --> 00:05:06,275 that are holding them back 117 00:05:06,465 --> 00:05:07,715 from getting that thing they want. 118 00:05:07,935 --> 00:05:12,075 Or from even being able to decide if they want it. Right. 119 00:05:12,375 --> 00:05:16,595 Mm-Hmm. , there's just so much cultural, uh, clutter 120 00:05:16,615 --> 00:05:19,555 as I like to call it, that we're living in. 121 00:05:20,095 --> 00:05:23,155 And so this is, this is what I help women do. I help them. 122 00:05:23,495 --> 00:05:26,715 And on the other side of all of that is an ownership 123 00:05:26,745 --> 00:05:28,675 that they didn't even know that they could take. 124 00:05:28,705 --> 00:05:31,635 There's an agency that they take on. 125 00:05:31,705 --> 00:05:34,475 It's like, oh, I didn't know I could do this. Wow. 126 00:05:34,535 --> 00:05:37,475 And I didn't realize how much I wasn't paying attention 127 00:05:37,785 --> 00:05:39,235 that I've heard that so many times. 128 00:05:39,895 --> 00:05:42,475 So it's, it's just super cool to watch them come out 129 00:05:42,475 --> 00:05:43,755 of the darkness 130 00:05:43,755 --> 00:05:45,835 and their blindness until like, 131 00:05:45,895 --> 00:05:47,595 own this in a, a completely new way. 132 00:05:48,175 --> 00:05:51,715 - That's beautiful. Um, I'm realizing that we have 133 00:05:51,775 --> 00:05:55,395 so much more in common than I common, but 134 00:05:55,395 --> 00:05:58,285 even - . Yeah. 135 00:05:58,465 --> 00:06:02,045 - So, um, I too went into, um, 136 00:06:02,595 --> 00:06:04,485 menopause at a very early age. 137 00:06:04,785 --> 00:06:07,325 Um, in my early thirties, I had to have a full, 138 00:06:08,035 --> 00:06:09,405 full on hysterectomy. 139 00:06:10,225 --> 00:06:13,165 Um, and it all started with, uh, trying 140 00:06:13,165 --> 00:06:16,045 to have children see the, it's the story 141 00:06:16,045 --> 00:06:17,205 that you've heard a million times 142 00:06:18,345 --> 00:06:22,725 and I suffered from endometriosis most of my life. 143 00:06:23,265 --> 00:06:27,325 And with endometriosis, like the hundreds of stories 144 00:06:27,325 --> 00:06:28,885 that you've heard, it's hard to diagnose. 145 00:06:29,045 --> 00:06:30,765 I went to, I can't even tell you 146 00:06:30,765 --> 00:06:35,245 how many countless doctors up until the time I was trying 147 00:06:35,245 --> 00:06:37,685 to have, you know, a family with, with my husband. 148 00:06:38,025 --> 00:06:41,965 And that's when I finally get diagnosed, come to find out 149 00:06:41,965 --> 00:06:43,805 that it was too late for me to even have children. 150 00:06:44,385 --> 00:06:46,205 So I had to make the harsh decision 151 00:06:46,385 --> 00:06:48,325 of having a full on hysterectomy. 152 00:06:48,325 --> 00:06:51,485 Right. And then going into full on menopause. 153 00:06:51,665 --> 00:06:54,725 And they don't share any of like, you don't know any 154 00:06:54,725 --> 00:06:57,205 of the feelings or any of the grief 155 00:06:57,705 --> 00:07:00,245 or even knowing that you're gonna go into menopause right 156 00:07:00,245 --> 00:07:03,885 after that surgery within like a day after the surgery. 157 00:07:05,045 --> 00:07:07,945 Wow. But yeah, it was a hard decision. 158 00:07:08,525 --> 00:07:11,625 And we did try for many years. 159 00:07:12,165 --> 00:07:15,625 We even fostered a little two little girls for a while. Mm. 160 00:07:16,125 --> 00:07:20,945 Wow. But I think that what you're doing is, 161 00:07:21,635 --> 00:07:23,285 like you said, is from a pain point. 162 00:07:23,415 --> 00:07:25,285 Right. And when it's from a pain point, 163 00:07:25,945 --> 00:07:28,405 you are being truly authentic 164 00:07:28,985 --> 00:07:30,965 and you're sharing your story 165 00:07:31,545 --> 00:07:35,925 and you are helping other women like myself to empower us 166 00:07:36,025 --> 00:07:37,525 and know that you're right. 167 00:07:37,525 --> 00:07:41,005 It is a cultural issue and we need to be okay 168 00:07:41,145 --> 00:07:42,885 and bring it up to the public 169 00:07:43,145 --> 00:07:44,765 and have women say, this is okay, 170 00:07:45,145 --> 00:07:48,805 and it's okay to blow up the clock and empower yourself. 171 00:07:49,425 --> 00:07:51,405 And for me, I'm religious. 172 00:07:51,425 --> 00:07:54,845 So what helped me, I had to say, well, this is 173 00:07:54,845 --> 00:07:55,925 what my path is. 174 00:07:56,545 --> 00:07:59,445 God gave me a path that I have to move forward and accept. 175 00:07:59,785 --> 00:08:03,405 And I had to heal myself knowing that it was okay for us 176 00:08:03,665 --> 00:08:06,365 and we didn't have to have a child in our life 177 00:08:06,465 --> 00:08:08,245 to have a beautiful family. 178 00:08:08,295 --> 00:08:10,485 Still. Can you share a couple 179 00:08:10,505 --> 00:08:13,165 of success stories about a client that you've helped? 