1 00:00:00,615 --> 00:00:04,165 - Start your journey with master coach, clinical counselor 2 00:00:04,585 --> 00:00:07,485 and Ayurvedic practitioner Paris Mog Tatter 3 00:00:07,745 --> 00:00:11,485 to uncover new layers of your life Together 4 00:00:12,055 --> 00:00:14,805 we'll break the social conditioning that holds you back, 5 00:00:15,225 --> 00:00:17,565 giving you a way to improve physical health, 6 00:00:18,395 --> 00:00:20,125 greater emotional stability, 7 00:00:20,705 --> 00:00:25,045 and strengthen connections both within yourself and others. 8 00:00:26,825 --> 00:00:30,845 Unlock clarity on what you want in all five realms, body, 9 00:00:31,635 --> 00:00:33,005 mind, emotions, 10 00:00:33,225 --> 00:00:37,005 and spiritual alignment, plus a special connection to source 11 00:00:37,225 --> 00:00:38,565 for an extra sparkle. 12 00:00:39,305 --> 00:00:42,645 So don't hold yourself back any longer when it's time 13 00:00:42,665 --> 00:00:43,725 for transformation. 14 00:00:43,755 --> 00:00:47,325 From unsure self-doubt into confident game changer. 15 00:00:47,895 --> 00:00:49,725 Let's get started today. 16 00:00:56,135 --> 00:00:58,405 - Hello, my loves, welcome back 17 00:00:58,425 --> 00:01:00,605 to the Ayurvedic Therapist podcast. 18 00:01:02,555 --> 00:01:06,765 This is an episode that I did with Steven Washington 19 00:01:07,865 --> 00:01:09,205 and my good friend Steven, 20 00:01:09,625 --> 00:01:11,565 and you know that I have talked to him before. 21 00:01:11,825 --> 00:01:15,245 If you've listened to our previous podcast together, 22 00:01:16,685 --> 00:01:18,245 I love talking to Steven 23 00:01:18,315 --> 00:01:22,125 because there's something so authentic about him 24 00:01:22,715 --> 00:01:26,045 that brings out a lot of good conversation. 25 00:01:26,665 --> 00:01:30,885 Steven Washington is a movement, master recovery 26 00:01:31,525 --> 00:01:33,805 advocate, author, and speaker. 27 00:01:34,665 --> 00:01:37,205 Steven was a professional Broadway dancer 28 00:01:37,785 --> 00:01:41,445 and is now an acclaimed Ong 29 00:01:41,705 --> 00:01:43,165 and Pilates teacher. 30 00:01:43,745 --> 00:01:46,005 He lives a joyful life of recovery 31 00:01:46,505 --> 00:01:50,005 and is passionate about helping others as they navigate 32 00:01:50,035 --> 00:01:53,885 through their own path to health and happiness. 33 00:01:54,605 --> 00:01:58,565 I really encourage you to check out Steven's website, 34 00:01:58,895 --> 00:02:02,245 which is Steven Washington experience.com, 35 00:02:02,705 --> 00:02:06,205 and join his wonderful membership 36 00:02:06,205 --> 00:02:09,245 because the movements he does are so 37 00:02:10,505 --> 00:02:12,445 in tune with somatic 38 00:02:12,945 --> 00:02:15,645 and psychological healing, healing your body, 39 00:02:15,645 --> 00:02:17,645 your physical self, your emotional self, 40 00:02:17,645 --> 00:02:18,685 and your mental self. 41 00:02:19,265 --> 00:02:23,125 So let's dive in and listen to my conversation with Steven. 42 00:02:26,695 --> 00:02:29,975 - Gorgeous. Hmm. Okay. So let us begin. 43 00:02:32,275 --> 00:02:33,655 - Yes. - All right, everybody. 44 00:02:33,795 --> 00:02:36,295 So welcome to Beyond Fear of Letting Go. 45 00:02:36,435 --> 00:02:38,535 I'm here with my dear friend Paris, 46 00:02:39,435 --> 00:02:42,415 and, um, I just wanna share a couple of quotes 47 00:02:42,415 --> 00:02:44,655 with you guys about the subject of letting go. 48 00:02:45,245 --> 00:02:46,855 Holding on is believing 49 00:02:46,855 --> 00:02:50,375 that there is only a past letting go, is knowing 50 00:02:50,375 --> 00:02:51,375 that there is a future. 51 00:02:52,945 --> 00:02:55,765 One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the 52 00:02:55,765 --> 00:02:58,285 courage to let go of what you cannot change. 53 00:02:59,905 --> 00:03:03,445 Ooh. So I want you guys to, um, just have a sense of 54 00:03:04,305 --> 00:03:07,565 the genesis of this conversation between Paris and I. 55 00:03:08,245 --> 00:03:11,565 I sent Paris a message of, I don't know, like a month 56 00:03:11,565 --> 00:03:15,765 or two ago maybe, and I was in Palm Springs, California, 57 00:03:16,005 --> 00:03:18,485 a place that I've been to countless times, 58 00:03:19,385 --> 00:03:22,245 but this was my first time going in a long time by myself. 59 00:03:22,705 --> 00:03:25,525 I'm used to going there with my husband, soon 60 00:03:25,525 --> 00:03:26,845 to be my, my ex-husband. 61 00:03:27,745 --> 00:03:29,725 And when I was there, I was just flooded with 62 00:03:29,745 --> 00:03:33,165 so many memories, so many memories of being at this place 63 00:03:33,225 --> 00:03:34,285 or being at that place, 64 00:03:34,345 --> 00:03:36,805 and being with him, being with family, being with friends, 65 00:03:36,855 --> 00:03:38,725 being all there together. 66 00:03:39,105 --> 00:03:41,485 And, um, it was overwhelming at times. 67 00:03:42,105 --> 00:03:46,395 And then I had this deep knowing within me 68 00:03:48,025 --> 00:03:51,195 that, oh, Steven, this is time for you to start to 69 00:03:51,865 --> 00:03:56,555 make new memories for yourself in these places, um, 70 00:03:56,735 --> 00:03:59,275 and start honoring the past, 71 00:03:59,495 --> 00:04:01,115 but really looking forward to the future. 72 00:04:02,295 --> 00:04:05,635 So that had deep resonance with you, Paris. 73 00:04:06,135 --> 00:04:07,675 How, how did that, how did that fall? 74 00:04:07,735 --> 00:04:08,755 How did that land for you? 75 00:04:08,755 --> 00:04:10,515 When I first, uh, brought that up, 76 00:04:12,385 --> 00:04:14,165 - Uh, thank you for that intro. 77 00:04:14,555 --> 00:04:17,525 It's like, it's my, the center of my heart. Mm-Hmm. 78 00:04:18,435 --> 00:04:21,065 There have been so many different times 79 00:04:21,275 --> 00:04:23,465 where I have been there, what you're saying, 80 00:04:23,605 --> 00:04:27,425 but I think what really came to me when you said that was 81 00:04:28,325 --> 00:04:32,545 the time I had first broken up with my ex ex-husband. 82 00:04:34,055 --> 00:04:36,515 And, you know, he was kind of my best friend. 83 00:04:36,705 --> 00:04:38,275 Like, we did everything together 84 00:04:38,895 --> 00:04:41,755 and he really had an adventurous soul. 85 00:04:41,815 --> 00:04:42,955 So we would like travel. 86 00:04:43,415 --> 00:04:48,355 And in fact, he came back to, uh, my homeland Iran with me. 87 00:04:48,975 --> 00:04:51,435 And he showed me the country in a way 88 00:04:51,475 --> 00:04:52,795 that I could've never showed him. 89 00:04:52,895 --> 00:04:55,555 And he's not, he's Canadian, he's not from there, 90 00:04:55,775 --> 00:04:58,115 but he has this adventure as a spirit. 91 00:04:59,335 --> 00:05:02,115 And when the relationship ended, 92 00:05:02,475 --> 00:05:04,395 I was like, oh my God. 93 00:05:04,545 --> 00:05:06,195 Like, I can't go to this restaurant. 94 00:05:06,315 --> 00:05:07,475 I can't go to that cafe. 95 00:05:07,575 --> 00:05:11,635 It brings up so much stuff for me. 96 00:05:11,935 --> 00:05:16,215 And one day I had to like, get 97 00:05:16,795 --> 00:05:18,735 really clear with myself 98 00:05:19,115 --> 00:05:22,575 and be like, girl, this is not who you are. 99 00:05:22,885 --> 00:05:24,895 Sure. Be sad, be heartbroken. 100 00:05:25,385 --> 00:05:29,375 Maybe you can't move, but you gotta get, you know, 101 00:05:29,535 --> 00:05:33,735 like there's a saying that says like, let the heaviness 102 00:05:33,755 --> 00:05:36,935 of the shed drop, and so you can fly girl . 