180 00:08:13,715 --> 00:08:15,725 Like right now, you're helping me, so thank you . 181 00:08:16,265 --> 00:08:19,165 - Thanks. Thank you. Um, for sure. 182 00:08:19,325 --> 00:08:20,725 I love sharing these stories. 183 00:08:20,945 --> 00:08:22,725 So I will not use their real names. . 184 00:08:23,905 --> 00:08:28,645 Um, there of course was was a woman who, I mean, 185 00:08:28,885 --> 00:08:30,765 I call these my early adopters, right? 186 00:08:31,025 --> 00:08:34,285 So I just started my program for the first time in 2021. 187 00:08:34,745 --> 00:08:38,885 And the people that were in my course originally were both 188 00:08:39,885 --> 00:08:41,405 powerful coaches, people who went 189 00:08:41,405 --> 00:08:43,005 through the same coaching program I did. 190 00:08:43,025 --> 00:08:46,125 People who believe in transformation 191 00:08:46,265 --> 00:08:48,525 and live their lives on purpose. 192 00:08:49,465 --> 00:08:53,325 People who design their lives and how they wanna them. 193 00:08:54,065 --> 00:08:56,945 And when I went to them, to this one particular woman, 194 00:08:57,085 --> 00:08:59,345 and I told her about it, she said, huh, 195 00:09:00,235 --> 00:09:01,945 she's very, a very intentional person. 196 00:09:01,955 --> 00:09:04,885 She's like, wow, I never even thought about 197 00:09:04,885 --> 00:09:06,085 this part of my life before. 198 00:09:07,035 --> 00:09:09,205 Like, how did I miss that? Right? 199 00:09:09,265 --> 00:09:13,005 She speaks to what's going on in our culture, right? 200 00:09:13,185 --> 00:09:15,845 But there's just this even an awareness that we need 201 00:09:15,845 --> 00:09:17,405 to think about it or talk about it. 202 00:09:18,655 --> 00:09:21,815 And she's like, huh, because I realize 203 00:09:22,165 --> 00:09:24,175 that I haven't talked about it, 204 00:09:24,395 --> 00:09:27,015 or I'm not doing anything about it, giving it no attention. 205 00:09:27,535 --> 00:09:31,015 I think I need to join this program. So she did. 206 00:09:31,035 --> 00:09:34,275 She was in my first cohort cohort 207 00:09:34,275 --> 00:09:36,955 and she was the person who came in saying what many, 208 00:09:36,955 --> 00:09:38,875 many women say Mm-Hmm. , 209 00:09:39,375 --> 00:09:41,355 why do I have to be intentional about something 210 00:09:41,355 --> 00:09:42,435 that should just be natural? 211 00:09:43,195 --> 00:09:44,195 I if I had a, you know, 212 00:09:44,195 --> 00:09:45,635 a hundred dollars for every time I heard that . 213 00:09:47,335 --> 00:09:51,675 And also this idea of 214 00:09:52,575 --> 00:09:55,995 I'm, so, it's like this fear about this 215 00:09:55,995 --> 00:09:57,355 concept of being a mom. 216 00:09:57,385 --> 00:10:01,875 Because as she would say, I feel bombarded with 217 00:10:02,455 --> 00:10:06,155 the image of the tired, exhausted, sad mom. 218 00:10:06,815 --> 00:10:09,715 And I don't wanna be that. Like, why should I, this is 219 00:10:09,715 --> 00:10:11,475 what I feel I'm up against. 220 00:10:13,255 --> 00:10:15,395 And throughout the course of the program, 221 00:10:16,185 --> 00:10:17,715 I'll just tell you where she ended up. 222 00:10:18,705 --> 00:10:21,685 At the end of it all, she was like, I realize 223 00:10:22,355 --> 00:10:23,405 that I can own this. 224 00:10:24,005 --> 00:10:26,205 I realize that I can make this what I want it to be. 225 00:10:26,885 --> 00:10:28,245 I realize that no matter 226 00:10:28,245 --> 00:10:30,565 what happens in my life, I'm gonna be okay. 227 00:10:31,545 --> 00:10:32,965 And I'm gonna tell you she does have a 228 00:10:32,965 --> 00:10:34,565 child , which is awesome. 229 00:10:34,665 --> 00:10:36,965 She, she and her husband now have a child. 230 00:10:37,265 --> 00:10:40,045 Um, but that was just so cool to be part 231 00:10:40,045 --> 00:10:41,125 of that journey with her. 232 00:10:41,305 --> 00:10:43,485 And I mean, I feel honestly like I did 233 00:10:43,485 --> 00:10:45,205 so little other than create a container 234 00:10:45,205 --> 00:10:47,765 because she's just such a powerful person herself. 235 00:10:48,185 --> 00:10:49,405 And this is what's so cool. 236 00:10:49,725 --> 00:10:51,365 I get to work with all these amazing people. 237 00:10:51,645 --> 00:10:54,965 'cause the women who, the women who come in are going 238 00:10:54,965 --> 00:10:58,325 to be women who have some kind of self-awareness already. 239 00:10:58,835 --> 00:11:01,525 They're already people who have been doing the work. Mm-Hmm. 240 00:11:01,625 --> 00:11:04,885 people who realize they need a little more support 241 00:11:05,585 --> 00:11:08,085 to move them forward in this dream in their life. 242 00:11:09,485 --> 00:11:11,705 And so that's, those are the people that enter. 