103 00:05:36,935 --> 00:05:39,015 Like, I know you can do this. 104 00:05:39,515 --> 00:05:44,415 And it was a decision that I made to look at it 105 00:05:44,795 --> 00:05:49,505 as not something that, something horrible that has happened 106 00:05:49,505 --> 00:05:51,385 to me, and why me? 107 00:05:51,565 --> 00:05:53,345 And when I see other couples 108 00:05:53,365 --> 00:05:55,745 or other relationship, why can't I have that 109 00:05:57,065 --> 00:05:59,315 into, wow, wait a second. 110 00:06:00,285 --> 00:06:02,065 Uh, this is an exciting moment 111 00:06:02,415 --> 00:06:05,025 because I can recreate, 112 00:06:06,435 --> 00:06:08,675 I can take my experiences from past 113 00:06:08,775 --> 00:06:13,595 and have the beautiful memories and step into my future. 114 00:06:14,015 --> 00:06:18,475 So I think the shift for me was what you just said, like in 115 00:06:18,475 --> 00:06:21,115 that beautiful coat, it was like, I can look at this 116 00:06:21,215 --> 00:06:23,275 as my past and be stuck there, 117 00:06:23,655 --> 00:06:27,755 or I can really come to my body, see this present moment 118 00:06:28,175 --> 00:06:32,395 and decide to jump into my future the way I wanna design it. 119 00:06:32,575 --> 00:06:37,275 And how it exciting is that, you know, um, another time 120 00:06:37,275 --> 00:06:41,995 that I think of is when the pandemic happened, like 121 00:06:41,995 --> 00:06:45,475 that was, here I am rebuilding my life 122 00:06:46,105 --> 00:06:49,835 with a six months old baby and buying a house 123 00:06:49,975 --> 00:06:51,075 and getting settled 124 00:06:51,415 --> 00:06:54,355 and being like, okay, at least I have my business 125 00:06:54,575 --> 00:06:55,875 and everything's going well. 126 00:06:55,875 --> 00:06:59,315 There I can support us. And then the pandemic happened. 127 00:06:59,625 --> 00:07:01,675 Like that was a shock to my system. 128 00:07:01,875 --> 00:07:03,835 I own yoga, hot yoga studio. 129 00:07:03,985 --> 00:07:07,835 Like those, you know, you know, the gyms and yoga studios 130 00:07:07,835 --> 00:07:11,835 and stuff were like, hit the worst and did it. 131 00:07:12,025 --> 00:07:16,195 Like, it did really take a couple of months for me 132 00:07:16,195 --> 00:07:18,355 to even like believe that this has happened. 133 00:07:18,495 --> 00:07:22,315 But again, I had to go through the process of, here we are 134 00:07:22,575 --> 00:07:23,835 and we gotta accept it. 135 00:07:24,095 --> 00:07:25,835 And it's like, I think it comes to that moment 136 00:07:25,835 --> 00:07:27,275 where you are like, okay, here we are. 137 00:07:27,735 --> 00:07:29,395 We have to accept this 138 00:07:30,135 --> 00:07:32,995 and let the heavy stuff fall so that we can, 139 00:07:33,085 --> 00:07:34,715 where are we gonna go from here? 140 00:07:34,965 --> 00:07:38,835 Let's fly from here. Let's design the future. Mm-Hmm. 141 00:07:39,475 --> 00:07:41,955 I love that. So that's yeah. Where it hit me. 142 00:07:42,665 --> 00:07:44,755 - Yeah. I love everything that you said. 143 00:07:44,905 --> 00:07:49,555 What comes to mind is that it's a decision, it's a choice 144 00:07:49,905 --> 00:07:53,635 that we make to shift our perspective 145 00:07:54,215 --> 00:07:56,035 and our perception, uh, 146 00:07:56,055 --> 00:07:59,155 and look towards the future, still honoring the past 147 00:07:59,855 --> 00:08:03,275 and still honoring all those connections that we have 148 00:08:03,535 --> 00:08:06,475 to people, to places, to things. 149 00:08:07,455 --> 00:08:11,675 Um, but making a decision to, to look towards the future 150 00:08:11,815 --> 00:08:15,115 and look towards it with a sense of hope and optimism 151 00:08:15,535 --> 00:08:16,995 and joy as well. 152 00:08:17,915 --> 00:08:20,835 I love that. But I, I also wanna know, it's like, why, 153 00:08:21,295 --> 00:08:23,675 why is it so difficult for us to let go? 154 00:08:23,675 --> 00:08:25,275 Like, what do you think it is that makes it 155 00:08:25,275 --> 00:08:27,315 so hard for us to let go? 156 00:08:27,515 --> 00:08:30,555 I know for me, I think it's just part of it is, um, 157 00:08:33,395 --> 00:08:37,415 we just get really comfortable and routine and connections, 158 00:08:37,675 --> 00:08:40,495 and there's a, there's a sense of safety in the familiar 159 00:08:41,195 --> 00:08:42,255 and what's comfortable. 160 00:08:43,275 --> 00:08:47,125 Uh, and then anything other than that, it's, uh, 161 00:08:47,225 --> 00:08:51,445 it can create fear and this desire to latch on 162 00:08:51,445 --> 00:08:53,085 and hold onto the familiar. 163 00:08:53,865 --> 00:08:56,405 Uh, and then also I just think there's a lot of fear. 164 00:08:56,635 --> 00:09:00,325 There's a lot of fear, uh, that about 165 00:09:02,215 --> 00:09:05,775 stepping forward the unknown of tomorrow. 166 00:09:06,685 --> 00:09:08,895 Like, we know what yesterday was, we know what that is, 167 00:09:08,895 --> 00:09:10,055 we know the ins and outs of that, 168 00:09:10,475 --> 00:09:14,415 but how do we go from yesterday into this present moment, 169 00:09:14,505 --> 00:09:16,775 which still has moments of unknown? 170 00:09:17,015 --> 00:09:17,855 'cause I don't know what's gonna 171 00:09:17,855 --> 00:09:18,895 happen two minutes from now. 172 00:09:19,715 --> 00:09:21,415 Uh, and then there's, you know, the future 173 00:09:21,435 --> 00:09:22,575 that's further ahead. 174 00:09:22,955 --> 00:09:25,935 So I always find it interesting like what, 175 00:09:26,595 --> 00:09:27,975 why it's so challenging. 176 00:09:28,155 --> 00:09:30,615 And I think I also think we're just wired to connect 177 00:09:30,615 --> 00:09:31,815 to things and to hold 178 00:09:32,395 --> 00:09:36,855 and to, um, become, to rely upon, uh, the things that 179 00:09:36,855 --> 00:09:38,535 around us that make us feel safe 180 00:09:38,555 --> 00:09:40,175 and familiar and comfortable. 181 00:09:40,315 --> 00:09:44,295 And even if it's not healthy for us, right? Yeah. 182 00:09:44,295 --> 00:09:45,455 Because there's things that we hold onto 183 00:09:45,485 --> 00:09:46,735 that are not healthy for us. 184 00:09:46,835 --> 00:09:48,975 And the fact that it's leaving is actually a good thing, 185 00:09:49,035 --> 00:09:50,735 but our bodies 186 00:09:51,195 --> 00:09:53,175 and our minds just will inter 187 00:09:53,325 --> 00:09:54,895 interpret it as something else. 188 00:09:55,485 --> 00:09:56,615 What do you think about that? 189 00:09:57,405 --> 00:09:59,455 - Yeah, I think that's such a great point. 190 00:09:59,595 --> 00:10:01,695 And you hit the nail on the head there. 191 00:10:02,435 --> 00:10:05,175 Um, it's like our critter brain, right? 192 00:10:05,235 --> 00:10:09,185 Our critter brain only knows what is familiar. 193 00:10:09,685 --> 00:10:13,905 It only knows, um, I have done this in the past, 194 00:10:14,245 --> 00:10:16,265 no matter how uncomfortable it is 195 00:10:16,405 --> 00:10:20,345 or how, um, maybe I'm in a relationship that's abusive 196 00:10:20,525 --> 00:10:21,945 or the person is not nice to me, 197 00:10:21,965 --> 00:10:23,625 but I know the process of that. 198 00:10:23,905 --> 00:10:27,705 I know maybe they had a relationship in their childhood 199 00:10:27,815 --> 00:10:29,185 that was similar to that. 200 00:10:29,215 --> 00:10:31,785 It's often like that we choose our partners based on 201 00:10:31,785 --> 00:10:32,945 what we had in our childhood. 202 00:10:33,565 --> 00:10:37,385 And so that critter brain, and when we let go 203 00:10:37,445 --> 00:10:40,305 and we step in and we wanna redirect 204 00:10:40,485 --> 00:10:43,265 and find a different direction, it freaks out. 205 00:10:43,645 --> 00:10:44,665 It really freaks out. 206 00:10:44,805 --> 00:10:48,025 So that moment where you're like, I don't know. 207 00:10:48,505 --> 00:10:50,865 I don't know what the future is going to bring for me. 208 00:10:51,365 --> 00:10:54,905 Um, and I'm freaked out. You are actually doing it. Right. 