243 00:11:12,135 --> 00:11:15,545 It's not somebody who's not thinking it about it at all. 244 00:11:15,885 --> 00:11:17,945 And, you know, doesn't, 245 00:11:17,945 --> 00:11:19,665 don't ever look at themselves like that. 246 00:11:19,855 --> 00:11:21,705 I've had some women like that come to me, 247 00:11:21,725 --> 00:11:24,105 but it freaks them out and they run away. 248 00:11:24,565 --> 00:11:26,825 So it's pretty much what happens. . 249 00:11:29,685 --> 00:11:31,585 But yeah. So that's one of the stories. 250 00:11:31,765 --> 00:11:34,915 Um, I'll actually talk about, uh, a woman 251 00:11:34,975 --> 00:11:37,275 who just finished doing the program with me. 252 00:11:37,455 --> 00:11:41,275 She, again, another coach . Yeah. Powerful person. 253 00:11:43,105 --> 00:11:46,605 And within the first month of doing the program, 254 00:11:46,745 --> 00:11:48,525 and this is not the first time this has happened, 255 00:11:49,345 --> 00:11:52,605 she met her person, like who she thinks she's going, 256 00:11:52,745 --> 00:11:54,085 who she's planning to marry it, 257 00:11:54,085 --> 00:11:55,485 that they're already talking about it. 258 00:11:55,485 --> 00:11:58,245 Like this happens because when we open up, as you know, 259 00:11:58,245 --> 00:11:59,525 we are integrated beings. 260 00:12:00,185 --> 00:12:02,325 And if you think of the world 261 00:12:02,425 --> 00:12:06,085 or our lives as like a room with doors, 262 00:12:06,985 --> 00:12:09,445 the motherhood door gets completely neglected. 263 00:12:09,445 --> 00:12:12,165 And often we just have cobwebs that are over it. Right. 264 00:12:12,425 --> 00:12:14,285 We don't open it until we absolutely have to. 265 00:12:15,065 --> 00:12:17,125 And so what I ask them to do, oh, 266 00:12:17,125 --> 00:12:18,365 lemme go back to this though. 267 00:12:19,195 --> 00:12:24,105 When behind that door isn't just a contained room. 268 00:12:24,205 --> 00:12:25,745 It is a room that connects 269 00:12:25,745 --> 00:12:27,185 to all the other rooms in our lives. 270 00:12:27,185 --> 00:12:28,825 Right? We are integrated beings 271 00:12:28,825 --> 00:12:31,385 and what's going on in one room affects all the other rooms. 272 00:12:32,405 --> 00:12:36,505 And so when we're not paying attention to that, it has 273 00:12:37,255 --> 00:12:39,345 ramifications for other parts of our lives. 274 00:12:39,845 --> 00:12:43,425 So it's not a surprise when women start to open the door 275 00:12:43,565 --> 00:12:46,185 and look at what's inside that room, that other parts 276 00:12:46,185 --> 00:12:47,705 of their lives start to fall into place. 277 00:12:47,975 --> 00:12:49,305 It's just, it's not unusual. 278 00:12:50,065 --> 00:12:52,305 I hear things like, wow, this has changed 279 00:12:52,405 --> 00:12:53,705 how I am in my business. 280 00:12:53,735 --> 00:12:56,385 This has changed how I am in my career. 281 00:12:56,615 --> 00:12:58,825 This has changed my romantic relationship 282 00:12:59,605 --> 00:13:03,545 by just taking the time to pay attention 283 00:13:04,285 --> 00:13:08,505 to do the work that's undergo, uh, with the things 284 00:13:08,505 --> 00:13:09,705 that are going on underneath. 285 00:13:10,825 --> 00:13:12,955 - Right? Yeah. 286 00:13:12,955 --> 00:13:16,275 When you're listening to your inner voice, right. 287 00:13:16,735 --> 00:13:20,395 It does really help. And that resonates with me. 288 00:13:20,455 --> 00:13:24,645 So I I definitely know what you're talking about. Yeah. 289 00:13:25,705 --> 00:13:29,885 Um, what's the procedure for accessing your services 290 00:13:29,985 --> 00:13:32,165 and what should your clients expect from working with you? 291 00:13:33,265 --> 00:13:35,695 - There are lots of ways to access my services. 292 00:13:35,935 --> 00:13:38,095 I have different, you know, entry points for people. 293 00:13:38,355 --> 00:13:40,935 Um, they can easily, I have an assessment 294 00:13:40,965 --> 00:13:42,175 that people can do online. 295 00:13:42,435 --> 00:13:44,775 Mm-Hmm. , it's called your, uh, conscious path 296 00:13:44,775 --> 00:13:46,055 to motherhood com. 297 00:13:46,835 --> 00:13:48,935 You just go there and it, it just covers all areas 298 00:13:49,035 --> 00:13:51,855 of your life, from health to mindset to community 299 00:13:51,855 --> 00:13:54,135 and support to get an assessment of 300 00:13:54,225 --> 00:13:56,095 where you stand in relationship 301 00:13:56,095 --> 00:13:58,695 to your motherhood journey just gives you a view into that. 302 00:13:59,275 --> 00:14:01,735 And I also have a text community. 303 00:14:01,795 --> 00:14:05,095 So this is for people who aren't yet ready to talk about it. 304 00:14:05,725 --> 00:14:07,775 - Yeah. - They can just sign up for it. 305 00:14:07,775 --> 00:14:09,295 And I send out a text once a week 306 00:14:09,295 --> 00:14:10,975 that asks a question they may not 307 00:14:10,975 --> 00:14:12,175 have considered to ask themselves. 