209 00:10:55,225 --> 00:10:57,225 I think it's important to understand that. 210 00:10:57,545 --> 00:10:58,905 'cause a lot of times we're like, at 211 00:10:58,905 --> 00:11:00,745 that moment we're like, no, this is too hard. 212 00:11:00,825 --> 00:11:02,705 I don't know this, I'm gonna go back. Yeah. 213 00:11:03,015 --> 00:11:05,105 - Yeah. Danger, danger, danger. Mm-Hmm. . 214 00:11:05,225 --> 00:11:07,505 - Totally. I always tell my clients, I'm like, 215 00:11:08,115 --> 00:11:10,585 never look back, look forward and up. 216 00:11:11,025 --> 00:11:12,385 , never look down at your feet. 217 00:11:12,455 --> 00:11:13,825 Just keep going forward 218 00:11:13,925 --> 00:11:17,345 and up, even when you don't know where the road is leading. 219 00:11:17,535 --> 00:11:19,425 Like, if you're going from New York 220 00:11:19,425 --> 00:11:22,185 to LA you're not gonna see LA 221 00:11:22,685 --> 00:11:25,905 before you, you hit the road, you're gonna plan for it. 222 00:11:25,905 --> 00:11:27,305 You're gonna put it in your GPS, 223 00:11:27,405 --> 00:11:31,865 and you're going to have faith and trust in this GPS 224 00:11:31,865 --> 00:11:33,065 and in your car that, 225 00:11:33,325 --> 00:11:35,345 and the road, that the road is going 226 00:11:35,345 --> 00:11:36,505 to take you to the right place. 227 00:11:36,685 --> 00:11:40,835 And I think one of the most important things that I found, 228 00:11:41,535 --> 00:11:44,355 yes, it's very, it's very easy to talk about, oh, 229 00:11:44,355 --> 00:11:46,395 just look ahead and move on. 230 00:11:46,535 --> 00:11:49,195 You can't, we can't, as human beings, we love 231 00:11:49,195 --> 00:11:51,635 to hold onto things, especially if, like, 232 00:11:51,825 --> 00:11:55,405 depending on our doshas, like if there's a kafa person, 233 00:11:55,745 --> 00:11:58,765 kaphas have a big heart and they hold everyone, 234 00:11:58,765 --> 00:12:00,045 and they're so loyal. 235 00:12:00,825 --> 00:12:04,245 So that for that loyalty to let go, there's a lot 236 00:12:04,245 --> 00:12:05,245 of attachment there. 237 00:12:05,985 --> 00:12:09,245 So, um, understanding what's happening. 238 00:12:09,505 --> 00:12:12,125 So the first step is that awareness, 239 00:12:12,275 --> 00:12:16,365 that conscious awareness that consciously I get to know 240 00:12:16,515 --> 00:12:18,685 what my constitution is, what my doshas are, 241 00:12:19,115 --> 00:12:21,445 what is happening to my brain right now. 242 00:12:21,905 --> 00:12:25,445 And that this discomfort is because of the unknown, 243 00:12:26,075 --> 00:12:28,325 because my credit brain is not used to it. 244 00:12:28,425 --> 00:12:31,205 So I have to actually take small steps 245 00:12:31,235 --> 00:12:35,845 that are very uncomfortable to create my new path. 246 00:12:36,785 --> 00:12:41,125 So just, just knowing that if it's really difficult for you, 247 00:12:41,355 --> 00:12:42,645 just set the intention. 248 00:12:43,305 --> 00:12:47,435 You know, I, I still remember the day I was like, like, uh, 249 00:12:47,435 --> 00:12:48,555 the pandemic hit 250 00:12:48,695 --> 00:12:50,715 and I didn't know what I was gonna do with the studio. 251 00:12:50,715 --> 00:12:51,915 Everything was shut down. 252 00:12:52,215 --> 00:12:55,915 And I'm like, oh my God, I can't do one more thing. 253 00:12:56,065 --> 00:12:58,995 Like I can't do another traumatic thing in my life. 254 00:12:59,055 --> 00:13:00,635 And I thought, you know what? 255 00:13:01,075 --> 00:13:05,195 I can sit here and say that, or I can take the next step. 256 00:13:05,455 --> 00:13:09,995 If the world is going online, what can I do to bring 257 00:13:09,995 --> 00:13:12,435 what I'm, what I was offering at the studio? 258 00:13:12,815 --> 00:13:15,955 And everyone would come out of the room and be refreshed 259 00:13:16,055 --> 00:13:19,875 and really like, have change in their life. 260 00:13:20,175 --> 00:13:22,395 How can I bring that online? 261 00:13:22,795 --> 00:13:25,275 I don't know how, and I don't know what that holds, 262 00:13:25,295 --> 00:13:27,395 but I'm gonna take the first step 263 00:13:27,425 --> 00:13:30,075 because I know what that step is. 264 00:13:30,075 --> 00:13:33,195 Like, I'm gonna work really hard. I'm gonna take action. 265 00:13:33,305 --> 00:13:36,755 Because another thing that happens when we are in that mode 266 00:13:36,775 --> 00:13:41,675 of, um, oh my gosh, I'm so scared to, to, to not know 267 00:13:41,675 --> 00:13:43,755 what the future is going to bring. 268 00:13:44,455 --> 00:13:47,395 We go in the state of Thomas in our mind, 269 00:13:47,405 --> 00:13:50,075 which Thomas is kind of like darkness. 270 00:13:50,425 --> 00:13:51,475 It's stuckness. 271 00:13:52,215 --> 00:13:55,195 We can't find the light because we can't see clearly. 272 00:13:55,575 --> 00:13:57,595 Of course we can't because something 273 00:13:57,595 --> 00:13:58,955 has happened and we're right in it. 274 00:13:59,705 --> 00:14:01,635 It's easy to see it from outside, 275 00:14:01,655 --> 00:14:03,715 but we're right in it, so we can't see it. 276 00:14:03,815 --> 00:14:08,355 So to come out of the state of darkness in Thomas 277 00:14:08,735 --> 00:14:10,835 and not having motivation 278 00:14:11,095 --> 00:14:14,915 and not seeing clearly, what we can do is take action, 279 00:14:15,065 --> 00:14:18,555 take action, take any action, move your body like 280 00:14:18,555 --> 00:14:21,675 what you teach us to do is Steven so beautiful. 281 00:14:21,675 --> 00:14:25,835 Because the mind is kind of its own entity, 282 00:14:25,855 --> 00:14:27,515 and the body is its own entity. 283 00:14:27,575 --> 00:14:31,075 And sometimes the body only wants to remember 284 00:14:31,145 --> 00:14:32,515 what we've done in the past. 285 00:14:33,095 --> 00:14:36,155 And so gets stuck in that place, right? 286 00:14:36,365 --> 00:14:39,075 Start moving it, shake it off, let it go. 287 00:14:39,615 --> 00:14:41,115 And that's how you let go. 288 00:14:41,535 --> 00:14:45,395 And then see how as you do that every day, 289 00:14:46,025 --> 00:14:48,195 what changes happen, it comes to you. 290 00:14:48,575 --> 00:14:51,805 The clarity comes from the actions that we take. 291 00:14:52,965 --> 00:14:57,885 - Absolutely. I love what you said about, uh, not knowing 292 00:14:58,065 --> 00:14:59,885 and the fear around not knowing. 293 00:15:00,265 --> 00:15:03,725 And if you can't, if you can't take 294 00:15:04,685 --> 00:15:08,635 a specific action, just set the intention, set an intention, 295 00:15:08,855 --> 00:15:11,355 and how powerful that is. 296 00:15:11,775 --> 00:15:16,235 And, and that it all, it all comes about moment 297 00:15:16,335 --> 00:15:18,315 by moment, step by step. 298 00:15:19,215 --> 00:15:22,555 And I'm reminded that it's so important to allow yourself 299 00:15:22,555 --> 00:15:24,555 to feel your feelings as you move through the process. 300 00:15:25,185 --> 00:15:27,315 Sometimes I think people, 301 00:15:28,135 --> 00:15:30,555 and myself included, sometimes I want to jump from, 302 00:15:30,985 --> 00:15:33,075 from zero to 90 mm-Hmm. 303 00:15:33,115 --> 00:15:34,115 in the blink of an eye. 304 00:15:34,695 --> 00:15:37,195 But there are some steps to go between zero and 90 305 00:15:37,775 --> 00:15:40,555 and give myself the opportunity to move through the steps. 306 00:15:40,735 --> 00:15:42,915 Now how I move through them, how, 307 00:15:43,055 --> 00:15:44,555 how briskly I move through them. 308 00:15:45,155 --> 00:15:47,755 I don't have to necessarily move through the snails pace, 309 00:15:47,775 --> 00:15:49,755 but I also don't have to move through them like a rabbit. 310 00:15:50,495 --> 00:15:52,315 Um, I could find some way in between 311 00:15:52,775 --> 00:15:55,715 and just allow myself to honor where I am. 312 00:15:56,425 --> 00:16:01,115 Because I think just the natural evolution of things is 313 00:16:01,115 --> 00:16:04,035 that we're gonna flow from one moment into the next. 314 00:16:04,405 --> 00:16:07,355 Everything changes, nothing stays the same. 315 00:16:08,095 --> 00:16:13,055 Um, but I think that, I think 316 00:16:13,055 --> 00:16:15,495 that it's easy to kind of get yourself stuck. 317 00:16:15,495 --> 00:16:17,495 Like you said, you can get yourself stuck 318 00:16:17,495 --> 00:16:21,615 and your mind can just get looped, uh, stuck on this loop of 319 00:16:22,175 --> 00:16:25,575 memories and, and, and emotions attached to them. 320 00:16:26,035 --> 00:16:29,695 And, uh, ideas about those memories and those beliefs, 321 00:16:30,515 --> 00:16:33,055 and that can prevent us from moving forward. 322 00:16:33,395 --> 00:16:35,215 Energy is designed to flow freely, 323 00:16:35,315 --> 00:16:38,255 and that includes our emotional and mental energy. 324 00:16:38,815 --> 00:16:41,495 I love what you said about moving the body move about move, 325 00:16:41,565 --> 00:16:43,335 move a muscle change of thought. 326 00:16:44,415 --> 00:16:46,935 Hmm. As, as my mantra is what I live by. 327 00:16:47,515 --> 00:16:50,735 Um, it doesn't mean that I bypass what I'm, 328 00:16:50,735 --> 00:16:53,855 what I'm experiencing, but movement helps me to process 329 00:16:54,795 --> 00:16:57,535 the experience that I'm having, uh, 330 00:16:57,545 --> 00:16:58,975 every kind of experience. 331 00:17:00,035 --> 00:17:03,085 And I think, I think 332 00:17:03,245 --> 00:17:05,125 what we're talking about today is so important. 333 00:17:05,395 --> 00:17:08,005 It's so important. Wow. Yeah. 334 00:17:08,365 --> 00:17:11,045 I love what you, and we've, we've had a conversation 335 00:17:11,305 --> 00:17:12,445 before about, 336 00:17:12,905 --> 00:17:14,645 and we even mentioned it a little bit at the beginning 337 00:17:14,645 --> 00:17:16,285 of this one, about how this process 338 00:17:16,465 --> 00:17:19,485 of letting go is really process of finding ourselves, 339 00:17:20,525 --> 00:17:21,765 reconnecting with ourselves. 340 00:17:22,965 --> 00:17:27,885 I know for me, I am reconnecting with parts of me 341 00:17:27,915 --> 00:17:30,405 that I haven't seen in a long time. 342 00:17:31,725 --> 00:17:35,205 A parts of me that I'm meeting for the first time. 343 00:17:36,005 --> 00:17:38,765 I know for me, as I, as I move through this process 344 00:17:38,765 --> 00:17:41,005 of letting go and moving through this divorce, 345 00:17:41,805 --> 00:17:43,765 I I've also realized that I'm dealing 346 00:17:43,945 --> 00:17:46,245 or have been dealing with depression and anxiety. 347 00:17:46,865 --> 00:17:49,765 And now that I've effectively even been treating the 348 00:17:49,765 --> 00:17:52,645 depression and anxiety, it allows me to move 349 00:17:52,645 --> 00:17:55,565 through this process with so much ease 350 00:17:55,625 --> 00:17:59,105 and allows me to be in it, but also to zoom out 351 00:17:59,245 --> 00:18:00,305 and see the bigger picture. 352 00:18:01,525 --> 00:18:05,845 So when I was in Palm Springs feeling those pangs of, of, 353 00:18:06,225 --> 00:18:08,925 uh, of yesterday and, 354 00:18:09,305 --> 00:18:12,125 and still those parts of me that are still holding on 355 00:18:12,945 --> 00:18:14,005 to the past and, 356 00:18:14,005 --> 00:18:17,405 and holding on was actually creating some pain 357 00:18:17,425 --> 00:18:21,645 and suffering, I am, I'm better able, more equipped 358 00:18:22,545 --> 00:18:24,685 to shift my focus. 359 00:18:24,755 --> 00:18:25,965 Like, what am I gonna focus on? 360 00:18:25,965 --> 00:18:28,045 Am I gonna focus on yesterday 361 00:18:28,105 --> 00:18:30,125 or am I gonna focus on the fact that I'm walking 362 00:18:30,125 --> 00:18:32,605 around Palm Springs in West Elm? 363 00:18:32,825 --> 00:18:35,285 Oh, look at all the beautiful things. It's so nice. 364 00:18:35,705 --> 00:18:37,965 Oh, I could, I could buy that pillow if I want to. 365 00:18:38,165 --> 00:18:40,645 I can bring that pillow to my new home and, 366 00:18:40,865 --> 00:18:43,805 and make my new home, um, mine 367 00:18:44,465 --> 00:18:47,205 and to get more settled into nest and, 368 00:18:47,825 --> 00:18:50,005 and wow, what an amazing future I'm building 369 00:18:50,065 --> 00:18:51,485 for myself in this new home. 370 00:18:52,145 --> 00:18:53,285 So being present 371 00:18:54,025 --> 00:18:56,005 and then also being forward focused, 372 00:18:56,605 --> 00:18:59,455 honoring the past, so important. 373 00:18:59,645 --> 00:19:01,775 Yeah. And, and in the meantime, I'm in the, 374 00:19:02,075 --> 00:19:05,655 all the while I'm just learning more about myself 375 00:19:06,515 --> 00:19:09,575 and finding more things about myself to love 376 00:19:10,555 --> 00:19:13,455 and respect, because it takes a lot of strength 377 00:19:13,515 --> 00:19:15,295 and courage to do what we're talking about. 378 00:19:15,295 --> 00:19:16,295 Right? 379 00:19:17,215 --> 00:19:20,375 - Absolutely. And I think, again, like you such a good point 380 00:19:21,155 --> 00:19:23,095 to say, you know, we're, we are not trying 381 00:19:23,095 --> 00:19:24,455 to bypass anything. 382 00:19:24,845 --> 00:19:27,135 It's so important to be where we are. 383 00:19:28,035 --> 00:19:31,455 And there's a lot of like, heal this, healing 384 00:19:31,605 --> 00:19:34,375 that out there, you know, in the internet world 385 00:19:34,555 --> 00:19:36,695 and everywhere nowadays, like, be positive, 386 00:19:36,695 --> 00:19:41,255 but you can't, you can't jump from that feeling of sadness 387 00:19:41,475 --> 00:19:45,135 or depression or feeling stuck to like, just feeling happy. 388 00:19:46,195 --> 00:19:48,295 You have to taking that action 389 00:19:48,355 --> 00:19:50,575 and you have to, I think healing happens 390 00:19:51,485 --> 00:19:54,615 when we meet our heart where it is, you know, 391 00:19:54,645 --> 00:19:55,695 that is the one step. 392 00:19:56,635 --> 00:20:00,015 So like, meeting our hearts where we are, 393 00:20:00,395 --> 00:20:04,615 and just again, accepting you, accept it, you're you that 394 00:20:04,615 --> 00:20:06,575 what you were just describing, you're like, 395 00:20:07,145 --> 00:20:08,455 let's accept a reality. 396 00:20:08,885 --> 00:20:12,055 Here we are. There's a bit of anxiety, a bit of depression, 397 00:20:12,075 --> 00:20:16,095 and it's so normal for me to go through divorce and change 398 00:20:16,275 --> 00:20:20,175 and, and experience all these emotional ups and downs. 399 00:20:20,245 --> 00:20:22,735 Like, we're all human, we're gonna experience that. 400 00:20:23,275 --> 00:20:26,255 Let us accept it. Let us see that this is where we are. 401 00:20:27,155 --> 00:20:29,375 But that this is not where we end up. 402 00:20:29,405 --> 00:20:32,135 Like it, it's so important to remember 403 00:20:32,135 --> 00:20:33,815 that this is just temporary. 404 00:20:34,405 --> 00:20:37,095 Just like looking back at your life, like 405 00:20:37,155 --> 00:20:38,735 how many changes have you gone through? 406 00:20:38,955 --> 00:20:42,015 How many, you know, obstacles have you overcome? 407 00:20:42,405 --> 00:20:44,935 This too shall pass. It really will. 408 00:20:45,395 --> 00:20:48,565 And while you're in this place of stuckness, I think one 409 00:20:48,565 --> 00:20:52,125 of the things that I do is when everything else 410 00:20:52,645 --> 00:20:57,165 I can't see clearly, I kind of look at the people 411 00:20:57,305 --> 00:20:58,445 who are holding the light. 