308 00:14:12,765 --> 00:14:14,295 It's just that simple. They don't 309 00:14:14,295 --> 00:14:15,335 even have to interact with me. . 310 00:14:15,765 --> 00:14:20,135 They don't want , . It costs nothing to do. You just 311 00:14:20,485 --> 00:14:21,485 - Sign up. 312 00:14:21,485 --> 00:14:23,895 Yeah. I mean, women are at different stages, right? Yes. 313 00:14:24,395 --> 00:14:27,975 Of how open they are to it. They're still struggling. Right. 314 00:14:28,085 --> 00:14:32,375 Like for me personally, it did take me many years, um, 315 00:14:32,915 --> 00:14:37,655 to accept that, you know, I wasn't, uh, meant to, 316 00:14:38,175 --> 00:14:39,415 I wasn't meant to be a mom. 317 00:14:39,905 --> 00:14:41,095 Right? Mm-Hmm. . Um, 318 00:14:41,155 --> 00:14:45,175 but I also do believe that you could be motherly 319 00:14:46,115 --> 00:14:47,375 in many ways, right? 320 00:14:47,715 --> 00:14:50,695 Um, I feel like I'm a mom to my, to my dog, 321 00:14:50,695 --> 00:14:52,005 Charlie . Mm-Hmm. . 322 00:14:52,305 --> 00:14:56,165 - Mm-Hmm. - . And also to my friends and girlfriends. 323 00:14:56,165 --> 00:14:57,925 Right. Um, there's a lot of things 324 00:14:57,925 --> 00:14:59,965 that you could be motherly at. 325 00:15:00,225 --> 00:15:04,005 And I think that's just for me, that brings me peace. 326 00:15:04,705 --> 00:15:06,215 - Yes, totally. 327 00:15:07,485 --> 00:15:10,265 - But you're right. I do want to mention 328 00:15:10,615 --> 00:15:14,465 that it is a cultural thing that they put a taboo. 329 00:15:14,615 --> 00:15:16,625 Like, oh, you're not a mom. 330 00:15:17,025 --> 00:15:20,185 I mean, I've had till this day I get, you know, 331 00:15:20,385 --> 00:15:21,745 questions like, oh, how many children do you have? 332 00:15:21,765 --> 00:15:25,665 Or Do you have children? And I, I don't get offended at all. 333 00:15:26,245 --> 00:15:29,065 Um, I I just say, no, 334 00:15:30,025 --> 00:15:32,185 I think we don't have children Mm-Hmm. 335 00:15:32,605 --> 00:15:34,425 end of story and move on. And it's okay. 336 00:15:35,245 --> 00:15:38,105 And when I was younger, I was self-conscious about it. 337 00:15:38,925 --> 00:15:42,465 Uh, but I think it comes with age and acceptance 338 00:15:42,925 --> 00:15:45,345 and not letting someone else 339 00:15:46,155 --> 00:15:48,305 their feelings reflect Right. 340 00:15:48,685 --> 00:15:51,945 And project onto how I feel in my life, 341 00:15:52,375 --> 00:15:54,705 because I don't feel like we're missing out on anything. 342 00:15:55,605 --> 00:15:57,305 Um, Yeah. 343 00:15:57,305 --> 00:16:01,825 And I think it's important for, for women to, um, 344 00:16:03,255 --> 00:16:04,555 be they have to go through that process 345 00:16:05,035 --> 00:16:06,235 whenever they're ready for it though. 346 00:16:06,235 --> 00:16:08,035 Right. 'cause everyone has their own stages. 347 00:16:08,985 --> 00:16:10,515 - Yeah. Really. Well said. 348 00:16:10,815 --> 00:16:14,195 And I, you know, I think every woman who's gone through 349 00:16:14,195 --> 00:16:16,035 what we've gone through would say the same thing. 350 00:16:16,425 --> 00:16:17,435 It's difficult. 351 00:16:17,435 --> 00:16:19,275 And you come up against a lot of cultural barriers. 352 00:16:19,815 --> 00:16:24,275 So I'm gonna actually on that, I'm gonna share the story of 353 00:16:24,475 --> 00:16:26,155 what it's been to be a motherhood 354 00:16:26,155 --> 00:16:27,395 story coach without children. 355 00:16:27,975 --> 00:16:32,515 - Yes, please. - And what I've had people say 356 00:16:32,515 --> 00:16:33,795 to me, Yeah. 357 00:16:33,905 --> 00:16:36,795 It's the same thing. Like, as soon as I say what I do, 358 00:16:36,895 --> 00:16:39,235 and I use that term that they'll go, well, are you a mom? 359 00:16:39,665 --> 00:16:41,955 Like, they automatically assume that 360 00:16:41,955 --> 00:16:43,115 that's who I need to be. 361 00:16:43,605 --> 00:16:46,315 - Right. I could see that. I could see that. 362 00:16:46,415 --> 00:16:48,755 And, and that sucks. But you know what? 363 00:16:48,875 --> 00:16:50,915 I think that is actually very empowering for you, . 364 00:16:52,425 --> 00:16:54,275 - Well, it, it isn't at some points. 365 00:16:54,515 --> 00:16:56,035 I mean, I've had to learn how to, 366 00:16:56,635 --> 00:17:00,205 because I was struggling to own it myself, struggling to own 367 00:17:01,075 --> 00:17:02,845 moniker of motherhood story coach. 368 00:17:03,075 --> 00:17:07,075 Like what does that mean? And how can I call myself that? 369 00:17:07,195 --> 00:17:08,995 I mean, talk about imposter syndrome, right? 370 00:17:09,635 --> 00:17:14,595 I even had two coaches who I respect male coaches 371 00:17:15,455 --> 00:17:17,755 say to me, well, people don't go to a coach. 