412 00:20:58,835 --> 00:21:02,485 Like the people that I want to become, the people 413 00:21:02,545 --> 00:21:06,525 who have gone through maybe what I've got I'm going through, 414 00:21:06,705 --> 00:21:09,325 or they have gone through their own hardships 415 00:21:09,825 --> 00:21:12,405 and they've come through on the other side 416 00:21:12,405 --> 00:21:13,965 and they have the things I want, 417 00:21:14,395 --> 00:21:16,485 that they are living lives that I want. 418 00:21:16,945 --> 00:21:20,125 And I look at that and I go, okay, they did that. 419 00:21:20,405 --> 00:21:21,885 I can do it too. You know? 420 00:21:22,065 --> 00:21:25,605 And kind of like reverse engineer that into my own life. 421 00:21:26,465 --> 00:21:30,265 And just understanding that, um, 422 00:21:30,495 --> 00:21:32,345 holding the light for others, 423 00:21:32,535 --> 00:21:36,705 like if you think you are going through the most amount 424 00:21:36,705 --> 00:21:38,745 of hardship, first of all, you're not alone. 425 00:21:39,165 --> 00:21:40,985 And secondly, be sure 426 00:21:41,895 --> 00:21:44,665 that once this temporary thing is done, 427 00:21:45,645 --> 00:21:48,385 you are delight in someone's someone's life. 428 00:21:48,385 --> 00:21:51,305 Because if you are going through depression, if you're going 429 00:21:51,305 --> 00:21:54,185 through divorce, if you are healing from a disease, 430 00:21:54,805 --> 00:21:57,225 if you have lost weight, if you have, 431 00:21:57,225 --> 00:21:59,625 you're the only one graduating from university, 432 00:21:59,625 --> 00:22:03,105 from your family, if you sold a home 433 00:22:03,125 --> 00:22:06,425 and moved, you are holding the light 434 00:22:06,645 --> 00:22:09,265 for all the other people that might be stuck now. 435 00:22:09,525 --> 00:22:12,585 And they can look at you and be like, Steven did it. 436 00:22:13,505 --> 00:22:16,425 I can do it. He got through it so I can get through it. 437 00:22:16,765 --> 00:22:18,825 And so understanding that this, 438 00:22:18,825 --> 00:22:22,305 that they might not be today, but this is a process 439 00:22:22,685 --> 00:22:23,905 and you will get there too. 440 00:22:24,805 --> 00:22:28,025 - So true. You made me think of my experience in recovery, 441 00:22:28,195 --> 00:22:29,785 going to recovery meetings 442 00:22:29,885 --> 00:22:33,305 and being someone many years ago, being someone 443 00:22:33,365 --> 00:22:36,305 who was very new to the process, new to sobriety 444 00:22:36,365 --> 00:22:38,665 and what have you, not knowing how to do it, 445 00:22:38,665 --> 00:22:41,305 but I'm sitting in a room full of people who've done 446 00:22:41,305 --> 00:22:42,545 that, who've done it Mm-Hmm. 447 00:22:42,585 --> 00:22:43,625 for various amounts of time. 448 00:22:43,765 --> 00:22:46,825 And it's like, oh, wow, look for the people who have 449 00:22:47,295 --> 00:22:51,385 what I want, because they are, they are that light. 450 00:22:51,925 --> 00:22:55,985 And they have a clear map as to what worked for them 451 00:22:56,845 --> 00:22:59,185 in order to go from where they were, which is very similar 452 00:22:59,205 --> 00:23:01,145 to where I was, to where they are now. 453 00:23:01,845 --> 00:23:05,225 And just follow, take what you need and leave the rest, 454 00:23:05,365 --> 00:23:06,385 but follow, 455 00:23:07,085 --> 00:23:08,505 and you too will move from 456 00:23:08,505 --> 00:23:10,105 where you are to where you wanna be. 457 00:23:10,765 --> 00:23:13,425 So I, I love just being reminded of that, 458 00:23:13,425 --> 00:23:14,465 that's so important. 459 00:23:15,265 --> 00:23:17,825 I think what also comes to mind too, from listening 460 00:23:17,825 --> 00:23:20,705 to you is just how as we move through this process, 461 00:23:20,885 --> 00:23:24,905 we eventually find a sense of neutrality when it comes to 462 00:23:26,365 --> 00:23:28,775 reflections on memories and, and, 463 00:23:28,835 --> 00:23:31,175 and such that we, we start to look at it with, 464 00:23:31,175 --> 00:23:35,455 from a more neutral standpoint, so that it doesn't have 465 00:23:35,485 --> 00:23:40,295 that same kind of charge when we think about yesterday, 466 00:23:40,405 --> 00:23:42,975 when we think about that person that plays that thing 467 00:23:43,005 --> 00:23:46,725 that doesn't have the same role in our life today 468 00:23:46,725 --> 00:23:47,965 that it had yesterday. 469 00:23:48,945 --> 00:23:51,365 And I think that's just an incredible place 470 00:23:51,385 --> 00:23:53,085 to eventually get to. 471 00:23:53,105 --> 00:23:55,765 And it's just like that quote I mentioned earlier, you know, 472 00:23:55,865 --> 00:23:58,205 it takes courage, but there's an incredible amount 473 00:23:58,205 --> 00:24:00,725 of freedom when we start to accept the things 474 00:24:00,725 --> 00:24:03,685 that we really can't change, you know? 475 00:24:03,715 --> 00:24:05,765 Yeah. You find the courage to just accept 476 00:24:05,785 --> 00:24:09,365 and move from this place of like, oh, I, I can't, 477 00:24:09,365 --> 00:24:11,125 this thing has happened, I can't change it. 478 00:24:11,345 --> 00:24:14,585 Now what? Now what? Yeah. How do I live? 479 00:24:14,805 --> 00:24:18,065 How do I live fully in this new phase of my life? 480 00:24:19,045 --> 00:24:20,465 Uh, mm-Hmm. with that knowledge. 481 00:24:21,365 --> 00:24:23,625 And there, there is a way, there is a way. 482 00:24:24,505 --> 00:24:28,505 I love how you've also talked to me about how what helps us 483 00:24:28,605 --> 00:24:33,265 to, to move forward is just by tapping into the five senses. 484 00:24:34,045 --> 00:24:34,945 Mm-Hmm. , can you 485 00:24:34,945 --> 00:24:36,025 talk, can you talk more about that? 486 00:24:36,735 --> 00:24:37,785 - Yeah, absolutely. 487 00:24:37,885 --> 00:24:42,025 And I think that, um, again, going back 488 00:24:42,025 --> 00:24:43,065 to the critter brain 489 00:24:43,405 --> 00:24:46,385 and how it freaks out, um, 490 00:24:46,495 --> 00:24:49,945 sometimes we could do all the talk therapy in the world 491 00:24:50,565 --> 00:24:54,145 and it take, it works, but it takes so long, you know? 492 00:24:54,145 --> 00:24:57,585 Yeah. And the reason why it takes so long is 493 00:24:57,585 --> 00:25:01,465 because we're only tapping into our logical brain. 494 00:25:01,965 --> 00:25:06,265 And I think that the link between the logical brain 495 00:25:06,445 --> 00:25:09,305 and the limbic brain, which is just like, you know, 496 00:25:09,415 --> 00:25:12,865 only feels and, and remembers with feeling 497 00:25:13,085 --> 00:25:14,825 and remembers with the body 498 00:25:14,975 --> 00:25:17,465 because, you know, our body remembers everything. 499 00:25:18,165 --> 00:25:21,265 Um, like the book, the Body Keeps the Score, 500 00:25:21,335 --> 00:25:24,185 like it's such a fantastic book by Dr. 501 00:25:24,685 --> 00:25:28,265 Vander Cook. And it's like, um, it's like, 502 00:25:28,445 --> 00:25:30,785 how can we bring the two together? 503 00:25:31,085 --> 00:25:35,225 And I think that's what, um, that's the kind 504 00:25:35,225 --> 00:25:37,945 of like why I created the program that I created. 505 00:25:38,135 --> 00:25:41,665 It's like, okay, all these women are coming to me, 506 00:25:41,685 --> 00:25:43,705 or men are coming to me to heal, 507 00:25:44,845 --> 00:25:49,145 but, um, it's taking forever If we do the therapy way 508 00:25:49,605 --> 00:25:51,145 or with their body. 509 00:25:51,165 --> 00:25:53,185 And if we're only focused on the Ayurvedic 510 00:25:53,185 --> 00:25:55,025 stuff, that's good too. 511 00:25:55,325 --> 00:25:57,745 But it's like, how can we melt the two together? 512 00:25:58,525 --> 00:26:01,225 And it's when you drop into your body 513 00:26:01,645 --> 00:26:03,345 and how do we drop to our bodies? 