372 00:17:18,385 --> 00:17:21,235 They go to a coach because that coach has what they want. 373 00:17:21,385 --> 00:17:23,435 Like, you're not a mom. Why would they come to you? 374 00:17:24,255 --> 00:17:28,535 And man, that, I remember just as soon as I heard that, I, 375 00:17:28,695 --> 00:17:31,025 I just went into like, 376 00:17:31,465 --> 00:17:34,025 I got hugely triggered . Right? 377 00:17:34,175 --> 00:17:35,505 - Yeah. - You know, and then I was like 378 00:17:35,505 --> 00:17:36,745 trying to process through that. 379 00:17:36,925 --> 00:17:38,105 And it took me a long time. 380 00:17:38,165 --> 00:17:40,185 And it even took me, I mean, 381 00:17:40,185 --> 00:17:41,865 I would say it took me like a year 382 00:17:41,865 --> 00:17:45,145 or more to really have perspective on it. 383 00:17:45,805 --> 00:17:48,145 It still, I still get twinge of it sometimes. 384 00:17:48,905 --> 00:17:51,245 But the thing that really helped to shift it 385 00:17:51,245 --> 00:17:56,025 for me was this, was realizing that in a culture, 386 00:17:56,405 --> 00:17:59,305 in any culture, the people that are in the minority, 387 00:17:59,305 --> 00:18:01,945 which I consider us in the minority Mm-Hmm. , 388 00:18:03,045 --> 00:18:04,145 see the intentional 389 00:18:04,765 --> 00:18:07,145 and unintentional acts of discrimination. 390 00:18:07,145 --> 00:18:10,225 People in the majority only register the intentional 391 00:18:10,225 --> 00:18:11,625 acts of discrimination. 392 00:18:11,725 --> 00:18:12,825 Things that are blatant. 393 00:18:13,335 --> 00:18:15,225 When you're in the minority, you see it all. 394 00:18:15,925 --> 00:18:20,215 And so it gives me a, a sight into this world 395 00:18:20,515 --> 00:18:23,815 and into this whole concept of motherhood in general. 396 00:18:23,925 --> 00:18:26,415 That somebody who has become a mom 397 00:18:26,415 --> 00:18:28,695 and just gotten the, had the path 398 00:18:28,695 --> 00:18:32,675 and got what they wanted that they don't have. 399 00:18:32,855 --> 00:18:34,355 And that's not anything against them, 400 00:18:34,425 --> 00:18:35,795 it's just what their life is. 401 00:18:36,015 --> 00:18:38,435 And I have a completely different perspective. 402 00:18:38,735 --> 00:18:41,115 And so I could see more clearly 403 00:18:41,985 --> 00:18:44,075 what are the things going on in our culture. 404 00:18:44,655 --> 00:18:48,715 And I was listening for the things that women are saying of 405 00:18:48,745 --> 00:18:51,995 what they experience in our culture in a way 406 00:18:51,995 --> 00:18:54,315 through the child is not by choice community, through women 407 00:18:54,315 --> 00:18:55,635 who struggle with infertility, 408 00:18:55,975 --> 00:18:57,955 and then through women who are on their way 409 00:18:58,125 --> 00:18:59,475 still to motherhood. 410 00:18:59,895 --> 00:19:02,275 And what's interesting about is it's all the same , 411 00:19:03,585 --> 00:19:06,355 it's all the same things that we're all stuck in. 412 00:19:06,545 --> 00:19:08,795 It's just we're all at different points. 413 00:19:08,965 --> 00:19:10,515 Kinda like you were talking about with grief. 414 00:19:10,515 --> 00:19:13,435 We're all at different points. Mm-Hmm. in that journey. 415 00:19:13,575 --> 00:19:16,195 And so the women who are still on their way there have this, 416 00:19:17,665 --> 00:19:20,525 there's still this hope that they're, 417 00:19:20,525 --> 00:19:21,925 and this idea that life's just gonna 418 00:19:21,925 --> 00:19:23,045 work out the way that they want. 419 00:19:23,365 --> 00:19:27,805 Right. It's part of that comes with youth , part of it comes 420 00:19:27,805 --> 00:19:29,645 with like not having the experience. 421 00:19:30,705 --> 00:19:34,405 And it's hard for them to grasp 422 00:19:35,115 --> 00:19:37,565 this concept that I'm putting out there 423 00:19:37,565 --> 00:19:39,565 because they're just like, well, I'm fine. 424 00:19:39,825 --> 00:19:42,605 You know, I'll, I'll have a child. You know? 425 00:19:42,705 --> 00:19:45,925 And that's why it takes people who are paying attention 426 00:19:45,985 --> 00:19:50,005 and like aware, do the work and are aware of that. 427 00:19:50,005 --> 00:19:52,725 They need to do the work. Mm-Hmm. to really embrace it. 428 00:19:53,105 --> 00:19:55,685 At least at this point. I'll, I'll tell you, I have, like, 429 00:19:55,755 --> 00:19:57,525 I've looked for other ways to communicate 430 00:19:57,525 --> 00:19:58,805 with women who aren't in that space. 431 00:19:58,825 --> 00:20:01,885 And I finally had to resign, not resign, 432 00:20:01,945 --> 00:20:05,925 but settle on the fact that these are my people. 433 00:20:06,315 --> 00:20:09,005 Like my people are the deep people, the intense people, 434 00:20:09,105 --> 00:20:11,765 the people who do the work, the people who want more. 435 00:20:12,425 --> 00:20:15,005 Um, not someone who who doesn't, it just, 436 00:20:15,155 --> 00:20:16,765 they, it doesn't connect. 437 00:20:17,175 --> 00:20:18,245 Right. Just doesn't connect. 438 00:20:18,535 --> 00:20:20,885 - Right. Well, that makes sense. 439 00:20:21,085 --> 00:20:24,205 I mean, everyone has someone, there's, there's 440 00:20:24,305 --> 00:20:26,005 so many different types of coaches, right? 441 00:20:26,385 --> 00:20:30,245 Yes. And there could also be another motherhood story coach, 442 00:20:30,465 --> 00:20:33,045 but it's gonna give a different perspective 443 00:20:33,105 --> 00:20:34,205 or different Yes. 444 00:20:34,305 --> 00:20:38,125 Energy. And you're going to attract the, 445 00:20:39,345 --> 00:20:42,365 the customers and clients that are attracted to your energy. 446 00:20:42,875 --> 00:20:43,875 - Exactly. 447 00:20:43,875 --> 00:20:44,925 - Mm-Hmm. - . Exactly. 448 00:20:45,555 --> 00:20:46,885 - Well, I'm attracted to your energy 449 00:20:46,885 --> 00:20:49,125 because it, it resonates with me. . 450 00:20:50,555 --> 00:20:54,805 - Awesome. Thank you. Thank you. I appreciate it. Of course. 451 00:20:55,345 --> 00:20:58,485 - Um, can you name three things you love about what you do? 452 00:21:00,155 --> 00:21:03,205 - Sure. Oh goodness. Um, there's so much. 453 00:21:03,955 --> 00:21:08,285 Well, I think one is I get to be fully expressed in who I am 454 00:21:08,585 --> 00:21:11,725 and bring all my creativity to bear on everything that I do. 455 00:21:12,505 --> 00:21:15,005 You know? And, and apart from being a motherhood story 456 00:21:15,005 --> 00:21:16,245 coach, I'm gonna take it up a level. 457 00:21:16,295 --> 00:21:19,485 Being an entrepreneur, being my own boss. Yeah. 458 00:21:19,625 --> 00:21:21,005 You know, I get to create my day. 459 00:21:21,245 --> 00:21:24,925 I get to create my life the way that I want it to be. Be. 460 00:21:24,925 --> 00:21:27,845 Um, I have always been somebody like who's done 461 00:21:27,845 --> 00:21:29,405 that since I got outta college. 462 00:21:29,745 --> 00:21:32,325 Mm-Hmm. . I've never followed like the mainstream 463 00:21:32,355 --> 00:21:34,005 path for a while. 464 00:21:34,245 --> 00:21:37,095 I did. Which I'm grateful for. Yeah. 465 00:21:37,275 --> 00:21:40,975 And I like, I don't know, at 22, I was like, all right, 466 00:21:40,975 --> 00:21:43,215 well, you know, I was in film, I as a film major, 467 00:21:43,715 --> 00:21:46,095 so right there that was like, you know, 468 00:21:46,095 --> 00:21:47,815 hanging out in the basement at the film school 469 00:21:47,965 --> 00:21:49,255 with all the people who were black. 470 00:21:49,275 --> 00:21:51,055 You know, we were all like, a little bit different . 471 00:21:52,195 --> 00:21:54,775 And then, you know, I, I ended up getting into, 472 00:21:54,875 --> 00:21:56,855 um, I did that for a few years. 473 00:21:57,615 --> 00:21:58,895 I went through a lot during that time. 474 00:21:58,955 --> 00:22:00,575 So a lot of career shifting. 475 00:22:00,775 --> 00:22:03,055 'cause my mother passed away when I was 23. 476 00:22:03,675 --> 00:22:05,415 So I was dealing with a lot. 477 00:22:05,835 --> 00:22:08,055 And that led me into nonprofits 478 00:22:08,275 --> 00:22:10,335 and then, which led me to working with homeless youth, 479 00:22:10,335 --> 00:22:14,615 which led me to working, you know, in, um, 480 00:22:14,965 --> 00:22:18,295 somehow then getting into web design and, and everything. 481 00:22:18,435 --> 00:22:22,325 So I like being my own boss. 482 00:22:22,345 --> 00:22:24,205 And I like the freedom to answer your question. 483 00:22:24,205 --> 00:22:26,885 Like, I love that. I've always had this sense of, 484 00:22:27,025 --> 00:22:28,045 I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do. 485 00:22:28,945 --> 00:22:30,725 I'm not gonna follow everybody else's path. 486 00:22:31,425 --> 00:22:34,885 And, and I continue to do that . So Yeah. 487 00:22:35,305 --> 00:22:37,245 Um, but I need, I need to give you one more 488 00:22:37,245 --> 00:22:38,045 because you asked for 489 00:22:38,245 --> 00:22:42,535 three , I think. 490 00:22:42,595 --> 00:22:47,185 Um, I had, what's the third one? Oh, I know. 491 00:22:47,215 --> 00:22:50,265 Just the amazing people that I get to meet in life. 492 00:22:51,305 --> 00:22:54,425 I love the amazing, like these amazing people who come to me 493 00:22:54,565 --> 00:22:57,645 who, who want to change their lives. 494 00:22:58,725 --> 00:23:01,285 You know, like it's just who are brave enough 495 00:23:01,285 --> 00:23:04,125 to step into the unknown and do that. Yeah. 496 00:23:04,315 --> 00:23:05,765 - It's beautiful. And I could see, 497 00:23:05,905 --> 00:23:08,725 and yet you get to see the progress, right? 