514 00:26:04,135 --> 00:26:07,465 It's like our body, the only way that our sharia, 515 00:26:07,605 --> 00:26:11,785 our physical body has to communicate with the outside world. 516 00:26:12,125 --> 00:26:14,505 Our, our soul is somewhere inside of here. 517 00:26:14,725 --> 00:26:17,065 And the only way that it can communicate 518 00:26:17,085 --> 00:26:20,745 and connect to the outside world is our five sense organs. 519 00:26:21,005 --> 00:26:24,745 So it's a tool that we have been given to connect, 520 00:26:24,925 --> 00:26:27,225 to communicate, to remember, 521 00:26:27,885 --> 00:26:31,345 and there's something magical happens when we, 522 00:26:32,205 --> 00:26:36,305 we are in the process of creating new memory memories 523 00:26:36,445 --> 00:26:39,825 and linking our, you know, the neurons in our brain 524 00:26:39,965 --> 00:26:44,405 and creating new pathways when we bring our sense against 525 00:26:44,425 --> 00:26:48,485 to it, it's like, um, if you wanna create a new memory 526 00:26:48,555 --> 00:26:53,445 that becomes core memory, imagine what your eyes can see at 527 00:26:53,445 --> 00:26:55,925 that moment and have a plan of 528 00:26:55,925 --> 00:26:57,725 what your eyes are seeing at that moment. 529 00:26:58,045 --> 00:27:01,695 I just had one of those moments where I was like driving 530 00:27:02,515 --> 00:27:06,055 on the like, really, um, bad roads in Costa Rica, 531 00:27:06,675 --> 00:27:09,015 and the girls and their friends are in my car 532 00:27:09,035 --> 00:27:11,375 and they have like their arms out and they're like, ah, 533 00:27:11,635 --> 00:27:13,895 and the dog is going crazy in the back 534 00:27:14,035 --> 00:27:15,975 and we're listening to this nice music. 535 00:27:16,235 --> 00:27:19,055 And there was like a mist on the road 536 00:27:19,555 --> 00:27:21,095 and everything's green. 537 00:27:21,235 --> 00:27:23,975 And I was like, core memory created 538 00:27:23,975 --> 00:27:27,855 because I literally wanted to remember what I smelled, 539 00:27:28,085 --> 00:27:30,215 what I could hear, what I could see, 540 00:27:30,765 --> 00:27:32,415 what I could taste in my mouth, 541 00:27:32,915 --> 00:27:34,935 how did my body feel at that moment. 542 00:27:35,755 --> 00:27:39,335 And boom, I'm creating a new pathway in my brain. 543 00:27:39,515 --> 00:27:42,655 And you can do that like with like, the practices, 544 00:27:42,755 --> 00:27:44,495 the practices that you teach Steven. 545 00:27:44,725 --> 00:27:48,935 It's like if people can bring in their five sense organs, 546 00:27:49,325 --> 00:27:52,935 there's gonna be so much transformation done 547 00:27:52,935 --> 00:27:55,175 because you're reconnecting to your body. 548 00:27:55,995 --> 00:27:57,335 And it's like, yes, every kind 549 00:27:57,455 --> 00:28:01,255 of exercise works like getting out there and moving works. 550 00:28:01,915 --> 00:28:03,935 But in my personal experience 551 00:28:03,955 --> 00:28:06,415 and what I see in my clinical practice, 552 00:28:07,365 --> 00:28:09,895 when we mindfully go inside 553 00:28:10,235 --> 00:28:14,055 and we do things mindfully, like something like, you know, 554 00:28:14,435 --> 00:28:19,335 ong or Tai chi or yoga and, um, mindful practices 555 00:28:19,435 --> 00:28:22,375 or dances that we are really kind of meditating 556 00:28:22,395 --> 00:28:26,015 as we are moving, um, those are the things 557 00:28:26,015 --> 00:28:28,855 that even in a short time creates 558 00:28:29,455 --> 00:28:31,695 a really huge impact on our mind 559 00:28:32,005 --> 00:28:36,335 because the body is now getting the message of, okay, 560 00:28:36,895 --> 00:28:38,375 I guess we're like somewhere new. 561 00:28:38,425 --> 00:28:42,095 We're experiencing new things and we are really enjoying it. 562 00:28:42,315 --> 00:28:44,055 And I wanna say one more thing about this, 563 00:28:44,055 --> 00:28:46,575 because people get scared of like how, 564 00:28:46,755 --> 00:28:48,455 how many like bad thoughts they have 565 00:28:48,555 --> 00:28:51,295 or that they're stuck in fear and anxiety. 566 00:28:52,125 --> 00:28:53,975 That stuff is invaded in us 567 00:28:53,975 --> 00:28:56,855 because our ancestors had to survive in the cave, you know, 568 00:28:56,875 --> 00:28:58,575 and they had to, they had 569 00:28:58,575 --> 00:29:01,895 to really like watch out if the bears coming to eat them. 570 00:29:02,075 --> 00:29:03,775 So that stuff is generation 571 00:29:03,775 --> 00:29:05,815 after generation stuck in our mind. 572 00:29:06,605 --> 00:29:09,415 It's strong. However, when we 573 00:29:10,205 --> 00:29:14,975 refocus on the joyful stuff, because we haven't done it 574 00:29:14,975 --> 00:29:16,775 because our ancestors is something new, 575 00:29:17,595 --> 00:29:20,135 and if we bring the five sense organs into that, 576 00:29:21,625 --> 00:29:24,485 the power is a thousand times more than 577 00:29:24,585 --> 00:29:26,085 any negative thought you would have. 578 00:29:26,505 --> 00:29:29,445 So that's where like, I don't know if you've heard 579 00:29:29,505 --> 00:29:32,885 of the new like term glimmers come in, it's like, yeah, 580 00:29:33,005 --> 00:29:36,125 glimmers are like the opposite of dimmers. 581 00:29:36,275 --> 00:29:38,805 Like just taking one little thing 582 00:29:38,805 --> 00:29:41,130 that is happening at this moment, like it can be be 583 00:29:41,130 --> 00:29:45,385 that the sun is shining on my skin and I just really pause 584 00:29:45,645 --> 00:29:48,825 and I just feel like, oh my God, this moment I'm talking 585 00:29:48,965 --> 00:29:50,945 to Steven, like, this is a dream. 586 00:29:51,855 --> 00:29:53,705 I've worked so hard to get to this point 587 00:29:53,705 --> 00:29:56,345 where I can talk about the stuff that is my truth 588 00:29:57,205 --> 00:29:59,425 and the sun, and then, you know, 589 00:29:59,585 --> 00:30:01,425 everything else in the background, wow, 590 00:30:02,095 --> 00:30:03,585 this becomes a glimmer 591 00:30:03,925 --> 00:30:06,505 and then my body starts creating serotonin 592 00:30:06,505 --> 00:30:08,225 and alpha I go for the rest of the day. 593 00:30:08,445 --> 00:30:11,785 So , it is in the little things Yeah. 594 00:30:12,055 --> 00:30:13,385 That we can create that, 595 00:30:14,045 --> 00:30:15,345 - That's so great and it's great. 596 00:30:15,345 --> 00:30:16,345 It's the little things. 597 00:30:16,665 --> 00:30:20,025 I think oftentimes when we have what we consider 598 00:30:20,025 --> 00:30:22,865 to be a big problem, we think that the solutions have 599 00:30:22,865 --> 00:30:23,865 to be big solutions. 600 00:30:23,925 --> 00:30:27,825 And sometimes it's the little things that are so impactful, 601 00:30:27,965 --> 00:30:30,705 the things that we really participate in every day, 602 00:30:30,705 --> 00:30:31,785 but we don't pay attention to. 603 00:30:31,805 --> 00:30:35,385 We take it for granted. But when we add mindfulness to it, 604 00:30:36,015 --> 00:30:37,865 what a what a what a transformation. 605 00:30:38,585 --> 00:30:40,065 I think it'd be great if we can offer 606 00:30:40,635 --> 00:30:44,945 folks certain practices that they can use to help themselves 607 00:30:45,165 --> 00:30:49,085 to let go, to move beyond the fear of letting go. 608 00:30:49,925 --> 00:30:53,085 I would like to offer a few, uh, Qigong things, 609 00:30:53,145 --> 00:30:54,685 and then I invite you to, 610 00:30:54,825 --> 00:30:57,805 to share some Ayurvedic tools as well. 611 00:30:58,705 --> 00:31:00,285 Um, one of the things 612 00:31:00,285 --> 00:31:02,765 that I use oftentimes when I'm holding onto something 613 00:31:02,765 --> 00:31:05,565 that I need to let go of is I shake, I shake my body. 614 00:31:05,785 --> 00:31:07,845 So while we're sitting right here, uh, 615 00:31:07,895 --> 00:31:10,165 place the hands out in front of you with a palms facing down 616 00:31:10,985 --> 00:31:12,885 and just shake out your wrists. 