498 00:23:08,725 --> 00:23:11,405 Mm-Hmm. you to witness that, that is very special. 499 00:23:12,805 --> 00:23:15,525 I think for me, I think maybe for you as well, is 500 00:23:15,525 --> 00:23:18,325 that you are tapping into speaking your truth. 501 00:23:19,705 --> 00:23:24,035 And that when you're speaking your truth, that 502 00:23:24,825 --> 00:23:26,835 just makes you shine. 503 00:23:27,595 --> 00:23:30,905 I feel that, um, I, I like you, 504 00:23:30,905 --> 00:23:32,665 I've had many careers 505 00:23:32,665 --> 00:23:35,625 and experiences that brought me to where I am today, even 506 00:23:35,625 --> 00:23:38,505 with the gutsy babe and with my travel. 507 00:23:38,715 --> 00:23:42,305 Right. That now 508 00:23:43,455 --> 00:23:47,085 sharing you menopause issues, 509 00:23:47,425 --> 00:23:49,885 my hysterectomy being childless, 510 00:23:50,265 --> 00:23:52,365 and where it's brought me to where I am now. 511 00:23:52,665 --> 00:23:55,525 And in the past I never brought those topics up, right. 512 00:23:55,585 --> 00:23:56,925 It was all personal and private. 513 00:23:57,625 --> 00:24:02,165 But by speaking our truth now, I just think that it 514 00:24:02,795 --> 00:24:05,855 makes life so much sweeter. . 515 00:24:07,195 --> 00:24:09,615 - It does. . It really does. 516 00:24:09,815 --> 00:24:13,215 I mean, and that's like, it's doing that I can speak 517 00:24:13,235 --> 00:24:15,335 for myself and I'm guessing for most people 518 00:24:15,435 --> 00:24:19,255 or maybe all people that when you're in that vein, 519 00:24:19,255 --> 00:24:22,015 like your words are aligning with your energy. 520 00:24:22,015 --> 00:24:24,735 Right. And it just, it amps up your energy. 521 00:24:25,005 --> 00:24:27,055 It's like that's what you're putting out into the world. 522 00:24:27,595 --> 00:24:30,775 Um, it, it aligns. I think that alignment is so important. 523 00:24:31,485 --> 00:24:33,985 - Exactly. Yes. - Yeah. 524 00:24:34,375 --> 00:24:37,105 - Well, Beth, how can people contact you further, um, 525 00:24:37,775 --> 00:24:41,145 with information and get, uh, set up an appointment with you 526 00:24:41,335 --> 00:24:42,335 - Appoint? 527 00:24:42,335 --> 00:24:44,865 Okay. Well, they can go to Bath Valley coaching.com. Okay. 528 00:24:44,965 --> 00:24:47,345 Um, uh, they can contact me through that. 529 00:24:47,885 --> 00:24:51,265 Um, and they can also, I have, 530 00:24:51,265 --> 00:24:53,345 they can do my assessment online at your conscious 531 00:24:53,345 --> 00:24:54,385 path to motherhood com. 532 00:24:54,455 --> 00:24:56,505 They can, um, find me on Instagram, 533 00:24:56,615 --> 00:24:58,385 they can find me on Facebook, LinkedIn, 534 00:24:59,165 --> 00:25:00,865 and d DM me through those. 535 00:25:00,965 --> 00:25:03,785 And I'm just Beth Rave coaching in all of those places. 536 00:25:04,125 --> 00:25:06,225 Or just Beth Rave on LinkedIn. Okay. 537 00:25:06,285 --> 00:25:08,465 And yeah, it's easy to get in touch with me. 538 00:25:08,525 --> 00:25:10,465 You, my calendar link is out there. 539 00:25:10,465 --> 00:25:11,745 People can set up appointments. 540 00:25:12,365 --> 00:25:15,065 Um, I do this, I have this entry level call that I do 541 00:25:15,065 --> 00:25:18,025 with women called the Motherhood Clarity call, where 542 00:25:18,545 --> 00:25:19,625 I give them an opportunity. 543 00:25:19,745 --> 00:25:21,105 I ask them a lot of questions 544 00:25:21,205 --> 00:25:23,625 and it's basically presencing them to 545 00:25:23,625 --> 00:25:25,745 where they're in their journey right now. 546 00:25:26,045 --> 00:25:27,045 Mm-Hmm. - . 547 00:25:27,485 --> 00:25:29,105 - And then looking at where they wanna go, 548 00:25:29,645 --> 00:25:33,545 but more about all the things they're holding inside that. 549 00:25:33,645 --> 00:25:36,305 And then looking at what might be in the way of getting 550 00:25:37,175 --> 00:25:39,505 what is they that they think they want at this point. 551 00:25:40,525 --> 00:25:43,345 So it's really, it comes out, they walk away with an action. 552 00:25:44,205 --> 00:25:45,225 One thing that they can do 553 00:25:45,805 --> 00:25:47,625 to start moving in the direction they want. 554 00:25:48,515 --> 00:25:52,915 - Can you share one action with me? Sure. 555 00:25:53,145 --> 00:25:54,955 - Yeah. Yeah. There's a, I mean, there's so many 556 00:25:54,955 --> 00:25:55,995 that people take on. 557 00:25:56,115 --> 00:25:59,035 I would say one that's really important, I love to call, 558 00:25:59,395 --> 00:26:01,075 I call curiously collecting stories. 559 00:26:01,615 --> 00:26:03,915 And so in my book that I've been writing, 560 00:26:04,095 --> 00:26:05,555 that's a whole chapter. 561 00:26:05,705 --> 00:26:07,635 It's actually a whole session in my program 562 00:26:08,165 --> 00:26:10,795 where I have the women collect stories from other moms. 563 00:26:11,415 --> 00:26:15,035 So, because we have all these ideas about what motherhood is 564 00:26:15,095 --> 00:26:18,075 and usually not good ideas, maybe they're good. 565 00:26:18,175 --> 00:26:21,195 But even so, our scope is limited. 566 00:26:22,055 --> 00:26:26,565 And when we can really listen to other moms, 567 00:26:26,565 --> 00:26:31,165 especially moms, we consider empowered, it shifts. 568 00:26:31,475 --> 00:26:33,645 It's one of the biggest shifts women have in my program 569 00:26:33,645 --> 00:26:36,605 because it opens them up to going, oh, wait a second. 570 00:26:37,225 --> 00:26:39,365 It doesn't have to be this way. It could be that way. 571 00:26:39,915 --> 00:26:41,685 That person does it. I could do it too. 572 00:26:42,385 --> 00:26:45,325 You know, like my friend Sarah, she lived in Mexico. 573 00:26:45,685 --> 00:26:47,925 I, I mentioned her earlier before, 574 00:26:48,225 --> 00:26:50,405 but she lived there as a single mom with her child, 575 00:26:50,975 --> 00:26:52,045 - Uhhuh, - You know, 576 00:26:52,045 --> 00:26:53,285 and that was a choice that she 577 00:26:53,285 --> 00:26:54,565 wanted to make for various reasons. 578 00:26:54,825 --> 00:26:58,485 And people are like, oh, she did that. Like, I can do that. 579 00:26:58,785 --> 00:27:02,085 You know? Um, there's a really cool, uh, 580 00:27:02,085 --> 00:27:05,965 YouTube channel called Fly the Nest, uh, that is a couple 581 00:27:06,585 --> 00:27:08,125 who travel all over the, the world. 582 00:27:08,125 --> 00:27:10,085 They stay in different places and they have a toddler and a 583 00:27:10,085 --> 00:27:12,045 newborn - . I love that. 584 00:27:12,575 --> 00:27:15,165 - Uhhuh. And it's just more, I think 585 00:27:15,165 --> 00:27:19,285 because in our culture we can tend to be, the child runs 586 00:27:19,985 --> 00:27:22,885 the roost, whereas like maybe in Europe it's more like the 587 00:27:22,885 --> 00:27:23,885 child joins our family. 588 00:27:25,125 --> 00:27:26,865 - Yes. - That mindset is different. 589 00:27:27,045 --> 00:27:31,865 And so here, people getting to see that more, 590 00:27:33,045 --> 00:27:37,715 just they don't get stuck in that space than of, 591 00:27:37,715 --> 00:27:38,915 oh, I'm gonna lose my life. 592 00:27:38,915 --> 00:27:40,595 Because that's what a lot of women say. 593 00:27:40,595 --> 00:27:42,075 I'm gonna lose my life. I'm gonna lose my career. 594 00:27:42,075 --> 00:27:43,995 I'm gonna lose all these things if I become a mom. 595 00:27:44,465 --> 00:27:47,235 Well, what if you gain all these other amazing things? 596 00:27:47,235 --> 00:27:48,955 Right. It becomes an addition rather than 597 00:27:48,955 --> 00:27:50,075 a subtraction in their life. 598 00:27:50,775 --> 00:27:53,395 And they, once they shift their mindset. 599 00:27:54,415 --> 00:27:55,585 - Yeah. No, that is beautiful. 600 00:27:55,965 --> 00:27:59,025 You know, it's funny is that when I thought I was gonna be a 601 00:27:59,025 --> 00:28:00,145 mom Mm-Hmm. 602 00:28:00,225 --> 00:28:02,105 early on, I always had that vision 603 00:28:02,105 --> 00:28:06,185 that I would have my baby on a backpack trekking around . 604 00:28:07,925 --> 00:28:11,665 - That's awesome. - So I think that I, 605 00:28:12,255 --> 00:28:14,065 like my mom has said in the past 606 00:28:14,065 --> 00:28:16,185 that I've always been a natural rebellion . 607 00:28:17,325 --> 00:28:20,585 Mm-Hmm. I've always done, you know, beat to my own path. 608 00:28:21,005 --> 00:28:22,825 And I feel that you are the same Beth 609 00:28:25,165 --> 00:28:26,165 - Pretty much. 610 00:28:26,165 --> 00:28:26,905 But yeah, it's funny 611 00:28:27,065 --> 00:28:29,585 'cause I've also been like such a rule follower 612 00:28:29,605 --> 00:28:32,425 and such a, a follower for so much of my life. 613 00:28:32,565 --> 00:28:35,185 But at the same time, with this underlying rebellion going 614 00:28:35,185 --> 00:28:36,585 on, that not everyone always saw . 615 00:28:37,695 --> 00:28:39,425 - Yeah, no, I'm just saying 616 00:28:39,425 --> 00:28:40,905 because I'm a rule follower as well. 617 00:28:41,005 --> 00:28:42,305 So there's certain little things 618 00:28:42,305 --> 00:28:45,585 that were rebellious Uhhuh. Exactly. 619 00:28:45,935 --> 00:28:49,465 - Exactly. - Thank you again. 620 00:28:49,605 --> 00:28:53,705 So people can contact you@bethelli.com 621 00:28:54,285 --> 00:28:55,825 - Or beth veli coaching.com. 622 00:28:56,175 --> 00:29:00,425 - Beth veli coaching.com. And that's R-I-V-E-L-L-I. 623 00:29:00,695 --> 00:29:01,985 Correct. 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