617 00:31:15,195 --> 00:31:18,825 And as you do so, just breathe in deeply in this inhale 618 00:31:18,825 --> 00:31:22,125 through the nose, exhale out through your mouth. 619 00:31:25,775 --> 00:31:29,805 And again, deep breath in, deep breath out. 620 00:31:32,605 --> 00:31:36,795 Now let's turn the palms to face up to the same thing. 621 00:31:37,665 --> 00:31:40,875 Deep breath in, deep breath 622 00:31:40,975 --> 00:31:45,055 out, deep breath in. 623 00:31:47,135 --> 00:31:50,425 Deep breath out. Each shake 624 00:31:50,425 --> 00:31:51,785 and each breath you're letting go 625 00:31:51,785 --> 00:31:53,065 of something you're holding onto 626 00:31:53,845 --> 00:31:55,265 that's no longer serving you. 627 00:31:56,945 --> 00:31:59,325 And then slow it down. Slow it down 628 00:32:01,695 --> 00:32:03,585 till you come to a point of stillness. 629 00:32:06,945 --> 00:32:11,515 And just feel the sensations in your hands. 630 00:32:11,535 --> 00:32:13,235 Notice the, maybe a buzzing 631 00:32:13,235 --> 00:32:14,915 or tingling sensation in your hands, 632 00:32:17,955 --> 00:32:19,575 and that is your life force energy. 633 00:32:21,675 --> 00:32:23,375 And the hands are great transmitters 634 00:32:23,375 --> 00:32:24,415 and receivers of energy. 635 00:32:25,485 --> 00:32:28,645 Just bring the hands just a few inches apart, 636 00:32:29,135 --> 00:32:30,165 palms facing each other. 637 00:32:30,985 --> 00:32:33,405 And just see if you can feel the energy between your hands. 638 00:32:36,445 --> 00:32:38,385 And then allow the hands to separate a bit. 639 00:32:38,385 --> 00:32:40,845 And imagine that energy between your hands is expanding, 640 00:32:43,175 --> 00:32:45,035 and then when the hands move closer to one another, 641 00:32:45,035 --> 00:32:47,315 that energy is contracting and condensing, 642 00:32:52,445 --> 00:32:54,895 just again, tuning into your own energy 643 00:32:56,785 --> 00:32:57,765 in the present moment, 644 00:33:02,415 --> 00:33:03,295 applying your senses. 645 00:33:10,465 --> 00:33:13,325 And now I invite you, as you play with this ball 646 00:33:13,325 --> 00:33:16,445 of energy in front of you, I invite you to think about 647 00:33:17,555 --> 00:33:20,365 something that you want to draw into your life. 648 00:33:21,835 --> 00:33:24,165 Just one thing that you, that you feel like you need 649 00:33:24,165 --> 00:33:25,485 and you want to draw it into your life 650 00:33:25,545 --> 00:33:28,325 and come up with one word to represent that. 651 00:33:32,895 --> 00:33:36,575 And then once you have that word, remember it. 652 00:33:37,775 --> 00:33:42,685 And now think about the thing that might stand in the way 653 00:33:42,685 --> 00:33:45,665 of you bringing that into your life. 654 00:33:45,805 --> 00:33:49,005 It might be an obstacle of sorts. 655 00:33:49,065 --> 00:33:51,845 And, and if you can think about that one word 656 00:33:51,845 --> 00:33:54,285 that represents that, that thing that you want to release 657 00:33:54,305 --> 00:33:57,365 and let go of that's no longer serving you. 658 00:34:02,265 --> 00:34:04,605 And then once you have those two words, I want you 659 00:34:04,605 --> 00:34:06,645 to take a nice deep breath in through your nose. 660 00:34:06,745 --> 00:34:09,645 And as you inhale, imagine yourself drawing in more of 661 00:34:09,645 --> 00:34:12,085 what it is that you need or want for yourself. 662 00:34:14,375 --> 00:34:15,835 And then exhale out through your mouth 663 00:34:15,855 --> 00:34:18,555 and release that thing that stands in the way that you need 664 00:34:18,555 --> 00:34:18,955 to release 665 00:34:23,755 --> 00:34:24,245 this time. 666 00:34:24,305 --> 00:34:27,285 As you inhale, draw your palms of your hands facing you, 667 00:34:27,675 --> 00:34:28,885 draw it in towards your heart. 668 00:34:32,665 --> 00:34:35,365 And then as you exhale, turn the palms away from you forward 669 00:34:35,545 --> 00:34:39,085 and press the palms away from you releasing 670 00:34:39,085 --> 00:34:40,285 what no longer serves you. 671 00:34:42,135 --> 00:34:43,835 Inhale, palms face, you gather, 672 00:34:48,565 --> 00:34:49,345 and then exhale. 673 00:34:49,435 --> 00:34:51,465 Palms face away, gently release. 674 00:34:59,465 --> 00:35:02,915 Just do this a few more times your own pace. 675 00:35:10,245 --> 00:35:11,655 It's called breath prayers. 676 00:35:27,225 --> 00:35:29,005 And then place your hands right over your heart. 677 00:35:33,555 --> 00:35:34,725 Just breathe into your heart, 678 00:35:46,405 --> 00:35:49,055 just bringing more love and kindness 679 00:35:49,275 --> 00:35:50,775 and compassion for yourself 680 00:35:51,995 --> 00:35:53,215 as you move through this process. 681 00:36:04,355 --> 00:36:05,645 Arms down and relax. 682 00:36:10,885 --> 00:36:14,915 - Beautiful. Thank you so much, Steven. 683 00:36:15,065 --> 00:36:17,715 That was so, Hmm. 684 00:36:17,995 --> 00:36:21,315 I could feel the tingling prma flowing 685 00:36:21,915 --> 00:36:22,915 - . 686 00:36:23,185 --> 00:36:25,555 Yeah. It doesn't take much to shift, right? 687 00:36:26,655 --> 00:36:30,625 - No, it totally, I feel the shift. 688 00:36:31,775 --> 00:36:36,385 Um, and I think that that's, um, goes 689 00:36:36,385 --> 00:36:40,025 with like the concept of, you know, when we're in change 690 00:36:40,205 --> 00:36:42,065 and in unknown times 691 00:36:42,325 --> 00:36:45,865 and territory, really, our Vata goes crazy 692 00:36:46,125 --> 00:36:48,185 and Vata is air and ether element. 693 00:36:48,485 --> 00:36:52,225 And the air element when it goes crazy creates a tornado 694 00:36:52,535 --> 00:36:55,065 that feels like we're out of, out of, 695 00:36:55,065 --> 00:36:56,305 it's out of our control. 696 00:36:56,365 --> 00:36:57,665 Our life is out of our control, 697 00:36:57,765 --> 00:36:59,785 our thoughts are out of con our control. 698 00:37:00,525 --> 00:37:04,745 And so sometimes, uh, anxiety could feel like that. 699 00:37:05,285 --> 00:37:07,145 And then we go between anxiety 700 00:37:07,885 --> 00:37:11,505 and depression, which is that state of Thomas, it's like up 701 00:37:11,685 --> 00:37:12,865 and down, up and down. 702 00:37:12,885 --> 00:37:15,545 And we forget that balance of that 703 00:37:15,575 --> 00:37:18,025 between balance of clarity 704 00:37:18,365 --> 00:37:21,145 and a like simple practice like that. 705 00:37:22,045 --> 00:37:24,385 Wow. And even I would just say, 706 00:37:24,415 --> 00:37:28,625 even if you don't feel like it, just force yourself for now 707 00:37:28,625 --> 00:37:32,385 to do this one action to like get up, 708 00:37:33,045 --> 00:37:36,585 get yourself on Steven's channel and do this one action. 709 00:37:36,585 --> 00:37:39,865 Like it can be 10 minutes, but do the action. 710 00:37:40,005 --> 00:37:42,665 Get yourself to go out and go for a walk 711 00:37:42,765 --> 00:37:44,625 and really feel your sense organ 712 00:37:44,645 --> 00:37:49,025 and like if you live near nature, like really bathing 713 00:37:50,115 --> 00:37:52,785 every element of nature into your body, 714 00:37:53,365 --> 00:37:56,185 but just force yourself to take that one action, 715 00:37:56,715 --> 00:37:58,625 especially first thing in the morning. 716 00:37:59,715 --> 00:38:04,245 Because if first thing in the morning, we really take hold 717 00:38:04,245 --> 00:38:08,605 of our Vata, which could go crazy as soon as we take hold 718 00:38:08,605 --> 00:38:12,325 of it and we redirect it in a way 719 00:38:12,325 --> 00:38:14,165 that circulates in our favor. 720 00:38:15,065 --> 00:38:16,325 Now we have prana. 721 00:38:16,785 --> 00:38:20,685 You see, now we created like if we had like jittery 722 00:38:21,265 --> 00:38:24,965 or it's kind of like energy that was out of our control, 723 00:38:25,025 --> 00:38:27,005 or maybe we were nervous as we were talking to each other. 724 00:38:27,305 --> 00:38:30,445 And I felt like literally that turning in 725 00:38:30,465 --> 00:38:33,005 and shifting into prana, how beautiful 726 00:38:33,115 --> 00:38:34,845 with one simple exercise. 727 00:38:36,025 --> 00:38:39,645 And, um, so I think that what I can offer 728 00:38:40,745 --> 00:38:44,805 our audiences is, um, maybe doing a psych, 729 00:38:45,605 --> 00:38:48,285 a physical reset as well for that Vata. 730 00:38:48,345 --> 00:38:52,045 And that's where, um, I have created like this reset 731 00:38:52,105 --> 00:38:55,405 for the gut and the brain, which is physical, 732 00:38:55,405 --> 00:38:59,005 but it also has all the little things that you can add so 733 00:38:59,005 --> 00:39:01,165 that it can support you in this reset. 734 00:39:01,165 --> 00:39:03,525 And this is a really great season for that 735 00:39:03,525 --> 00:39:07,085 because the times that the seasons are shifting according 736 00:39:07,105 --> 00:39:10,725 to Ayurveda, because the elements outside of our shifting, 737 00:39:10,905 --> 00:39:13,565 the environment is shifting the same thing's happening 738 00:39:13,705 --> 00:39:16,645 inside of us and things are shifting inside of us as well. 739 00:39:17,025 --> 00:39:19,525 And so it's a great time to do that reset, 740 00:39:19,545 --> 00:39:22,645 and I'm offering that to your listeners 741 00:39:22,865 --> 00:39:26,365 and everyone who's watching this and in the link below. 742 00:39:26,465 --> 00:39:28,765 So hopefully that will be helpful for them. 743 00:39:29,815 --> 00:39:31,915 - That's so great. Oh my goodness, 744 00:39:31,985 --> 00:39:34,195 what an amazing conversation we've just had. 745 00:39:34,675 --> 00:39:37,115 , I could, I could sit here all day and and, 746 00:39:37,115 --> 00:39:40,555 and talk to you and talk about all things, uh, energy 747 00:39:41,135 --> 00:39:42,835 and um, and wellness. 748 00:39:43,565 --> 00:39:47,595 Thank you so much Paris for taking the time out 749 00:39:47,655 --> 00:39:50,435 to have this meaningful conversation with me. 750 00:39:50,905 --> 00:39:54,275 Tell people how they can get in touch with you, 751 00:39:55,335 --> 00:39:57,835 tap into your work, let them know. 752 00:39:58,665 --> 00:40:00,755 - Yeah, thank you so much for that too. 753 00:40:00,935 --> 00:40:05,755 Um, the, I would be happy to again share, um, 754 00:40:06,215 --> 00:40:09,755 the PDF below and for people to visit the website. 755 00:40:09,755 --> 00:40:12,955 It's just my first and last name, paris mcteer.com. 756 00:40:13,335 --> 00:40:16,515 And, um, what I've, I'm doing these days 757 00:40:16,655 --> 00:40:19,595 and what I took the time in the, during the pandemic 758 00:40:19,695 --> 00:40:24,515 and created is a pillar that, um, a course that consists 759 00:40:24,515 --> 00:40:25,555 of 12 pillars. 760 00:40:26,135 --> 00:40:30,515 And each pillar takes us through something really important 761 00:40:30,655 --> 00:40:34,195 and empowering in our life, whether it's our physical body, 762 00:40:34,615 --> 00:40:37,075 our emotional body, or our spirit. 763 00:40:37,265 --> 00:40:39,635 Because really health does not happen. 764 00:40:39,895 --> 00:40:43,835 Health or sswaha in Aveda happens only when the 765 00:40:43,835 --> 00:40:45,395 three are connected. 766 00:40:45,895 --> 00:40:48,595 So by, you know, I work with my clients, um, 767 00:40:48,825 --> 00:40:50,715 through the pillars in three months 768 00:40:50,775 --> 00:40:52,675 or six months, depending on the timeline 769 00:40:52,675 --> 00:40:54,115 that they, they need. 770 00:40:54,735 --> 00:40:57,835 And so there's a lot of transformation that happens. 771 00:40:58,255 --> 00:41:01,915 And I can say this to you because I see it all the time. 772 00:41:02,575 --> 00:41:06,475 So if you are in that stuck place, please, please know 773 00:41:06,785 --> 00:41:07,995 that this is temporary. 774 00:41:08,415 --> 00:41:10,395 You can get help, get support. 775 00:41:10,675 --> 00:41:12,595 I think that's one of the most important things. 776 00:41:12,725 --> 00:41:15,035 We're not designed like as human beings 777 00:41:15,255 --> 00:41:17,595 to do things on our own, to do everything on our own. 778 00:41:17,975 --> 00:41:19,875 We, we are designed to be tribes 779 00:41:19,895 --> 00:41:22,315 and we're designed to have help and support. 780 00:41:22,535 --> 00:41:24,515 And so get help 781 00:41:24,855 --> 00:41:27,595 and know that you, you will see the light. 782 00:41:28,025 --> 00:41:29,475 It's just doing the steps 783 00:41:29,535 --> 00:41:32,595 and let someone hold your hand, let someone hold the light 784 00:41:32,595 --> 00:41:34,725 for you as you go through the path. 785 00:41:35,545 --> 00:41:37,235 - Beautiful. Thank you so much. 786 00:41:37,375 --> 00:41:40,755 And for folks who want to tap into my work as well, go 787 00:41:40,755 --> 00:41:43,195 to my website, Stephen Washington experience.com, 788 00:41:43,645 --> 00:41:46,675 where you can find access to all the things that I offer, 789 00:41:46,675 --> 00:41:49,715 whether it's my SWE studio, my membership community 790 00:41:49,715 --> 00:41:54,035 for wellness or my online courses, my book Recovering You, 791 00:41:54,655 --> 00:41:57,395 but also my one-on-one sessions that I do with people 792 00:41:57,415 --> 00:42:00,715 to help people help themselves to empower themselves 793 00:42:00,715 --> 00:42:02,035 through mindfulness and movement. 794 00:42:03,705 --> 00:42:05,275 - Beautiful. - Beautiful. 795 00:42:05,385 --> 00:42:07,475 Have a wonderful rest of your day, Paris, 796 00:42:07,955 --> 00:42:09,275 everyone watching and listening. 797 00:42:10,045 --> 00:42:11,635 Enjoy your day and just know that 798 00:42:11,635 --> 00:42:13,195 where you are today is not necessarily 799 00:42:13,195 --> 00:42:15,395 where you're gonna be tomorrow. So 800 00:42:16,025 --> 00:42:17,025 - Amazing. 801 00:42:17,025 --> 00:42:19,515 Thank you, Steven. This has been so wonderful. 802 00:42:20,265 --> 00:42:24,715 - Beautiful. - If you enjoyed what you heard, 803 00:42:25,095 --> 00:42:26,195 please go ahead 804 00:42:26,215 --> 00:42:28,875 and subscribe, share with anyone 805 00:42:28,875 --> 00:42:31,315 that you think might benefit from the 806 00:42:31,315 --> 00:42:32,635 contents of this podcast. 807 00:42:33,815 --> 00:42:35,635 And in case that you're ready 808 00:42:35,655 --> 00:42:39,995 to embark on a personalized program with myself, 809 00:42:41,075 --> 00:42:43,115 together, we can create a roadmap 810 00:42:43,115 --> 00:42:47,435 through a unique 12 pillar program that I have created 811 00:42:48,225 --> 00:42:51,875 from 20 years of experience, um, 812 00:42:52,215 --> 00:42:56,075 for self-empowerment, understanding of childhood emotions, 813 00:42:56,345 --> 00:42:59,195 some scarra and total wellbeing. 814 00:43:00,075 --> 00:43:03,875 I have created this program for women like you 815 00:43:04,255 --> 00:43:07,795 who really want to go to their next level 816 00:43:08,015 --> 00:43:11,195 and they're willing to do the work to find out more. 817 00:43:11,855 --> 00:43:15,275 Go ahead and click below on the link to 818 00:43:16,025 --> 00:43:18,115 book a free 30 minute call with me 819 00:43:18,415 --> 00:43:20,435 and I can show you what the program's all about. 820 00:43:21,265 --> 00:43:21,795 I'll see you.